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I will try to make this short, sorry, just need an opinion. My mother-in-law, I do get along with her but she gossips like REALLy bad. She is always stirring up stuff in the family and extended family (She has 9 kids) and she doesn't mean harm, she is just bored. She is very healthy and has never worked or anything. I think she needs to get into some church groups or senior groups or something, but anyway.....my husband does not get along with his younger brother and has not gotten along with him for our 12 years of marriage. They don't throw blows or anything, he just lives his life with his family and we live ours. When my husband divorced his ex, his younger brother remained friends with her, which would have been fine, EXCEPT for the fact that she was an alcoholic and later became a drug addict and he remained friends with her when it caused a strain with his relatiionship with my husband, because of the child that was involved. It's just a lot of mess really.
So anyway, back to my MIL, she actually stirs up stuff between my husband and his younger brother when she gets bored, then she plays the...."Oh, I wish my two boys would get along with each other before I die" and calls the other 7 kids in the family to whine and carry on about how they don't get along. It's CRAZY!
Well, she keeps scheduling these "events" at her house that will only involve my husband and his younger brother, none of the other kids, because she wants to get them "back together" is what she says. The thing is my husband tells her and tells her that he is just not someone that he can get along with, he has no desire to hang out and socialize with him outside of family events. The younger brother feels the same way about him. But, she keeps on and on and on and it is to the point that it is straight out annoying for me. My oldest son is 12 years old and doesn't even know him as his uncle.....that is the extent of time we have been around him and he has never even tried to get to know my kids. I don't want him in our lives either.
Even though my husband tries to tell his mother this, she acts like they are 10 and she has to make them play well together and I'm tired of all of these planned AWKWARD meetings that she keeps setting up with them, so they will get along for a month, just to make momma happy, then here comes the drama, and it just isn't worth it.
So, I know 100% that my MIL will talk about me to no end for doing this, but I think this weekend at the "meeting" I am going to tell her to just stop this, that they don't get along, they are both fine with it, they are civil to each other at family meetings and all of this DRAMA that SHE creates with them needs to stop for the happiness of our family as well as happiness of his family as well. I know that she will call every family member and tell them how it is "my fault" that they don't get along, but at what age do you make her stop? My husband is 41 years old. He is plenty old enough to decide who he does or does not want in his life.
Would you speak to her or just let them keep "trying" to handle it, cause obviously she doesn't listen to my husband?
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