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Vent about my hubby during this wonderful holiday season ... (sm)


Posted: Dec 23, 2010

Every year at Christmas my hubby is able to take two weeks off, which is wonderful for him but is beginning to stink for me.  By the time his vacation is over I will be extremely resentful towards him and I hate that.  In years past he has always done everything he can to help me out while I am working, cleaning the house, wrapping presents, picking up little odd and end gifts, etc.  However, this year all he has done is lay on the couch and sleep after sleeping until 11:00 every day.  I feel like he is depressed about something and have tried talking to him, asking him if something is wrong, thinking that he may be depressed, etc., but he says that he is fine.  Our kids are grown and married, we have two sweet grandkids so Christmas, for me at least, is still an exciting time.  This year our daughter and her husband (grandkids parents) have informed us that he is thinking about going active duty in the service which means that they will be moving away from us and this has devastated us both (our grandkids are here virtually every day and every weekend and have been since they were born).  Yes, this is on my mind and it has really put a damper on Christmas for all of us, but I have tried to put it on the back burner, not think about it and enjoying the time that we have now with the grandkids.  The final decision on his active duty will not be made until January.  I believe that this is part of my husband's problem but again, I cannot get him to talk about it.  Regardless, this moping around, sleeping until 11:00 and then moving the sofa is absolutely driving me nuts!!!  As horrible as this sounds, I cannot wait for him to return to work so that I do not have to continue watching him act this way!!!

Thanks so much for listening!

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Give him a list. He didnt need it before but sounds like he does - now, especially if he sm

[ In Reply To ..]
is depressed. Give him chore list and get him up and moving. Probably help him as much as you.

Have him see a doctor for depression - cc

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I can relate to your situation About 10 years ago my husband did the same thing. He slept all the time,etc. I told him if he was not going to get checked out I was leaving. I could not take it anymore. My girls were 8 and 10 at the time. He was diagnosed with depression and has been taking medication and what a difference it makes. Maybe he has seasonal depression. Keep us informed.

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