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May I please vent and get a few opinions on this? My husband works with a lady who developed a crush on him. I would not call my husband "flirty" but he is one of those people who are extremely nice all of the time and I could see myself even getting the wrong idea and maybe thinking he was flirting with me if I didn't know him. So, the lady he works with apparently developed a crush (we have been married 18 years) and she knows a mutual friend of mine and spoke about my husband to this friend, who in turn told me. Well, I asked my husband about it and he said he didn't intend to give her that impression and he would stop talking to her. Well, then I saw this woman at a mutual friend's house and I just confronted her about it. She got out of line and was rude to me. She told me that he was her "friend" and I had no say in it whatsoever, I couldn't stop them from being friends. I told her I wasn't concerned about a friendship, but when she is telling a friend of mine that she is trying to get a man that she knows is married to go out with her, and that man is my husband, I have an issue. She and I had a few more words and that was that.
So, at work my husband did stop "personal" talking with her, but he has to talk to her regarding work things and she thinks he did this because I have an issue and it irritates me. I mean, I do have an issue, but I expect him to have an issue as well. My husband tells ME that she is trouble and he doesn't want anything to do with her, but he doesn't tell HER that. She is just under the assumption that I have him on restriction from talking to her or something and it hurts me that my husband will not set her straight. Hubby says it is because they work together and I get that. I am not asking him to curse at her or anything, I am just simply asking that he tell her that she disrespected me and she talked in ways that disrespected our marriage and that HE doesn't appreciate that either. I just honestly can't get over the hurt and I can't make my husband understand. His philosopy is that as long as he doesn't talk to her outside of work it should be fine, but my thing is I just want her to know that he doesn't want to talk to her, it's not something I am forcing on him, because behind closed doors, he makes it perfectly clear that he doesn't want to talk to her.
Do I make any sense whatsoever and does anyone have any advice or am I just crazy these days?
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