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Vent about my neighbor

Posted: Sep 23, 2010

Okay, so I have a neighbor who is unemployed. I know this cos he and his other half are always having screaming shouting matches and she yells he doesn't work and doesn't contribute, doesn't drive, eats her food, smokes, won't even watch "her kid", blah, blah, blah. So..what does he do? He goes and gets himself a motorcycle. So he has no license to drive it and it sits there in the yard (not their parking area, but their back yard that faces our back yard) and he turns it on, sits on it and revs it up EVERY OTHER HOUR (3 hours if we are lucky). Vrooom....vrooom....vrooooooooooooooommmmm, vroom, vrooom...... Blimy, he was doing it before, turned it off about 5 minutes ago and now he just started it up again. Then what does he do, he goes and gets himself another little mini cycle (smaller than his motorcycle), and he parks that right on the other side of our fence and he starts that one up too and does that one maybe once every 4 hours. Meanwhile he has never driven them anywhere and they haven't moved since he got them. This constant cycle crap all day long is just wearing on my nerves. I'm ready to move to an apartment (I'm in a house) just to get away from this freak.

Sorry - just I'm as frustrated as all get out. I'm so p.o.'d that I work my tail off, and he does nothing and my tax money helps to pay for his government check so he can do nothing.

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I completely sympathize - Kittymama

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I understand that feeling so well. I live in a duplex and live next to a welfare mom with lots of kids who drives back and forth all day long in her boyfriend's car or spends all day long in her PJs while I work to subsidize her life of leisure.

My other neighbor is a psycho pot smoking creep (he actually works) and is on his 2nd equally psycho girlfriend in 6 months. She trashes his place and tells him someone broke in. Screaming matches, police visits, arrests. He had a little girl with the first one, so sad for her to grow up with that, but she's gone now, hopefully better off.

Its a wonder we get any work gets done. I hear you, just wanna scream, go somewhere quiet for awhile.

I'VE BEEN THERE - OAF

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We actually had to move from our last house because unbeknownst to us all the homes around us were renters and we had the Welfare Queen from Hell!! I'd call the police - he is disturbing the peace!!! It makes you want to buy a little trailer in the middle of 20 acres. Now our neighbors are two dingy old ladies who are constantly seeing and hearing things (dementia/paranoia anyone)- that no one else hears or sees. I don't think you can win sometimes... Good Luck.

I would feel the same way too!! - TT MT

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Do you have any noise level ordinances in your neighborhood? You might check into this and see if there is anything you can do to get him to stop "playing" around during the day, especially since his "playtime" is wreaking havoc with your work and driving you insane!! Nice guy though, he doesn't work, sits around on those cycles all day, has no money, and he is probably living off the hard work of people like us so can do nothing. I can't understand where he gets the money to buy such expensive things for himself. If I were her, I would boot him out, but she is probably existing off that money from him too. It makes me so mad that this happens. I have seen people drive around in cars I cannot even afford, upteen kids hanging on them, and they are going to the local office to apply for food stamps and assistance to pay their rent. I know work is in short supply right now, but there is work out there, maybe not the type some people want. They wear gold around their necks and so do their children!! Our society is so messed up.

You hit it right on - frustrated

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There is no noise ordinance. But they are on welfare and section 8. They actually have 3 kids.

It just makes me mad that I'm sitting here working so much and totally exhausted and they get to sit and do nothing and collect their check. Well its not really that, it's more of the vroom vroom vrooooom vrooom every hour or so of the day, him sitting at home doing nothing and getting paid just adds to it. Where he got the money from to buy the motorcycles I don't know and its none of my business. Someone could have given him them for all I know (maybe someone who was tired of her husband playing vroom vroom all day). If I had the guts I'd go over and tell him I'm trying to have some peace and quiet here and if he could take his motorcycles and play with them somewhere else, but he is definitely not the type of person you can have a reasonable conversation with. Even the one he lives with can't have a decent conversation with him.

Thank God I rent. I'm moving somewhere else. I realize no place is perfect, but at least it will get me out of this madness, and if I move to another noisy place at least I know that ahead of time and it's on my circumstances.

What ever happened to decency and being thoughtful of your neighbors. Whenever I watch TV if my doors or windows are open I always make sure I don't have the TV loud so it doesn't disturb them. Just with others would show the same consideration.

Decency - Christine

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Sometimes I think decency died when my dad did. Bless his heart, he was always reminding us to be respectful of others, telling us as kids not to stare at people when we were out because it was rude. I guess that's why the situation you describe is so off the scale for me that I can't take it. Some months back the young kid across the street got a sporty small car that has the loud engine. He has to rev it up for at least a few minutes coming and going. Then his buddy showed up every day in an old, even louder car. This went on every day, so loud I literally could not hear my TV. They would jump out of one car and into the other, each time reving the engine for several minutes each time, up and down the street literally hours each day. Apparently someone told the kid because I have not seen the friend, and he, himself is not nearly as bad. It was to the point that you would have to scream to be heard over the noise. Who raises kids these days, and who can think this is proper behavior when you live in a neighborhood? I truly feel for you. My nephew is thinking of selling his expensive home they built in a well to do neighborhood because of low-life people behind him. Do what you can to legally stop him. You have rights. I am tired of giving things away to this kind of person.

