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Gotta vent about DH!!!!


Posted: May 3, 2011

To make a long story short ... I have to see a specialist today as I have been having some medical problems.  This appointment has been scheduled for almost 3 weeks during which time I have asked my DH on several occasions if he would go with me, each time he states that he will.  Today, however, when he remembers that I have the appointment he "innocently" asked me if I needed for him to go, going on to state that he has a lot around the house that he needs to do.  This has hurt my feelings because, again, it is a specialist that I am seeing for something that can be quite serious, possible procedures are going to be discussed and I wanted him in the "loop."  Had I not asked him on multiple occasions already to go with me I would have asked him again but now I am just plain ticked off and hurt.  If the roles were reversed I would do everything within my power to be there with him if for nothing more than support.  Am I wrong to be upset?

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I think that you should tell him how you feel. - Kendra

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You should tell him that you feel hurt and why. I think that too often, we, as women, get angry with our spouses and don't give them the chance to do what would ultimately make us happy, thus robbing both of the chance to be happy with the outcome. My first reaction, if I put myself in your situation, would be to tell him to forget it--I don't need him, but wouldn't it work out better for the both of you if you sit down and have a calm conversation about it? Tell him that it hurts you and that you are scared and I'll just bet that you couldn't stop him from going.

re: HurtMt - me

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I had this same thing happen a couple of years ago! my husband later told me that he was scared for me and just was afraid that if it was something serious that he wouldn't have been able to stand it and felt like he could not have been strong for me. When he told me that he was sincere and I let him off the hook.

I was scared and still think he should have gone, but I understand where he was coming from. Tell your husband how you feel. Tell him you deserve an explanation.

You are right! - ooo

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I have the same problem with my husband about doctor's visits. Men just hate them and going to the hospitals is even worse for them. I tell mine to suck it up and he is going! You are entitled to feel hurt. Tell him how you feel and that you need him there for support.

Tell him YES I NEED YOU TO GO - and you are going, so get ta steppin'

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Period.

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