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Just need to vent

Posted: May 31, 2014

I'm sorry I just need to get this off my chest. I really only have one good friend, and she has her own troubles, so here goes... Last night, my husband's computer broke. He thought it was the video card, so we ordered a replacement for about $230. This morning, the computer is completely dead, won't even power up at all, so obviously more than the video card, which has already shipped, so I'll have to wait until it gets here, ship it back and get the refund minus the $25 shipping. So, he is throwing a fit because he has nothing to do now. I tell him that we'll go ahead and get him a new computer because I can't stand listening to him anymore. We ordered a $3800 computer, paid for partly through financing and partly with money from the savings account that is supposed to be saving up to buy a house. We barely have enough money for food. In fact, after paying the rent out of this paycheck, there is no money left, so I don't know how we are going to eat for the next two weeks. I haven't been able to go to the laundromat in about two months and have just been washing things by hand in the sink. I recently lost about 35 pounds and pretty much have no shorts or pants that fit, but we have had no money to get me even one pair of shorts that would probably be maybe $20. Yet, his computer breaks and we have to get it replaced immediately. I'm the only one that works, and as I'm sure you all know, I don't make that much money. He has been fighting a disability case for several years now and just got denied in the hearing level. Now, they are going to file an appeal, which could take another two years. He uses the computer to play video games because he has nothing else to do other than interrupt me at work every time he wants food or whatever else he wants from me. I'm just so tired and fed up. Now, he's angry because I have a scowl on my face so he says and he's bitching about that constantly. Sorry this was so long. If you actually made it through this, thanks for listening.;

sned back - the computer!

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Yikes! If you are the one working you need to put your foot down and take care of yourself first!

Secondly there is NO way he needs a $3800 computer. Either you got totally ripped off or he has a super computer well beyond what he needs. Even if he is a gamer and needs a decent PC to run them you can do it for well under $1500.

If I were you I would cancel the computer along with the video card and get something you aren't getting ripped off on or is way beyond what he needs.

Good luck to you! That sounds like a miserable position to be in :(

Divorce? WalMart Emachine for $300? - Who gets a $3K computer?

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Don't burden yourself with overgrown children or massive debt....

$3800 for a computer is a tad steep. My new one - does all but make coffee, only cost $600.

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What is his disability? - Logic

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I do agree with the other posters that you paid way too much for the new computer. I just bought a fully loaded Dell about six months ago for just over $1500, so you should shop around.

I to am disabled, yet I still work full time. It seems only logical that if he can sit in front of a computer all day playing games, he can certainly use it for work. Cable companies, department stores etc. hire people for customer service calls and data entry and they work from home. I'm assuming from your description that his mouth and hands still work so there is always telemarketing.

I know first hand how hard it is working with a painful disability, but I have gotten used to those little extravagances life has to offer, such as food, clothes, a roof over my head and a place to sleep.

I know this easier said than done, but you have to take control of the situation before it's too late.

I can't tell you what to do because I'm not in that situation and I don't know the whole story, but if it were me the first thing I would do would be to send back that expensive computer, get him one at a better price. Then I would take $200.00 and buy some clothes that fit! When he starts grumbling about the scowl on your face, tell the man the truth! You may also want to mention that he is a big boy and is certainly capable of making his own sandwich and opening a can of soup.

I could spend more than $20 on a pair of pants - but love more clothes so yesterday

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went to a thrift store close by and bought about 5 or 6 blouses. My cost was $20 and some change. I shop there frequently because I can get reasonable clothes, more for less than the store would charge.

I enjoy my fun & unique thrift store finds so much, - even if I had money, I would still shop there!

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Especially when it comes to cookware. I have tendency to incinerate all my pots and pans due to inattention (LOL), so why buy new? I just burn up the old ones, instead.

They talk to each other during these games. - Watch him play

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There is WOW game that is apparently like living in a fantasy. I knew a guy who was about 35, met a woman through this game and they married (and divorced). but they become families with the game, and quite cozy apparently since this guy and gal felt close enough to hook up and move to Montana. big mistake but if your husband spends a lot of time gaming, see if he is connecting with anyone such as another lonely unemployed married woman.

You cannot take chances in this economy. Google Greg Hunter of USA Watchdog. they are projecting the dollar to collapse to 0 value. that is 1.00 will buy you nothing. Resulting from QE - which created dollars on printing press to bail out troubled banks, etc.

