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My husband yells at me sometimes....
Posted: Nov 7, 2009
Does anyone else have a husband who yells at you sometimes? My husband will yell and cuss at me if I forget to do something or don't do somethng he thinks should have been done. Like tonight, he called (he is a truck driver) and was close to home and asked me did I order his new cell phone last night. Well honestly I forgot as I was working and we were backlogged with work and I got busy and slipped my mind. This evening before working I had to go get some plywood at Lowe's to have for someone to fix my subflooring in the kitchen where a pipe leak underneath wet it. Well I am leaving Lowe's and the traffic is AWFUL. He calls and says go to Walmart and get me a orange hunting vest. He was going hunting in the morning when he got home and needed a vest. I said the traffic is terrible. Can you wait or stop somewhere and get one yourself at a Walmart. Well he starts yelling in the phone NO, GO TO WALMART AND GET ONE. I NEED IT IN THE MORNING. So I go get it. I am almost home and he calls. He says you still aren't home yet? Well I need you to plug in my dog collars (collars for hunting dogs so they won't get lost). I said well I am not there yet. I get home and oh BTW I had to feed his hunting dogs, which I always have to do when he is gone, which I love dogs so I don't complain too much but some wives probably wouldn't. But I'm the animal lover of course. I do that and am plugging in his collars and he calls asking about the phone, if I ordered it. Well I told him I forgot and he went to yelling and cussing at me and said all I was worried about was the D**n plywood to fix the kitchen floor. Just went off on me. I do so much for him, at least I think I do, and I am human and I do forget things. I didn't say much on the phone because my mom was here. When she left I called him back and I said look, if you can't talk to me like a person should be talked to and the way you would like to be talked to then don't call me. He said whatever, bye. So I came in here to go to work and sit down and just cried. If I yelled at him and cussed at him for not doing something I wanted him to do he would be appalled. And I would be yelling at him all the time because most of the time if I ask him to do something he doesn't do it. He would just think I was the most awful person. He does this about once a month or so and I just feel so let down. I am sorry for the long rambling. I had to vent. I don't have anyone else to vent to here. Also I am getting to the point where I don't look forward to his coming home and I sometimes hate to answer the phone when he calls because of the fact he can be such an a-hole
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Yells - MT17
[ In Reply To ..]Well....hmmm. How long have you been married? I am going to keep this short but sweet, as I do not believe you are looking for answers to your troubles, but asking if anyone has a husband that also does this. My answer is NO! I treat my husband just like I want treated and it is called "respect." Let me just say this, your husband should be ever so glad he is not my husband.....I would remind him that "eventually he does have to go to sleep at night." You need to work on getting your self-confidence back and not putting up with that disrespect.....just my opinion. Good-luck to you.
No, hubby never yells or curses me - L
[ In Reply To ..]Married almost 9 years now, in December and total respect for me. Your husband is too demanding and disrespectful of you. Who is he to demand you do this and that? He has you jumping through hoops and as long as you let him do this, seems like it will continue. Hubby needs to grow up some.
yes, before. - sm
[ In Reply To ..]my husband did this for many years. I would turn it in on myself (the emotions) and get depressed. When I quit putting up with it, and gave it right back, it got better. Things don't change overnight, but now we have a very good marriage. You can't be taken advantage of unless you allow it to happen.
Ol' Yeller - Viking Fan
[ In Reply To ..]And therein lies your answer - the post above.
I grew up with parents who bickered constantly - every day, all day. When they weren't bickering, it was because my mom was drugged out on Rx meds and my dad was too busy taking care of her. I grew up a peacemaker, couldn't stand conflict, never thought there should be any in my marriage.
Enter the fact I marry a submariner. Never thought we should fight because he was always either getting ready to leave for sea or just coming home. When I was off at work, I felt I had to be at his beck and call. When my family called and we chatted, he'd get mad and stop talking to me for days. It got to the point I was anticipating that phone ringing just wishing it wouldn't. He never hit me. Never was verbally abusive. He was emotionally abusive.