You're right - Kittymama

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You're so right. Why is decency in such short supply these days? Why do we feel we have to move to have any peace? Rude, crude, disrespectful people. They truly don't care about anyone but themselves.

In my situation, I called the Police because of the drunken screaming matches and the little girl there, and called the landlord who talked to them about the noise. Psycho girlfriend #1 moved out, but psycho girl #2 moved in and same guy still there.

What did I accomplish? I now have to put up with loud vulgar rap music from his truck, the horrible smell of Pine-sol to cover up the smell of pot, and slamming doors in the morning when I am trying to sleep. I do not regret calling the Police, but now I have to put up with his petty torments.

I understand not wanting to give things away to these people, but there comes a point when you ask yourself, is it worth it? Will things be better somewhere else? I choose to stay for now. I've lived next to people like them before and likely will again. I can't change them, only me and my way of thinking.

Moving - Christine

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I totally understand the concept of moving and maybe having it almost as bad, or worse. However, if we don't take a stand you are right. . it will never stop. Our neighborhoods are being taken over town by town in this country, and it's just not right. We were taught self-respect when we were growing up. I remember Dad going around the house picking up lint from the carpet, turning all the handles on the pans toward the wall and out of our reach, constantly instilling in us to not take chances with safety in the house. My Dad protected his kids and had pride in our family name. God bless him forever for that. When I see parents out in parking lots, etc. cursing and using four-letter words to their little kids it breaks my heart. Where is the love, and what standards and guidelines are being set to live by? I wish we could collectively do something. I live in PA, and recently in Harrisburg where violence and crime most often with guns was addressed again recently. The people are trying to take their neighborhoods back, but with the gang activity it is nearly impossible.

We must be of the same era - frustrated

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My dad (who is now 75) is the kindest most decent man I know. He still opens a ladies door on the car, will stand and offer his seat to a lady, and all the other little odsy stuff that men used to do. I grew up in the country. Our closest neighbor took us 5 minutes to walk to their house. We were surrounded by wooded areas, but as kids were were not allowed to scream our heads off with the shrieking at the top of the lungs. No loud music and my parents always taught us to think of others. It's just the way we were raised. Another neighbor of ours just got his licence awhile back and a car and now we can hear him coming and going for a good minute or two because he feels the need to share his base (not music, its thump thump thump) with the whole world. Middle of winter and he was still riding with all the windows down so everyone could hear his noise.

Right now I need some peace so I am moving and not soon enough. I've started looking and I'm hoping I can find a decent place in a quiet neighborhood.

Unfortunately it seems like decency did end with our parents (actually us because they taught us to be decent and thoughtful of others).

Good luck to you! - Christine

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I hope you find a nice neighborhood with good neighbors, and that you have peace and quiet. I hope you will be very happy there. I also remember the day when you got a fine for driving the loud cars and motorcycles (My brother workded at Harley and they aren't made to be that loud . . the owners alter them). My sister said instead of raising state taxes to meet the budget, why not reinstate the fines? They would have more money than they knew what to do with. Again . . if they do nothing it continues and only gets worse. Good luck again!

One more thing - Christine

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Just wanted to add that your dad sounds like a sweetheart! That made me smile just to read it.

As a poor MT, Ive learned the lower your income is, - the less likely you are to find a quiet place.

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In my area there's not much of a gang-banger problem, though they exist in droves in a town just a few miles away. In my town, it's mainly the white-trash meth-heads that are the problem. Most of the break-ins around here can be attributed to the meth-heads trying to finance their habit. Guy next to me sells - I don't know if it's meth or just pot. People come and go a lot. He tries to hide it by repairing a few cars in the backyard. He and his druggie GF live in a trailer in his mom's backyard. (She's 85). The other day the lady came over and told me someone broke into her house during the day while she was out in the back yard, and stole her purse, driver's licence, money, and all her credit cards. Most likely it was sonny-boy, or one of his meth-head friends.

Sonny-boy's eldest son (sonny-boy is 45) was recently shot & killed by police. He was a felon who had a warrant, got stopped, and for whatever reason, reached into his pants when the police told him to put his hands up. (He didn't have a gun, it turns, out, but what person with any brains reaches into their baggy, gang-banger pants when the police are pointing their guns at you?) Must be the Law of Natural Selection at work, no doubt! Anyway, sonny-boy next door never showed any remorse for his son's death, but is now trying to sue the police in the town where his kid was shot. What a bunch of USELESS people.

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