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Thankful for my health but can't help but be depressed...
Posted: Dec 19, 2011
I must say after doing some reports where people are not near as healthy as I am I am thankful for that. I can't help but be depressed though because Christmas this year is not much at my house. My husband lost his job in October and got another one in November (thankful for that) but it is only part time. He may go a week without any work or work everyday some weeks. But mostly he hasn't got to work much. We are doing all we can to keep our heads above water much less buy Christmas. When you have a 13-year-old its hard cause they resent not having the money to buy all the things they would like. He's still gonna have things but he is spoiled and wants more than we can do. I see relatives shopping till they drop, sisters-in-law, and it depresses me cause I haven't even got to hardly buy anything because I am so broke. One sister-in-law has been posting pics of their Christmas vacation to Gatlinburg, TN to the mountains. It is so beautiful! I'm so glad they are able to go but I sometimes think why do I have to be BROKE. I would just be happy being able to buy my Christmas nevermind a vacation. I will be fine, and I am better off than some people. At least I have a home and food with electricity but it just gets you down sometimes when you think about it. ;
me too - look at others
[ In Reply To ..]I know the feeling. I am single and have no one I really NEED to buy for Christmas, but would like to get my great-nieces and nephews something. I have no insurance right now as I just started my THIRD MT job for the year and have a large clinic bill and have trouble paying in part of the bill each month. Just went to a discount store for the tune of $56 for things that are really necessities. That sux for being a single person. Can't fathom what others might be going through and have families to support. And I have only a few years to possible retirement, but retire on what? Even the money my deceased husband left me in annuities, etc is dwindling fast (I know he would have had no clue what would happen with his money, he thought he had me set for many years. And I hear that my nieces and nephews are buying all kinds of things and new houses and spend big bucks on stuff for their kids and I am just amazed they have the money to do it. My 90yo mother laying in a bed in a nursing home paralyzed, with only income of my dad's retirement and a few annuities, had more of a taxable income than me last year, that really sux too. And the money she made will not get her 4 months in a nursing home. That scares me too, I have no kids and what to do when I am nursing home material. Never thought we would have to live like this.
Something I remember - Same Boat
[ In Reply To ..]I remember my mom saying more than once "There's no shame in being poor, but it's no fun either." I know how you feel. Some say you should not focus on money, but the lack of it causes tremendous stress, and yes, depression. I hope things turn around for your family, and I am wishing you the best.
Slim givings this year from me - empire lady
[ In Reply To ..]I am only able to give a small gift to my niece and nephew this year, no one else. Thank goodness I have a smaller family. I refuse to feel bad about it though. The facts are the facts, I simply cannot afford to buy gifts for everyone and pay my mortgage and bills too. Thankfully, the rest of my family understands and have no problem with it.
As to the 13-year-old, now is as good a time as any for him to begin to understand that life is not all about "things," especially in this economy. Children all over this nation had to learn that lesson in the 1930s during the Depression. Trust me, this economy isn't going to get any better any time soon.
For me, the lesson in this economy is learning that life is about what we put into it helping our fellow men/women/children and learning to get by on what we have and not be caught up in the buying frenzy that this country has been on for the past 20 years. Also, I've learned to be grateful for family and friends who I know will stick by me through thick and thin. That, to me, is the true meaning of Christmas.
So, keep it simple, and hopefully your son/children will begin to appreciate the sacrifice that is made for what they do receive. It doesn't have to be a doom and gloom situation; it's all in the presentation.
I'm not speaking from some lofty, "safe" place either. I may very well lose my home in the next year, the home I could easily afford 8-9 years ago when I purchased it. I'm single and have no 2nd income, period. However, I know my friends and family will help if they can, just as I would them if the situation were reversed.
Family and friends are what is truly important.
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