He went to shore duty in 1996 and ended up in a job he really hated and since crap rolls downhill, I was the at the bottom of the hill, so I got all the crap. I'd come home from work and he'd be on the computer (the Internet was just becoming big at the time). He basically ignored me. We couldn't have normal pets, so I had no dogs to love. I was living daily with someone but was so lonely I could die. Alcohol started tasting better and better to me. It was my friend, didn't yell at me, ignore me, make me feel bad until the next day, was always there for me, etc. As with almost all alcoholics and addicts, by the time you realize you have a problem, you're in way over your head.
To sum things up, I found A.A. and have been sober a long time. Hubby and I have done a lot of work on our relationship and now when he says something hurtful to me, I either let him know he did or I give him a nice retort. I don't put up with his crap anymore. There are still times I think I should be hiding money away because of his behavior but I've got to be an adult here and stick up for myself and stop letting him control our marriage. I've come a long long way from where I was but I have a way to go.
You've got to ask yourself - what is the worth thing that will happen if he yells at you because you didn't do something and you yell back or tell him to knock it off? I used to be afraid if we fought, he'd leave. Then, I got to the point that I didn't care anymore. Don't be a doormat. It's not fun. It's a hard adjustment to go from doormat to normal person and you'll hurt some feelings along the way but if you do, say you're sorry and go from there. Heck, I don't even let my husband yell at the dogs. :-)
Good luck, Honey.
Yelling Husbands - anon
[ In Reply To ..]I know this sounds crass but with any luck, he has decent health insurance and with that temper, he'll have a fatal heart attack in a few years and you can have peace.
him on the road always, you at home always, he thinks you should be able to - get things done, makes him crabby, maybe. NM
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Yes, I do LOL - gourdpainter
[ In Reply To ..]...and he is a retired truck driver. He doesn't yell at me for things I don't do but we are both very strong-willed and hard-headed. He yells at me when I have different opinions from his. I learned arguing with him was futile. If on the phone I would say, "Okay, dear, I'm hanging up now, we will discuss this when you can speak to me in a civilized tone." Now that we're both retired, the old habit is hard to break so when he starts to yell I just turn my back to him and start doing something else. Drives him crazy. He will yell and scream for a couple of minutes and then go outside slamming the door. Later he comes back and apologizes.
Your husband doesn't realize the stress you're under. I know his job is stressful because I spent a month "trucking" with my husband where I gained a lot of insight into just how stressful his job was. Still he has no right to treat you in this way. He needs to sit down and do your job for a couple of hours and he'll soon realize you have your own job related stressors plus you are keeping the home fires burning while he is working. Think about it, getting the plywood should have been HIS job. Certainly he can pull into Wal-Mart and get his own hunting vest and certainly he can call and get his own cell phone when he makes a fuel stop or stops to eat or whatever.
So long as you continue to allow him to treat you like a doormat he will do so. You don't deserve this.
Wow you sound like my mom and step-dad - Mom, is that you? - anony2
[ In Reply To ..]LOL. My mom and her husband would yell and yell and yell. He'd go outside slamming the door, then about 5 or 10 minutes later come back in and it was like nothing ever happened. Eeeks! :-)
My dad was a truck driver too, but he never ever yelled at my mom. He treated her like she was the world to him and us too (sis and I). We meant everything to him (still do). She was the one who would yell, slam cabinet doors, slam the front door and take off in her car (and dad would take sis and me out for ice cream). During arguments he would stay silent and take it in. That's one thing that led to their divorce. Mom would say she couldn't stand yelling and arguing with someone who wouldn't say anything or argue back (probably why she got along with her second husband so well) :-)
Funny thing is I turned out just like my dad. DH and I fight and I remain silent, and now I know why my dad did too. You can't argue with someone who thinks they are always right, who always talks over you, don't let you get a word in edgewise, and twists things around to support their feelings. They don't care if they hurt your feelings, but I don't say anything because I don't want to hurt his. Later in years after they divorced my dad said he never said things because he didn't want to hurt mom's feelings. It was easier for him to let her get out her frustrations, and I feel the same too (I am so like my dad in so many ways and I've taken on his attitude in life too - if something is not going right I always say to myself - it won't be like this forever). I'm not good at arguing anyway, and when he turns the conversations around it confuses me, and I find it easier for me to remain silent. For some reason every time we do argue I literally get sick to my stomach and end up having diarrhea. Maybe there is something deep inside from growing up I have never gotten over. Don't know. But it does feel good to type out all my frustrations on my computer diary.