If you lose your job, OP, what then? You are on a life boat alone but carrying the weight of another person. Sometimes, love is not enough.

I'd bail...rent a room in someone's house, gather enough for a deposit and find a divorce lawyer..he'll probably sue for support actually but living with someone who is on the computer everyday, expecting 3 full meals and complains about you "always working" sounds like no fun to me. It must hurt to live this way. Being alone at least, with your cats, would be low stress.

Seriously, ladies, we are living in very frightening times. This is no time to play games. This man could be recycling plastic/cans/bottles if nothing. He sounds like a parasitic spoiled brat really but I know how one grows fond of another and how hard it is to leave..which is why I have been alone for so long, maybe. but I have pets who are my joy too.

Games - OP

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He used to play WoW, and he did talk to the people in his team. The new game he doesn't really talk to anyone. However, I am not worried about him finding a woman online. Really, that would be perfect. She could have him, and then if he actually married her, I wouldn't have to pay any support to him. It does hurt to live this way. The problem is he would never let me take the cats with me, so I would have to leave them.

whoever buys the pet food keeps the pets - The cats would go with me no matter what

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If you pack up your stuff and find another place to live without this leach of a loser, you take the cats with you. Period. How's he gonna buy food and litter?

Cats - dazed and confused

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If you put it in the divorce papers and he agrees they are yours You just have to make a point in saying that if you leave the cats with him they will starve to death because he isn't making any money to feed them. Also, you can put in the papers whatever you want about support. I cant believe they would be making you pay him support unless there are kids involved. Believe me, it took me years to get the nerve up to file for divorce. Just don't leave, this time see a lawyer and get out. I have been there with kids even and it is miserable. We get along way better now and he has actually kept a job for going on 2 months because I am not there to fill in the slack. Good luck.

oh HECK to the no! - In-House Lead

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Just quietly put them in their carriers while he's playing his dumb game and walk out the door. Done. He probably won't even notice you're gone for a couple of hours.

No way would any man keep me living miserably or without my cats.

We only have a finite number of years left in this life. If you're like me, you've already used up well more than half of what you've got left. Please get out and have some joy in your life.

Whoever makes the money has the say! - clb

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I hate to be all 1950s old fashioned and all that BUT if you are down to one income and going through some financial hardship, then he needs to realize the priorities. Housing, food, electricity for your computer so you can work, basic hygiene, and clothes.

Get yourself to Goodwill, St. Vinnie's, rummage sales, or resale shops and buy a few items you can mix and match. Wash your socks/undies in the sink. Stock up on rice, pasta, cannned items. If he still insists on a computer, either offer to share yours that he can use only if you are not working OR get the cheapest nicest basic computer you can find at Best Buy or the like and put it on credit and make payments. I paid $1200 for my E machine plus a printer/copier/scanner and my PC is good enough for MT. I paid $100 a month on my card until it was paid off.

If he grumbles, just say "well if you were the only one working and I had a fit about wanting a brand new whatever and you know we didn't have the money, would you let me have it?"

If he says no, then tell him TFB!

I hope you don't have kids or pets to feed.

That's not how all homes are run. And women don't stay home - barefoot and pregnant either

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I agree with most of your post.

The only thing I don't agree with is whoever makes the money has the say. In my marriage I am the one who makes the money, he doesn't. But he is still part of the family and he has equal say in financial decisions, but the good thing is he is reasonable. This isn't the 1950s anymore.

Second you don't under any circumstances tell your partner "TFB". That is rude and juvenile and only makes for a more difficult life with him/her.

If you want to be the deciding factor, the only one to make decisions and tell people TFB then you shouldn't be in a relationship to begin with.

Okay, let me be clear - clb

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First of all, I'm happily married. I have a job and hubby has a job. We have joint everything and have a budget and both get a say on our spending. We also have an agreement that we each can spend a certain amount on anything fun and not have to tell each other or ask first.

That being said, my OP was basically to tell her to put her foot down. Yes they are both in the relationship and share everything, but when it comes to money, he is selfish and immature! He needs to get his priorities in order. My hubby and I both work, pay our bills, and like to splurge now and then, but we pay our bills first! If nothing is left, then TFB. My man is responsible and not a child or selfish and would not just have to have a $3800 computer for his video games if we were down to one income and struggling to eat.

