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If your husband said, are you going to eat

Posted: May 18, 2014

what would you think he meant? I had no breakfast, had a cup of coffee. It is almost 12 noon here and what he was talking about was my brunch which was 2 oranges. ;

I think he meant...SM - Old Anon

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he wanted you to share your oranges and give him one of them. Did you ask him what he meant?

He had just finished his breakfast which was - sweet potato and

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baked fish and he does not eat oranges. He did not want any of what I had.

Has he lost his mind or have you lost yours? - Looking for a fight?

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It's a beautiful Sunday in May. Get some fresh air after you finish your oranges.

Why read more into it than he may have meant. - It is a yes or no question

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Are you looking for trouble?

No, not looking for trouble. Am overweight and - trying to get my weight down

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and struggle with that. It made me feel as if I was overeating when in actuality nothing much at all.

Look up calories in oranges and inform him. - I figured it was a weight issue

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Not sure how to handle his question under the circumstances. Tell him two oranges is better than one orange, eggs, toast and bacon.

Is he overweight?

No, he is not overweight and does not - complain about mine

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It made me feel like I was overeating that's all.

You said he doesn't complain about your weight - Yet you think he .. SM

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May be trying to imply that you are overeating.

It sounds like you are insecure about your weight & many women are, even if they're only 5 to 10 lbs overweight.So it's possible youi being a lity overly sensitive; either that or we don't have all the details.

I Agree - JT

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It almost sounds like she's taunting him. But I think she's just too sensitive. If he's basically a good guy, I wouldn't go reading something horrible into what was probably a little teasing on his part.

If your feelings get hurt over what is probably just him teasing you, I think you need a little psychological help, actually. I'm not being mean, but your reaction is over the top for that comment and you're going to drive your husband nuts or out the door or something. I personally wouldn't stay with someone who made me feel like I have to walk on egg shells all the time.

It you are truly botherd - xx

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by what he said, ask him what he meant. Tell him you how what he said made you feel and start a conversation about how words can hurt because of the perceived agenda behind them. We don't know what he meant, but he does. Ask him.

I did ask and then he said I took it wrong - still do not know

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Just trying to say something? I could see if I had a big bowl of brownies or ice cream but 2 oranges cut up. When he said that, I felt like I had done something wrong in having 2 oranges for my brunch.

The guilt of being overweight is making you - overly sensitive

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Personally I am not crazy about oranges so 2 oranges seems a lot to eat at 1 sitting no matter what the calorie count is. You said your husband does not like oranges so maybe he feels the same way. Next time switch up and eat 1 orange and a grapefruit.

He sounds like a bully - xx

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making a snarky comment then claiming you "took it wrong" when you ask him what he meant. Sounds like he's sensed a vulnerability and is exploiting your sensitivity over your weight.

Spare me, please - see msg

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Oh, please. Words that hurt are calling someone a name or purposely being mean. Good grief, this doesn't fall into that category. Not every comment in a relationship has to be analyzed. And if the OP is hurt that easily or reads something into it that's not there, she needs therapy, not a dissection of the comment.

I think he was just making a playful somewhat sarcastic remark--2 oranges for brunch is not a lot of food, and he was probably teasing you.

I hope you don't read things into stuff all the time. You'll drive him nuts, out the door, or both.

If you can't take a little joke, teasing or ribbing from your partner, get some help.

Golly gee whiz - she just

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asked a question that was bothering her. I didn't know we had psychologists or psychiatrists on this board giving advice to seek treatment. Maybe she was just tired or they had an issue before the incident. She said she is trying to lose weight and one is sensitive about what they eat when doing that. Maybe, just maybe he was the insensitive one making that unnecessary comment instead of something that would be positive and encouraging for her. The last thing she needs is others to tell her what is wrong with her.

I agree, it sounded sarcastic, especially given - that she hadn't eaten anything

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My husband would probably make a remark too, if I weren't eating anything but a couple of oranges all day!

That was 2 oranges for brunch, not the total - intake for the day-NM

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Please see message - Anon

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If my husband asked that, I would think he's being a smart aleck because I overeat. My response would be either, "Yeah, do you have a problem with that?" or "Yeah, do you want some?"

If she married a bully - Then she should leave him

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We don't know what kind of man she married, she never told us. My husband and I tease each other all the time. I don't feel bullied by him.