But he doesn't treat me like a doormat like the OP's does, and he appreciates everything I do around here and he does tell me that often. He just talks to me nasty sometimes, and never thinks he's wrong about anything, but if I'm in the mood I answer back in the same nasty tone he talks to me in.
Sounds like my EX, which is why he's my EX. - nm
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lol, best reply!...nm - lol
[ In Reply To ..]nm
good answer... lol - and good for you! nm
[ In Reply To ..]nm
Being a truck driver is no excuse for yelling at wives - Lynn
[ In Reply To ..]My husband is an over the road truck driver and the sweetest person to me, could not ask for more. I personally donĂ¢€™t find this job that taxing. He never complains about his. No excuse, truck driver or not, for a husband to yell at you.
I thought slavery was abolished in 1865 - Snow Bunny
[ In Reply To ..]You want me to do something for you, you ask, and you ask NICELY, or you can increase the surplus population all by yourself.
Mine is similar but not as bad - anony2
[ In Reply To ..]I have the same situation in that I don't have anyone to vent to, that is why I come here. Nobody would understand my situation anyway. And I'm tired of telling people (family) things asking them not to say anything as it would cause trouble and they do anyway.
Most of the time we are pretty good, but he does yell. It's not yelling like your husband does, but I call it yelling. It's more like talking to me any way he sees fit. Although I am very sorry for the way he treats you. Mine does not yell at me to do things for him like yours does. Mine has the decency to ask me to do something. He'll always say "would you please get the splinter out of my hand" or things like that. He does not demand I do it. Probably because I would tell him to do it himself and if he doesn't like that tough. Although the way he talks to me sometimes really gets to me. For instance, today I brought something into his room and knocked a box over (had nothing on it and nothing in it) and he said "G-d it, that's why I look where I'm going". Or if I spill a bit of water on the floor he will say "G-d it, now I'm going to step on it and get my socks wet". Today I did say to him, "oh here, would you like me to move that box for you" and he said in a sarcastic tone "no". So I just said well the next time I bring something in don't be surprised if it gets knocked down again if I can't get around it. Once I accidentally broke a stem off of a potted flower (it was sitting next to he dish drainer and the pan shifted in the drainer and the handle of the pot hit the stem and it broke. I didn't think anything of it, tried to fix the stem, but just didn't think anything of it, but I woke up to the silence treatment and he lectured me for 3 hours about trying to purposely ruin his flower and hide it from him. I was treated like I was a child. He'll repeat things to me over and over, and when we're talking if I repeat something he says "I've heard that before, you don't need to keep repeating it". I once said you repeat things and I don't say that to you, and that broke into a fight and he said "fine I won't ever tell you anything". So, it's not really yelling like what it sounds like you do, its just being harshly spoken to like a child sometimes.
About a month ago he said something really nasty to me and I finally had it and said to him "you know I would never talk to you like that because I respect you and I don't appreciate you talking to me like that".
I have started keeping a diary on my computer and when I get really frustrated I write all my frustrations down with every single cuss word you can think of and boy do I let the keystrokes rip away. Usually afterward I do feel better.
I don't know your situation, how long you've been married, if he's physically abusive or if your afraid of him or what, but this is what I would do (okay, so I haven't done this myself, but my situation is not as bad as yours).