So, telling me not to be in a relationship because I would tell someone TFB is your opinion, but I'm not a doormat and would not stand for that type of behavior. Agree or don't, I don't care. I'm not all 1950s either (which is what I said in my OP) and hate to be all the man gets the say and I'm just the wifey in the kitchen, hee hee. Absolutely not! I fully agree that two people make a relationship and have equal say in everything, but IMO in this case SHE does not and HE is being a (fill in the blank). I just don't like to see a woman in that kind of relationship, as I've helped more than I care to admit. If being assertive makes me a B, then I'd proud to be one!

This is driving me crazy! What does TFB mean? The fat baby? Two free books? - Tall fruit basket? nm

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Too f...ing bad. NM - anony

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no messsage

Ooohh, TY. Maybe the poster with the hubby that anounces - everything should tell him this, lol nm

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Logically speaking - SM

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You need a savings account. It cannot be overemphasized how important a savings account is at this time. Your husband apparently has big expectations because the purchase of a 3800 computer at this time is financial suicide. Rebuilt computer for a couple hundred would be sufficient, even 2 computers at 400 each would make more sense (purchased from local shop which rebuilds them). Some people who can afford it, buy a new computer as often as new cell phones and their computers are barely used. It would be worth it just having a couple thousand dollars saved that would not be touched unless you lost your job.

You sound like me...are nice but resent being placed into a position where I have to say "no" and be the bad guy. But we are not kids here. If your husband has now worked/contributed to household income for 7 years, you really need to figure out something. If he has medical issues that prevent him from doing any type of work, he'd have a good excuse to not provide an income but if he plays on the computer all he, he can also work on the computer. We do it. So can he. If he sits around all day, he could be studying or training himself.

But the final thing I want to say is this: You need to look out for yourself. My grandmother always said a woman should have a hidden fund for herself that no one knows about and no one can touch. Defend it with your life. Because homelessness happens. I have a lady living with me who was at the woman's shelter. She has 2 sons who did not come to her rescue. She has burned bridges apparently but now at 54, she is about to hit a brick wall in this new world. I am letting her stay here for free and work on my house but I can see that she is disillusioned. I have given her money and each time I do, she runs out and spends it on food of all things. I watch her faithfully eat 3 full meals a day. She buys gourmet coffee (noncaffeinated) with her EBT card, 6.00 roast, cigarettes, beer, and basically justifies that. But a smarter woman would have taken that money and tucked it away, it could save her from sleepign on the streets because the shelter now has a 45 day limit to stay, and then 45 days before you are eligible to return there.

We have been turned into consumers through the media. Crackers and peanut butter with a cup of tea got me through my rough spots. The money was used for utilities but I can see that people are using their money for food which is very odd to me. Only explanation I can come up with is that people actually believe we are in a temporary recession.

Good luck. I hope there is deep love in your relationship. If not, I would begin making plans to flee just to save my own life. Several years is a long time to fight for disability...I expect it is a losing battle, especially now, when cuts to these programs are being entertained.

I noticed your saying she apparently burned - bridges. It could have been the other way around

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My daughter stopped speaking before Mother's Day. I knew from her posting on FB that she had money issues. I suggested something that cost no money, like helping me hang some pictures in my home and she could get me a candy bar. Said we could celebrate on Saturday because she always tells me she wants to stay home on Sundays as she has to wash her hair, do this and that. She blew up at me because she thought I was trying to tell her what to do. No call, nothing since the week before Mother's Day. It is not always the mothers who are to blame. I thought I was suggesting something to save money, etc. and this.

True. I do not know the whole story. - Mother's day was quiet for her.

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Burning bridges in a town you grew up in will land a person in a homeless shelter. No friends to offer a sofa to her came forward but she excused that away. I think she may have a personality disorder but I am no expert. She went to an interview with a job which offered 12/hour. She asked for 14/hour. Of course, she did not get the job. She is a 54 yr old woman who has lived hard (drinking, smoking, drugs in past perhaps). But she is intelligent and if she tried (fixing her hair and wearing professional clothes), she would be considered possibly. She takes liberties with my house I find odd as well - for instance I purchased plants for garden, as I put one every year, came outside one day (work late shift) and she had put garden in, created a fence and after just 2 weeks, had taken over the backyard...I was stunned and offended because that is how I get exercise and sunshine. What could I say? It just made me cranky and sorry I ever considered this.

