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If your husband was always late -
Posted: Feb 16, 2010
Would you be able to lie to him to fudge appointment times, etc, to get there on time? We've been married 25 years, and I knew what I was getting into even before I married him. I pretty much have learned to live with it. But sometimes I'm tempted to tell him that an appointment is for, say, 1:00 when it's really for 1:30 because he has a tendency to start to get ready about five minutes before time to be there. But then I think of him sitting there in the doc's office griping about how it's 1:45 and the appointment was for 1:00. The truth is, I just don't feel like I can lie to him, even a little white one!
Yeah, I've tried the leaving without him (but now we only have one car). Nagging doesn't work, just ends up with us fighting - I know it sounds like he has no respect for me, but I don't think that's the case - in every other way he's wonderful, very loving, attentive, caring. He just has a terrible sense of timing and gets angry when he's reminded of it.
So, again, would you be able to lie in order to be on time?
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He is a grown man, not a child! - His responsibility
[ In Reply To ..]Either he is responsible or he is not. I would not lie to my husband or trick him into appearing more responsible than he really is. I don't care if he got angry every day - I would remind him every day - every hour if need be - that he is expected at such and such a time if it affected me in any way or caused me embarrassment. Let him walk into a doctor's office at 1:30 and hear, "I am sorry but your appointment was at 1:00. We are going to have to reschedule." He needs to learn lessons the hard way. If he does not learn, so be it. Like you said, he is a good guy and there are worse things you could have to put up with.
I have the same problem in reverse. - deb
[ In Reply To ..]My husband is always ready way early, and has everything he needs to take with him all laid out. Then he can just sit down and relax, and wait until it's time to leave. I am the one who never seems to allow enough time to get ready, and is always running around at the last minute like a chicken with its head cut off. My SIL lies to me about what time I need to be at her house for things, because that's the only way I'll get there at the time she wants.
I tried the lie-about-the-time thing a couple of times - with my then-adolescent
[ In Reply To ..]It didn't take long for her to figure out that when Mom said 1:30, she really meant 1:00, and the whole efficacy of that silly charade was blown ..... as was my credibility for awhile. As in: "What else do you lie about to get what you want?"
Bad idea.
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