I would ask him to set some time aside so we could talk. I'd tell him that when he yells at me like he does it upsets me and that I've done nothing to deserve being treated that way. I would say I would appreciate you asking me to do something for you and not demanding and yelling at me otherwise he can do it all himself and I will find another living situation because I'm not going to spend the rest of my life with someone yelling at me.
I did once tell my husband that my dad yelled at me when I was growing up and I didn't marry him for him to do it to me.
Like I say I don't know your entire situation, but I would tell him I don't feel appreciated, I don't feel like I mean anything to him and I'm tired of the way he treats me. I would say how would you like if I called you and started yelling at you to do something. I'd say I don't think you'd like it one bit. I'd say I didn't marry you to be your mother, I married you to be your wife/partner and if he doesn't want that in a relationship let me know now and maybe he should start looking for the type of relationship he really wants, but don't waste any more of my time leading me to think we have something that is not there.
Maybe you shouldn't answer the phone and then when he asks why you didn't answer the phone say "Why? So you could yell at me about something?"
I am very sorry you are going through this. I do know how you feel and I do believe other couples go through it. I hope you can sit and talk to him and really tell him your feelings and how he makes you feel. If he really cares about you he will understand, and if he doesn't I'd really talk to a professional person who can help you.
I sincerely and truly will be hoping for the best for you. I will send positive thoughts your way and wish the best for you. Believe me, I know how much courage it takes to say what is necessary. I have talked to my husband before and we are good together, it's just every once in awhile he talks to me nasty, and I answer him back in the same tone.
Please let us know how you are doing. I will be thinking about you. I know how you feel and please don't cry anymore. You are a wonderful person deserving of a happy life and I'm sure there are many family and friends who love you.
You are so sweet - blondie
[ In Reply To ..]What is weird is he doesn't act like this all the time. It is like he gets mood swings. When he isn't in one of his moods he is the most laid back nice spoken person you could be around. He asks you to do things. He doesn't demand. But when he has his mooods, he demands then. He never gets violent though even when he gets in his moods. I am just going to have to break him of it. He will apologize. Like the other night before he even got home he was saying he was sorry he just had a bad day. But then today he was an a$$ once more. He will apologize BUT it doesn't change the fact of what he did. It still is uncalled for and he would not tolerate it for one second and he will have to see I am not going to either. See, I have learned not to yell at him on the phone cause you won't talk to him again if you do. I think he needs the same remedy.
I've been thinking....sm - blondie
[ In Reply To ..]I have done a little thinking and some of you are right. I have let this get out of hand. I have sit back and let him get this way because I didn't want to take the effort to change it I guess. He got like this once before to an extent and I changed it by never calling him when he was gone. If he didn't call me basically I just wouldn't call. Therefore he would call me a lot cause he was wondering what was up. I also didn't care if he was home or not and it started getting to him I guess cause he did a 180. He started calling me very often and wondering why I didn't call him anymore. He detected, and rightfully, that I just didn't give a flip anymore. He had pushed me enough I didn't care at all anymore. And it bugged him to no end. He seen a change and he told me he was worried that I didn't love him anymore and wanted someone else, etc. That wasn't the case but I didn't care. I just kind of threw in the towel. Well he totally changed and I have starting going back to my old way of calling him more and doing everything for him and not being able to wait for him to get home and I guess it goes to his head and he takes advantage and walks on me. So, I guess I am gonna have to go back to the not calling and all that to let him see if he wants to be an a$$, I don't want to be around him and I am not going to call him. I have to act like I don't care to get respect with him. He wants what he can't have. If you don't call him and all that he starts thinking and wondering why and wanting you to call him. Someone mentioned going to get the plywood should have been his job. Yes, it should have maybe, but if I had waited on him the subfloor would have fell through. It would have never gotten done. If I don't do things they don't get done. In other words, he is lazy. BUT YET, he will point his finger at me who does things he should do and everything else and calls me lazy if I don't do something he thinks I should have done. So I am gonna start just putting my foot down and when he starts demanding I do things, I am gonna just say NO. If you want it done do it. What do you do for me? I went to town to get my son one day while he was laying on the couch and I said hey I have some dogfood in the backseat of your pickup. Will you go out there and get it and give CJ (the dog inside) some food. I was in a hurry. When I come back the food was still sitting in the backseat of the truck. I didn't say a word just went and done it myself. It is my dog and was my dog food. I asked him to help me out but I didn't say anything cause my dog is my responsibility. Now if it had been his dogs and he asked me to feed them and I didn't he would have unloaded on my a$$. I have reached the point I was before where I am just not caring anymore. If he wants to get mad he can get glad. If he wants to yell at me, I can give it back. If he wants to call and yell, I can hang up (which makes him furious) and not answer the phone for the rest of the day. BTW, on the few occasions I have yelled at him on the phone he will hang up and turn his phone off and won't answer it anymore the rest of the day. I need to do the same. It is just a matter of me putting my foot down plain and simple. I know the answer to the problem, just had to vent. I am the only one who can fix it. Thanks everyone for your input.
