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My DH and I have been having an ongoing argument about family obligations on the part of grown children. We are so invested in our points of view that we sometimes get almost hostile and have to stop the conversation.
His stand: Parents have the right to expect their grown children to help with house maintenance, upkeep, etc and that the children are letting them down if they are not available/offering. Gets angry when we have yardwork, etc that needs to be done and nobody is around to help.
My stand: Yes, we did raise them, but they never asked to be born, and if we haven't earned their love and concern, why should we expect them to come and work? I don't want any kids coming here, dreading it, because they "have to," and by "kids" I mean 40s and 30s (we do have two still at home in early 20s). I want them to come to us because they want to, not because they have to.
Is this just an excuse for me to not put any expectations on my kids? I feel that when they're grown they have their own lives and if their lives cross with ours, great, but if not, that's okay.
Any thoughts?
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