OP, if you married a jerk, then leave him. If he's a good guy, then figure it out. He was probably teasing you.

You all marry jerks, then expect miracles. If your husband is not a jerk, then you all are way too sensitive to silly comments. It's pretty simple, actually. Figure it out. It's not complicated.

Gluttony perhaps - Critical? - Yes, I am going to eat every last bite

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I am single now but when I was with my husband, I made sure to be with a man who would not critique me when it came to food - it is one of the few things that bring us pleasure in life, at least me anyway.

So, I have a big appetite and have never been over 160, typically 130, but I can eat a lot at one sitting if I have not eaten all day. The last thing I want to hear is "are you going to eat ALL of that by yourself?"

Because, the answer would be,

" Oh yes, I am, every single bit hopefully, and since I pay for some of the bills, I'd appreciate it if you'd not shine a spotlight on the fact that I am very hungry right now and appear to be a gluttonous pig when it is far from the case."

Probably why you are single now - Sarcastic much?-NM

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xxx

Here's what I think - The oranges

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filled up the bowl and it really looked like a lot of fruit, and it probably confused him. If you had a sandwich and an orange, I do not think he would have said that. If he did, then you have a problem. Oranges are not fattening so I do not think he insulted you. I think it just looked like more fruit than you normally would eat.

Being reasonable - see msg

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I agree. We don't really know, but there are some real man haters on this board. The guy was probably just teasing his wife and she got sensitive.

Medication perhaps?

Bowl overloaded with oranges, could be true - because it was a smal bowl

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and it might have looked like a WHOLE big lot which it wasn't. I know 80 calories to an orange, 160 for the brunch. What you said makes sense.

I think he was being sarcastic, b/c you seem - to be starving yourself. nm

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I am by no means starving myself, that is an - ordinary meal for morning

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for me. I don't have a large appetite as I age. The day before was more than enough and it was: Two oranges for the morning, dinner was roast beef, serving of turnip greens and serving of cabbage and I was so full could not have eaten anything else. That evening meal was eaten out.

My home diet consists of either green beans, cabbage, greens either turnip or collards, baked sweet potatoes, squash, tomatoes and 1 meat each day. Nothing is fried. The vegetables have such low calories you can eat say 2 cups of each and still not have many calories so starving, nah, never.

My thought of eating 3 meals per day is just overload. I will say this, my thyroid is gone totally and the last time I went to the endocrinologist the values were totally off the scale as they are a lot of the time. My medication dosage varies with each visit it seems.

Eastern time is now 11:10 a.m. I last ate around 7 yesterday, have yet to eat anything, not because I am trying to not eat, just not hungry.

You eat very little. I really think he was - being sarcastic.

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Your diet consists mostly of vegetables and oranges. You're hardly getting any calories, even with 1 meat a day. I don't think your husband was being serious when he said "Are you going to eat all that." I think he was astounded by how little you actually do eat.

I only wish the intake of not many calories would - pull other that smaller person inside me

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You know, the one you were in your early 30s or even 40s? Went to the ortho the other day, having problem with my foot so he brings up about the weight. When I started to talk about my diet, then he said we don't have to get into all that. I think people sometimes look at obese people as them gorging on all fried, fatty foods, pies, cakes and the like. A diet such as mine is not a starvation diet but weight coming off now is not like in earlier years. BTW, I could not make it on the show, the 600 lb people, not anywhere that close but probably about 50 over where I should be.

That should be pull that other smaller person - got my words tangled up

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NM

I'm sorry about your difficulties and I understand. - sm

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I have a friend who is just like you--she eats really well but she keeps getting bigger. I wish she would get her thyroid checked because I KNOW she eats well and has for many years.

I would say what is the real - statement

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behind that question?

If you are really trying to lose weight, cut - sm

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out the meat for a while and replace it with beans or even tofu scramble. Meat is full of cholesterol and fat. All of the other things you are eating would not cause weight gain or the inability to lose weight. When I gave up meat, I had so much more energy and actually lost weight, mostly fat. I am very lean now.

Also, I think your husband was teasing you in a concerned way because all you were eating was oranges. My dad used to tease me like that when I was a kid and said I ate like a bird when I didn't want to eat a big meal like the rest of my family was eating.

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