I have a similar issue with my DH but not as bad- sm - me too
[ In Reply To ..]Mine picks fights over the stupidest stuff, similar to yours and the flower stem. He can rant for hours off and on about. Took me years to get smart and not respond. If I totally ignore him being an a$$ then it passes rather quickly. I do too much for him too, but have been gradually backing off on that and he does a few things now for himself that I used to do, though I still do a lot. I will not answer his calls when he is being a jerk, and I do hang up on him as well. My DH travels a lot for his job too and expects me to take care of all the little crap since he is not here to do it, which to some extent I can understand, but he too will expect me to run to the store and pick up stuff for him when he can stop and do it himself. He is now doing that as he finally figured out it was stupid for me to be doing it and using our gas when he could use his company car and do it on the way home, plus I am very busy with the kids and he knows this and NEVER helps with any of that when he is home which I do b*itch at him about. The nights/days he picks fights of course is when he wants sex, which is typical, of course he wonder why I am not panting to go, and actually wonders what I am mad about. It is like he totally forgets he was a jerk and what he was yelling at me about just an hour(s) before. We have our ups and downs and are good together but he goes through these phases which do drive me crazy.
Wow...does this sound like my situation - anony2
[ In Reply To ..]He doesn't pick fights, but if he's in a bad mood he's just snippy. He reads too much of the doom and gloom, and he is huge huge into politics, and as you can imagine both topics are not uplifting. Once he did say to me he has to stop listening because it gets him all upset. But he didn't. He's upset about not having a job and not being able to find a job (unemployment in our area is at 20%). But mine is like yours. He can rant for hours. When he's mad he stays mad for a long time. One time we fought in the morning at that night he was still mad, but I ignore him most of the time. Oh one time we were moving to a different state and he was the nastiest S.O.B. to me. I was so p.o.'d at him. I didn't speak to him the whole trip (2 days in a U-haul) unless absolutely necessary. After we got settled he said "sorry". I didn't buy it and I never said "it's okay". And once I forgot to buy potatoes at the store. We got steaks, but got side tracked and I forgot the potatoes. Remembered when we were close to home. He yelled and yelled and yelled. Lectured me like a kid about the importance of having a list and getting things on the list. I explained they were not on the list, it was a last minute switch and I forgot. Well if you wouldn't think someone would be able to yell for 2-1/2 solid hours about not getting potatoes and following a list you haven't met my DH. We went back to the store, he parked and I looked at him and said "you know, so what I forgot two potatoes that were not even on the list to begin with. That is no reason for you to treat me this way". I slammed the door walked into the store and prayed that some plane would crash into the building or something so I would die. :) Well needless to say it didn't happen. I got the potatoes got in the truck and he started in again as though there was never a break. Then he's yelling at me because I'm not saying anything. I told him what in he!! do you expect me to say. Anything I say you will yell at me for so there's no use saying anything. Then he started yelling at me because he said "oh I suppose now it's all my fault". HA HA. Now I can laugh but at that time...oh then know what he had the freakin nerve to say to me when we got home in the sweetest tone he could say. "You know we really didn't need potatoes we could have had eggs with it." ARGGGGHHHHHH!!!!! He said he was sorry, but I never said anything. Your sentence is exactly what I have learned to "It took me years to get smart and not respond". I don't ever respond. Never ever. I let him go off. Let it go in one ear and out the other. It drives him bananas. Then I pound away in my diary. He asked me once why I never say anything back to him. I said because you twist what I say, I get confused and I never win an argument even when I'm right and your wrong. He told me that was no reason and I said that's what it is. So we don't really fight a lot, he just gets snippy and sometimes I get snippy right back (if I'm in the mood).
