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My best friend is going through a very hard time and I am so concerned for her. I try to help when I can, but I don't know the answers to give her. I was hoping, just maybe, someone has been through a situation somewhat the same and could give opinions.
She is in her early 40s, has been married for 20 years and her hubby is in his mid 40s. She says that she still very much loves her husband and feels that he is her best friend, but she said they no longer have "passion." She said she recently started having feelings for a friend of theirs and the friend has mutual feelings for her. Her husband has made the comment to her that she seems happier around the friend and he has also made the comment that he also felt like the spark was gone in HER eyes. HE says he still loves her more than life itself, still wants her, etc., but he feels she has changed.
They do not argue or anything like that, she just feels stronger feelings, passion-wise, towards this other man than towards her husband. The other man is the same age as her, but much less mature. He is NOT financially stable, lives with his mother. He is a "free spirit" and does not even work a job! Her and her husband have two children together, who are fairly young. Her husband feels that if she has feelings for someone else, then maybe she should explore that. I know that he loves her very much and he is not saying this because he wants to explore, I KNOW he wants the best for her. Her husband also though tells her that this other man is not a good person, because of his lack of stability.
I told her that I think the other man's "free spirit" just takes her out of "housewife" mode and makes her feel younger and perhaps that is more of the attraction than the man himself. I honestly have never seen her attracted to that type of person. I also have not been married for 20 years and it really scares me that one day you can decide the person you married isn't enough.
Has anyone ever gone through something like this? I think she is too young for a midlife crisis right? I just feel really bad for her family and her children.
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