Sometimes when grandchildren are born, those children who are absent on Mother's Day suddenly realize what being a mother is. This

Thanks for the support - OP

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Thanks to everyone who read my post and offered support. To answer some questions -

His disability is degenerative disk disease. He will absolutely not get a job because he says it will mess up his disability case, not to mention his excuse that his trade was construction and he has no experience in office work.

The computer is a custom-built Alienware, and according to him, he absolutely cannot competitively game on a cheaper computer. I've even expressed that I find it very hard to believe that all those people playing that game have $3000 computers.

I can barely get him to eat soup and a sandwich, let alone make it for himself. I have to make a menu each week with three meals a day planned. If he accepts a sandwich, he acts like he is doing me a great favor by "taking things easy on me".

No kids, but I do have two cats. Their food gets bought first out of my paycheck, so they are fine.

If I took money for clothes, he would flip. I had to go through a huge fight when I spent $4 on some moisturizer because I did not consult him before buying something I didn't need. After all, our financial situation is my fault, just like most things are my fault.

I have wanted to leave him for years and actually have a couple times. He doesn't leave me alone. If I ignore his calls, he starts calling everyone I know and telling them I am crazy and having an "episode". He tells people that we really don't even know that well that I am bipolar, which I have never been diagnosed as being. I was taking an antidepressant a few years ago, but that doesn't make me bipolar. The last time I left, he threatened to throw away my mother's ashes. Every time, there is always some similar nasty threat to get me to come back. It's horrible to live with someone you never know what is going to set them off and start a big fight. I know it is my own fault for staying and I should just leave regardless of the consequences, but it is really easier said than done. especially when your spirit and self-esteem have been getting beat down for years.

Anyway, thanks for listening. Like I said, I don't really have any friends or family to talk to.

gamer here - he does NOT need to spend that much

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I am a gamer and have been for the last 15 years or so. I play a lot, 30+ hours a week at least. I manage just fine with my computer that was around $1000. I can't run everything (most games I can though) on the highest settings, but I most certainly can play any game out there on at least medium settings.

Alienware computers really are a big rip off. I'm surprised he doesn't know that...they look nice but you can certainly get something with similar specs for A LOT cheaper.

If you look online at newegg or tigerdirect you will find computers specifically built for gaming that are under $2000.

Cancel the alienware though! It's not worth it and you are getting ripped off.

Comment and a suggestion - sm

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You are living with an emotionally and verbally abusive parasite. He was denied disability because he is not disabled ... he is just a lazy, unpleasant, manipulative creep. Of COURSE he doesn't want you to leave! You are his free meal ticket, gourmet cook, luxury hotel maid, and toy supplier, and a victim for his nasty disposition.

It can be very difficult to see your way out of a situation like that. The link below has some free articles that may help you. They helped me.

One book they publish, "It's All Your Fault," is about recognizing and dealing with high-conflict people, many of whom have personality disorders (especially borderline PD). You can get the Kindle version and download the free Kindle reader to your PC...he'll never know.

Another great help to you would be "The Verbally Abusive Relationship" by Patricia Evans. It will help you see how he beats you down, so maybe you can get your self respect back.

From the description you give, he fits the borderline mold. Having to walk on eggshells around him, his telling lies to family and friends to destroy your reputation, the criticism, the threats.

My mother was one of those people. I recognize them a mile away now, and you have one. Please, get those books and read them. They will at least help you understand that you are not the problem.

Next time you leave him, have a friend keep your valuables and you mom's ashes, and just tell everyone in advance why you left him so they won't be surprised when he calls.

File for divorce and get a restraining order ASAP - clb

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Store all your valuables/money in a safe deposit box or else with someone you trust and then take your cats and leave. Change your phone number, email. Cancel everything in your name. Your post made me so mad...what a jerk!

Make a plan, find some help, and get - anon

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out of this situation as quickly as possible (and leave him with the computer to pay for). This is an abusive manipulative situation.

Fed up - dazed and confused

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I just got a divorce from someone like your husband. I could not stand it seeing him playing computer games all day while I worried about finances. He got fired from a ton of jobs from 2009 to recently. I finally got to the breaking point and left him after 20 years of marriage. I guess you will get to your breaking point too someday. I wish you well.

Good for you. - OP

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Glad you were able to leave. I hope I manage to find the strength to do it someday soon too.