I don't do a lot for him in the sense that a lot of you do. In fact he does the dishes and is in charge of cleaning the bathroom. I work, pay bills. He does the litter box, garbage, and outside work. He vacuums sometimes. I cook. So we pretty much share doing things equally. But he won't answer the phone or doors. Funny story...one time I ordered pizza, then sometime after that I had to use the bathroom. Pizza guy game early and DH had to get the pizza from the guy. Oh gosh you would have thought someone had stolen his little red wagon. He went on and on about it and actually said to me (in a whiny childs voice) "you did that on purpose to make me answer the door". HA HA HA.
I hear ya too on fighting and then wanting to have sex. Nothing more frustrating or un-romantic. So I just pretend it's me and Jude Law. Works every time ;-)
Anonymouse - Why do you tolerate this? - Fingers
[ In Reply To ..]Maybe I am the wrong person to advise you here, because I absolutely cannot relate to what you are saying. My husband gets in a bad mood and gets snippy now and then, but he NEVER yells at me, NEVER. Actually if he ever gets mad at me he says, "Fine." In a tone that I know means he is po'd. "Fine" with him is never really fine.
Now, if DH ever did treat me the way you describe I would set aside some time to have a talk with him ONE TIME and one time only. I would say, this is not about what I have done, what I have not done, what I forget, or my mistakes. This is about YOU and the way you treat me. I would not allow him to blame his behavior on me, no matter what I had done/not done. I would say 1 time, this makes me feel awful and I cannot tolerate it anymore. Then - without warning, argument, or threat I would stick to it. If he starts yelling, I would walk off and not engage in the conversation. If he is on the phone, I would hang up on him and not answer again any time soon. If he finds fault with what you try to do for him, I would tell him to do it himself. Simply tell him not to talk to you until he can control his tone, volume, anger, and insults.
To me, this is not a little thing even if it is "sometimes." You need to get a backbone and things may get worse before they get better, but I would stick to my guns and say as many times as it takes, "You WILL NOT treat me this way because I will not let you."
It will probably never happen, but I really believe the 2 of you need marriage counseling. That is not to say that your marriage is bad or over. You could learn communication techniques in relating to each other and how to fight/disagree fairly and in a respectful and healthy manner.
He will only continue to treat you this way, or worse, if you allow it. One day you are going to have a girlfriend, relative, etc. that you see treated like a queen by her husband. If they respect each other, truly love each other, and show it - it is really going to hurt you and you will wish your relationship had the same tone. You do deserve to be that happy, you know. If your husband refuses to comply, think and think hard, especially if things get worse, do you want to live the rest of your life like that?
My husband isn't allowed to swear at me or - anon
[ In Reply To ..]hit, period. We've been married 43 years. He is responsible for his personal needs although I do help him. For example, I would have asked him well before hunting season if he had everything, or tell him to make a list and I'll start looking for what you want, but I also expect him to be looking too. My hubby is also a truck driver. It does not always work out well, but I've told him we are a team and have the same end goals so I expect cooperation and I am not working against him.
