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Should I let my husband out of yard work or not?

Posted: Nov 16, 2009

My husband is younger than me, 56 now and he is balking about the trees leading into our property. We have 3 Crepe Myrtles that bloom so pretty each spring/summer but taking care of them is something else, he says. Each fall he wants to prune them back. If you just let them go they could get massive and also he cleans them up around the bottom. I also have another tree, maybe an Ash, that has like peeling bark on it and it is very unusual and he wants that to go as well, says too many leaves come off. It is in the front yard as well. I love my trees. He wants to take the Crepes out and put something like Leyland Cypress in. Do I let him have his way and let him rest some or do I keep these longer?

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My opinion... - anon

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Keep the trees, and hire someone else to do the clean up/yard work. That way you both win...you keep the trees, he has no work to do. :6)

I agree with anon - MTinNC

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If you want to keep them then you should be responsible for hiring someone to keep up with the work associated with them.

opinion - nona

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YUP!

I agree - ggmt

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Take the money you'd spend on removing those trees, hauling them off, and planting new ones and instead use it to hire a yard service. Some of the services around here are remarkably reasonable in price.

Also, we do leaves the easy way: Quick raking into small rows or piles, then run over them with a bagging mower and just dump the chopped up leaves into yard bags.

My husband does our yard work, and - Just my opinion

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although I have strong opinions about how things should look, I try to let have the final say-so because he is the one doing the work. If I feel really strongly about it, then I will get out there and do whatever it is that I care about myself.

trees - vino

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If I wanted to keep the trees, but hubbster didn't, I'd take care of them myself. Why should the yard work be "husband work"?

I maintain the plants and shrubs that I planted, because I planted them and wanted a certain look. We both do the mowing, edging, cleaning depending on who is available or in the mood to do it. He maintans his cactus and gardens and pond, because he planted/made it.

I don't know what age has do to with it.

Agree 100%. - NM

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There are medical issues here - I love my trees

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I donâ��t have to to into them but medical things with me. I can afford to have a person come for the yard but he then says no.

trees - vino

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Oh, I see.

But if YOU can afford to have someone do it, why does HE have the final word? If he doesn't want to mess with it, you want to keep it, go on ahead and have someone come and do it! He'll get over it.

He just asked me the other day - I love my trees

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Dont I have any say so around this house and I told him, well no. I think this is about the only place he does have some say about. I have had people over before that trimmed some hedges, cut around the trees, etc. and then he said not done correctly. He is not say all get all type person by any means and I am certainly not a mealy-mouth type person.

I believe it is his call if he is the one having to - jd

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clean up after the mess they make. Go ahead and hire someone to take care of them, and then if he doesn't like it, let him hire or manage the responsbility of getting them taken down and the property cleaned up.

trees - vino

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Well, I had my say. Good luck. Hope you work out a compromise with him. â�»â�¢â�»

The yard shouldn't be "husband work"? - Snow Bunny

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Any more than the house should be "wife work."

Cheers to any couple who share the chores equally, inside and out!

Apparently you did not read my answer above - Loving the trees

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I said medical issues here

bunny - Galileo

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That's what I'm saying! We ARE a chore-sharing (wow, say that three times real fast!) couple. It's like the toilet set argument right? I mean, doesn't the seat go down as easily as it comes up?!

Oooh. I disagree with you on that toilet seat thing. - sm

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When my husband and I were newlyweds, I would walk bleary-eyed into the bathroom and fall in the toilet when he had left the toilet seat up. After I told him about this, he started using the toilet sitting down, too. This is a much more sanitary practice. When other men come to our house and use the toilet, I always notice the splatter. I don't understand why all boys are not trained to use the toilet sitting down.

toilet - sam

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I agree with Galileo. It is as easy to put it up as down. Bleary eyed or not, I've been stone cold drunk and can see that it's either up or down.

Ah, but this is not about trees. In regard to the foliage, I would hire a gardener. Perhaps allow your husband to pick one, as suggested above. Sorry your health is not up to par. I hope your trees do not go neglected. Crepe Myrtles are beautiful.

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