Where do you live, OP? - In-House Lead

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I'm already plotting on how to help you bust outta there. Hee hee...

Get him a library card and send him - there to sit on the computer!

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Or like other poster said, there is $300 E-machine. We have used one for years. Get him a used one. Maybe rich people can afford $3800 computers, but those of us at M*Modal CAN'T!!!!!

And try to get some counseling. Sounds like your stress level is through the roof.

If it were me, I'd leave. Sorry. - Life is too short.

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I've chosen not to have children and I would be pretty pissed if the man I married turned out to be a child instead of a partner.

You mentioned in a post that it would be OK if he met another woman in one of his games and they got married.

Think about that statement for a while. If you want to leave, don't wait for the universe to work it all out for you.

Thank you all for the advice - OP

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The support from all of you is so appreciated. I know I need to make a plan and leave. I'm hoping to get enough money saved up to get my own apartment. It's going to be tough getting out of here. It's not like he is just going to stand there and let me pack my things and take the cats and go and he rarely leaves the house. We are together pretty much 24/7. But I know I need to stop making excuses about why I can't do it and focus on figuring out how to make it happen. Life is too short and I've wasted so much of it already.

He sleeps doesn't he? I would do a few things - sm - XXX

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on the down-low while he sleeps. If he plays on his computer all day doubt he even notices what you do. I hope you are renting since he won't be able to keep up with any payments on a mortgage (or rent of course) and will have to be evicted in the long run, but not your problem. Contact an abuse hotline, talk to them, get an escape plan worked out. They can help you form your plan, probably help you find an apt, how to get your cats out, etc. Take everything with you that you cannot stand to be parted with as you already know he will probably destroy anything you care about that you leave behind. I hope you can get out soon, I am sure you will be much happier in the long run. Good luck.

He'll dog her for a while but eventually be gone - Been there Done that

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Oh, I can see it now, a grown man crying alligator tears, telling her how he will change, and that he did not realize how upset she was...and beg her not to leave him, on his knees, that she is his world and without her, he would not be able to survive.

But that is what they all say. I've dated/lived with those types. They are parasites, have mother issues and have stunted maturation level of about 12 years old.

What we have a hard time seeing is that with people like this, they either drag you down to where they are to make themselves feel better or, if you are the stronger personality, come up to where you are or leave because they can't fill the role of a responsible adult.

So, you are basically trading ~it all~ in to avoid an unpleasant scene by staying. You sound middle aged and the clock is ticking. Being old and in poverty is hell on earth, they say.

I wish you all the luck in the world, and I have - been in the same situation.

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We were both home together 24/7 in a place where we didn't really know anyone, had been together for 14 years. I was working, he wasn't.

It was really hard, mostly because of his volatile personality, but once I left I never looked back.

I wish you luck and hope that you feel the same euphoria and weightlessness that I did when I left, even though I literally had nothing but my car and 2 days' worth of clothes. I was walking on air.

You must be mad at your money.... - $3800 for a computer....

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is absolute insanity, especially for someone to play games. I'd buy him a deck of cards and when he got bored with that he could get up off of his rear and work like a man should. I would never, and I mean NEVER, spend time with an adult man who plays video games. It's childish and immature, just like crying about not having a computer. Shame on him!

to the poster above who says adults - who game are childish

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The OPs husband sounds like he may be a bum, but don't group all gamers into that category!

There's nothing wrong with adult men (or women) who play video games. Millions of them do it, and they aren't all bums who dropped out of school and smoke weed all day.

Speaking as a mid 30s female gamer, I have met hundreds of other adults with respectable professions (doctors, lawyers, engineers, teachers, military personnel, university students, etc.) who love gaming. Sure they are some who still live in mom's basement, don't work, and get high all day, but they are a lot less common than those who act like adults and hold down jobs.

I game a lot. I got started 15 or so years ago and I enjoy it immensely. I would rather game than sit and stare at the TV. Glad you see me as childish and immature though! Don't knock it if you haven't tried it!

I agree with you...gaming can be fun - clb

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You sound like a mature, responsible, able to work and contribute to society but like to come home from work and play online games to destress adult. Good for you! I am married to a gamer myself. He works all day, comes home tired and stressed out, and likes to play for a bit. No big deal. He's not at the bar, gambling, or doing God knows what else. He is at home with me and having some game time and then he's normal again. I've played with him too sometimes and it is a great stress reliever to cast a spell on something or shoot something. But we all do it on our free time after work and after we've taken care of our responsibilities. And my man does not ignore me all day to play either. If you want to sit up all night gaming because you don't work tomorrow, then have it!