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I don't know about you all, but I HATE having to ask my husband for money, for anything! I make enough money to cover my personal expenses and the household bills and he pays the mortgage, loan on the cars and his personal expenses. We take turns buying the monthly groceries. It comes out pretty even, the only differences is, he has left over money from his check and I do not. I stopped asking years ago because he'd give me the "where did all your money go" with att ...
Standing Up To HusbandMar 13, 2012
Background is my husband tends to drink too much and then tends to gamble too much. He will literally go through hundreds of dollars sitting at the local bar on the slot machines if he has the debit card... thus he no longer has a debit card, but he will take mine and do the same thing. The other day he took my vehicle; had to run to the bar for something and would "be right back." After several hours passed, I called and asked where the ***#*# he was and some other not-so-nice ...
Depressed HusbandApr 17, 2012
I have been married for 25 years and together we have two wonderful, grown kids, 20 and 22 who are still living at home. No problem with that. My husband has major depression which is usually (okay, about 50%) under fairly good control. He's on a couple of meds, which I'm not sure are still working right, but what little health insurance we have doesn't cover either mental health services or medications, so he's very resistant to going to a psychiatrist to get th ...
Husband ProblemsAug 11, 2012
I need some opinions about some of the things my husband does. Basically, I feel that he is very controlling. He is always making remarks when he can't get me on the phone that I must be with my "boyfriend". If my phone goes off, he'll say ask if it's my boyfriend, and it is usually just an email from work or some type of business that I have an account with. We have been married for 16 years, and I have never cheated on him. My best friend since high scho ...
Husband Is Addicted To The Gym. Jan 17, 2013
This is the stupidest problem ever, but my husband is addicted to the gym. He doesn't stay all day, but he goes every day. He gets off earlier than I do and goes. Then I get home and am expected to cook dinner while he is there or while he is showering afterwards. If I don't cook, he will go get fast food. He does NOT cook . His gym time has precluded us from doing other activities such as keeping our grandkids in the afternoon/evening and he has even ...
Prayer For My HusbandJan 26, 2013
Please pray for my husband. He is having surgery on Wednesday to have a lump removed from his neck. The doctor will let us know right after the surgery what they found out. During the summer, he had a tumor on his tongue removed. Thank you. ...
Please Say Pray For My HusbandJun 19, 2014
Please say a prayer for my husband, J. He is severely depressed and needs help. Please send a prayer his way that he will be open to receiving help and that God will help him. Thank you. ...
Husband Just Got Fired From Second JobOct 29, 2014
due to stress of not really wanting to work there, being tired from working 16 hours a day, etc. In a way we are glad, he needed the break but things are going to be extremely tight. Does anyone have any experience with food banks? We make too much for food stamps in our state. Max income is 31K for a family of 4. Can't believe the cap is so low. Anyway. I'm kind of embarrassed about it but it is anonymous here so I thought I would try asking. ...
Husband Fibs To Her...Dec 22, 2014
Some won't like this, but since it's true AND since I'm posting this in the spirit of furthering some understanding on this subject, I won't let the boo-sayers stop me. There are three things I know about every member of this board: We were all born, we will all die, and we are all liars. Spoonful of sugar for the medicine? Okay, rephrase: We are all less than completely truthful. So when I read about someone's husband lying to her about ...
Husband DilemmaApr 08, 2015
On Friday, my husband I got our tax returns back. When he saw how little money I'd made thanks to Nuance, he hit the ceiling. Said we'd never be able to get another loan with that low an income. All night he was snotty and short with me. Even said in a nasty way, "You've got a problem" referring to my craving for junk food that we didn't have. (I never was like that before. This is due to his influence which I let him know.) So Friday night he goes to bed without s ...
Husband Asking Any MT Older Than Me At 72Jun 01, 2015
I have been working so many years now and I don't really mind it but hubs and I were just talking this weekend. Have checked the following issue out with neurologist- no answer on this. I noticed problems I was having with balance, sometimes standing and veering to 1 side or the other, never knowing which way I might go. I try to play it off when others notice because it is embarrassing for me. I cannot walk a straight line, hope never stopped to check and asked to do that, find I hit my f ...