IMO, OP's gamer man wishes he could be a professional gamer and play for money. Dream on!

Yes, there is a big difference from the pot-smoking still living at home in mom's basement lazy loser and someone like you. So go ahead gamer, play away!

and it also increases your hand/eye coordination - and reaction time!

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A lot of surgeons are gamers.

Get your geek on!

This is like when son told me playing war games will help if we - are ever invaded. He was serious!! lol nm

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What is it that you like about this man? He doesn't sound very caring. And he has nothing to do? How about laundry, dishes, helping around the house/hard. If I were you, I'd head for the hills. And no more charging stuff to baby him... turf him to the curb.

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First time a budget was passed on time BUT he wouldn't sign it until he got the "little" extras he was asking for in amendments. Sort of like blackmail. Threats were made about layoffs and unpaid state workers....well, in this budget, he cut Medicaid funding, library funding, firefighter funding and more. He is still talking about laying off some workers and he's "sorry about that but at least PA residents don't get a tax hike." First, the extras adding items arelike: ...

Jan 10, 2012
I am sitting here so depressed. I have two adult daughters and five grandkids. My oldest daughter is a widow (her husband was killed in Afghanistan in 2005) with two kids. She is a professional photographer. She took a picture of my other daughter and her kids which I fell in love with and when I asked her if I could have one, she said the price is $80 (black and white, 8 x 10). Needless to say with my lowly wages as a transcriptionist I could not afford it. She has become miss high and mighty e ...

Dec 03, 2010
Is there an increase in child abuse lately? Have I just become more aware of it since I have 2 toddler grandkids, or is it just that the media is covering it more. I saw where a 7-year-old girl was locked in a cold attic for months for bedwetting by her grandmother. She was beaten and starved. She had chunks of bald spots on her head from having her hair ripped out. She had a broken foot. The grandmother said she was raising her grandchildren and was "doing th ...

May 20, 2013
a dryer outside and not sure what to do as I have been going to the laundramat. What a pain this is. There is just no way to vent outside. This is electric we have. ...

Feb 27, 2014
I recently talked to a young man who got married in December 2012. They keep mentioning they never got to be newlyweds. I am sorry but i dont understand - they got a 1 week honeymoon, came home to their own apartment, then 3 months ago decided to move back in with his parents to "save money, pay off bills, and get a fresh start" Ummm you only been married 9 months - and one of you came into the relationship with bad credit - these are young people 25 and 26. Now living wi ...

Dec 23, 2010
Every year at Christmas my hubby is able to take two weeks off, which is wonderful for him but is beginning to stink for me. By the time his vacation is over I will be extremely resentful towards him and I hate that. In years past he has always done everything he can to help me out while I am working, cleaning the house, wrapping presents, picking up little odd and end gifts, etc. However, this year all he has done is lay on the couch and sleep after sleeping until 11:00 every ...

Mar 09, 2010
Just a vent, frustrated at one my younger daugher's troop leaders. They have a goal of 170 boxes per girl to sell. Generally if she gets 30 boxes on her own we are lucky I drive them to all the neighbors (14), and hit up grandparents (have agreement with siblings not to bug them with this sort of stuff), and we sell about 60 boxes that way. But.I have two daughers in two different troops. So I take them out soliciting here and they split the sales.&nb ...

Jul 29, 2010
I bow to no political party. I just wanted to get that out up front before people start bashing me for what I'm about to say here. I live in Indiana and I'm annoyed that Dan Coats is running for senate. This man is a lawyer, politician, and lobbyist. That right there makes me not trust him. Dan Coats worked as a lobbyist and the firm he worked for was hired to advocate for a cap-and-trade proposal. Now that Dan Coats is running for senate in Indiana ...

Jun 14, 2010
Thank heavens, no children in their 11 years, but his ex won't leave him alone. She's constantly calling him wanting money or furniture, or just to hassle him. She had taken everything out of the home they once lived in and he only wound up with a kitchen table and chairs. That's it. Now she wants that back. He's going to do it hoping she will get off his back. BTW, she used to hit him when they would fight. He came over one day with red marks all over his ch ...