Should I Let My Husband Out Of Yard Work Or Not? Nov 16, 2009
My husband is younger than me, 56 now and he is balking about the trees leading into our property. We have 3 Crepe Myrtles that bloom so pretty each spring/summer but taking care of them is something else, he says. Each fall he wants to prune them back. If you just let them go they could get massive and also he cleans them up around the bottom. I also have another tree, maybe an Ash, that has like peeling bark on it and it is very unusual and he wants that to go as well, says too many leaves com ...
My Husband Is Convinced That It's All Going To Fall ApartMar 02, 2011
He is convinced that our economy is going to collapse and that there is going to be severe social unrest. Last year he wanted to start stockpiling. Now he wants to increase the speed at which we're stockpiling because all of a sudden he thinks we only have until the end of this year. He bought a gun, I guess to protect our stockpile. This morning he said he wants to buy silver so we have some kind of tradeable currency in our "grab and go bags." He also mention ...
Help Me Settle A Disagreement With My HusbandMay 04, 2011
My husband and I were talking about Middle Eastern people in the US. He is stereotyping these people as owning certain businesses and I told him he was just percieving this different than other people would. He said if I asked 100 people what business was predominantly owned by Middle Eastern people, that they would say one of the two companies he associates with them. I disagreed. So I want to put him to the test. Tell me what business you associated with Middle Ea ...
I've Asked My Husband To Move Out And He Will Not Go. What Would You Do?Jun 05, 2011
Here's the back story. He's a bum. He hasn't held a job since 2005 when he was discharged from active duty. He is bipolar and is an alcoholic, both of which have escalated to the point where I am completely and totally done. I do not wish to live with him any longer. He has done nothing but making promises of quitting drinking, getting jobs, and being a better husband and father and never makes good. In the past year or so, he has also started l ...
A Friend Cheated On Her HusbandJan 31, 2010
a one night stand. She is beating herself up and is a terrible mess of tears. She wants to tell her husband about it. I think that is a BAD idea. What do you think should you tell your partner if you have had a one night stand? ...
Husband Got This From A Friend. Tacky But Jun 11, 2010
How do they think this stuff up? There are no words.... Giant Caterpillar found in College Dorm Room.... Tell me you are not laughing and I will take you off my email list!!!!!!!!! ...
My Husband Has A Good Question, And Maybe Someone Here KnowsAug 17, 2012
His question was if, under the Romney/Ryan plan, they want to send people vouchers for their healthcare....would they have a way of knowing that's what it was spent on? How would they guarantee that people didn't just keep the money and go without any insurance coverage--still ending up in the ER like they do now, where they can't be denied treatment, and we all end up continuing to shoulder their unpaid medical bills. Would it be an actual paper check or voucher of some so ...
My Husband And I Voted Yesterday.Oct 31, 2012
And now that it's over (on our end, anyway), somehow comments on this board are not so frustrating. I don't think my blood pressure has gone up a single digit today. I hope you all find the same peace after you cast your ballots. :D (just kidding!) ...
Husband Seriously Considering Joining The NavyJan 08, 2014
He started thinking about the military a few months back. He went to a recruiter yesterday. He made a 92 on the practice ASVAB (highest is 99) so he's good to go there. He does have to lose about 25 pounds so that is the reason for the delay. I am behind him 100% and proud of him for at least trying to turn his life around. He has been a musician but after years of unsuccessful attempts he is realizing at 33 he will probably never reach the fame he so desperately wan ...
Husband Issues-Part 2Nov 05, 2014
I posted a short while back and got some great input and was asking for a bit more. Short recap: I'm the one that the hubby has a lady at work who has a crush on him, made it known to a friend of mine, I confronted lady and hubby stopped talking to her, but didn't really have a confrontation with her. I was upset at hubby, because I felt he should have confronted her, not just me. Anyway, I decided to take the high road and just leave it alone and stop bothering hubby ...