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anyone else depressed about getting old?
Posted: May 12, 2011
I'm talking the physical signs. I've been steadily gaining weight since mid 30s, my arm and shoulder skin is starting to sag, and all the fat is accumulating in my midsection. My butt has lost its shape, I have grayish skin and spider veins. The skin around my eyes is loose, my skin is pale and pasty looking, hair is fading to an unhealthy color, lips are thinning out, and I look like a corpse with makeup on. Sometimes I don't even feel like bothering with it anymore. I might be exagerating a little bit here, but i'm gonna be 40 next year and thats fine, I just don't want to look like it! I sometimes walk past mirrors and feel startled and alarmed when I look at myself, and I refuse to look in mirrors while out in public. My teeth are straight, i'm healthy, eat right and do not smoke, have a great husband, but looking old bites the big one. How do you look young, vibrant and fresh anymore when it takes so much effort to do so and its often disappointing? How do you become at peace with aging!? Blah!
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You do what you can with the physical - appearance changing, i.e.,
[ In Reply To ..]micro-abrasion, drink lots of water, exercise then you reap the benefits of growing older - don\'t care so much what others think, speak your mind, become more graceful. I\'m in my late 40s and it\'s a much better life than before. I feel more comfortable being me and accept my limits in life. Can\'t stay out all night and party but don\'t want to. I would much rather wake up early with a cup of coffee while everyone else is asleep. The peace and quiet is deafening.
growing older - OP
[ In Reply To ..]I would love to be one of those aging gracefully women. They have an elegance and beauty about them.
re: old - 52 going on 53
[ In Reply To ..]A lot of the stuff you complain about, you can change! Get yourself to a gym or start on an regular exercise program. You'd be surprised how much of an improvement you'll see in your skin too. Exercising gets your blood pumping everywhere. Pasty skin is usually not enough natural sunlight and bad diet. Do NOT use tanning bed, get yourself outside, with a good SPF cream of course. Stop eating refined sugary stuffs, caffeine, a lot of meats. As we age, it's to our benefit to change our diets. Fruits, veggies, grains, a vegetarian diet even...
Drink WATER WATER WATER for plumping the skin and improving how your hair looks and feels, take vitamin E and zinc, AND B12 for a natural boost instead of coffees, teas and sodas.
If makeup makes you look like a corpse, get yourself into a Sephora or Ulta or something for a good skin cream and make up class and consultation.
Veins can be fixed if you are really bothered by them, but remember (if you are an MT...) sitting down for long periods of time will do that. Take breaks and WALK.
as far as getting depressed because you are aging... Honey the sooner you deal with it and accept it the better! Ya ain't gonna go backwards at this point, and if you're depressed at almost 40, what's gonna become of you at 45, 50 and so on???
There is no fountain of your or miracle cream or pill. Good looks at this point come with A LOT of hard work! There is nothing easy about it, so turn that "so much effort" frown upside down and get to it! Lift that butt, burn off that belly fat, melt it away! Cruches, sit ups, jogging, bike riding...
Love yourself, love your life. Pass the torch, so to speak. We've had our youth and now it's time to enjoy our "middle years".
~Mona. Naturalist/nutritionist
great attitude! - OP
[ In Reply To ..]I know this is what it takes. I can no longer look good effortlessly. I have a bike that just sits in the garage, and I feel so good the few times I get on it and get the blood pumping. There are certain things that are hard to give up, like the coffee! I love it and I feel it helps me not be too obese if I drink a few cups a day. I do the fruits and veggies, and I drink about a half gallon of water a day. My hubby is 46 and looks like he is 29, its just not fair!
I thank you for your positive inspiration and attitude, it is a great way to be. I know I had my youth, but it is just hard to watch it slip away. I spend hours trying to revamp my hair style and watch endless youtube videos on makeup tutorials for aging women. It is more about acceptance and working at it just enough to be satisfied I guess *sigh*
I love all these replies - OP
[ In Reply To ..]I am glad i'm not the only one. Some of you are so positive (and funny, I have gotten a few giggles!). Aging is such a cruel joke, and I think it is something you have to prepare yourself for. That is why they call it the "aging process."
Someone mentioned tanning, I put some self-tanner on and it has helped the appearance of my skin. It is not yellowish but a healthy glow and it actually makes me look more in shape.
I think i'm at the beginning of a midlife crisis or something but these posts and the advice from all you ladies have made me feel better. :) I have taken it to heart.
Almost 58! My Two Cents - oaf
[ In Reply To ..]Think young. Try to exercise and do the "good things" for your body. Keep a sense of humor and for God's sake Don't Act Your Age! Sometimes I see people who are in their 30s and 40s who act like they are 80. Good Grief! Aging is inevitable, but think of the alternative (6 feet under Baby). Just enjoy life no matter where you are. Dwelling on it will just stress you and guess what stress ages you!
Yes - Shirl
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re: Shirl - sssassy
[ In Reply To ..]ew... dreadlocks at 49??.
I was at the salon one day when they were cutting off this lady's dreadlocks. P.U.... the stink was retched. she also said she liked it 'cause you only had to shampoo a couple of times a week.
Beauty after 35 is work. Nothing more, nothing less. Exercise, eating right, finding the cosmetics that work for you, the clothes that flatter your figure... so on.
Me too - desperado
[ In Reply To ..]Really feeling and seeing it this past year, am going to be 59. Spent many years in the sun, have had several basal cells, etc, so big factor, but still feel it's important to get out in the sun a bit when I can, know what you mean about feeling pasty, rearend spread, etc. My hair has also taken a noticable major hit just this year, really thinning. I'm no beauty by any means, but was always fairly comfortable with myself the way I was until last couple of years and kind of stumped where to start to improve things.
I think some of the other posters have some great answers to help and I mean to take some of that advice myself. You are way too young to be feeling this way about yourself, hon. Please think about the exercise, water, etc. I think this job really does a number on us as far as putting on weight, pasty looking, etc., and takes much more effort to maintain physical conditioning. When I was your age, was very active, didn't have a job where I sat all day, had my last baby at age 38 and was probably in the best condition of my life at that point in time and the happiest time of my life since I had trouble conceiving over the prior 10 years.
Would your husband be interested in starting some type of exercise with you? Kind of fun thing to do together. I'm aiming to just start walking every day when the weather gets nicer just to get a little start, also makes me feel better just knowing at least I'm doing something.
I'm not trying to scare you that it's going to be terrible being older or anything. Your post just hit a note with me today because I've been feeling many of the same things. I have no skills in hair styling or makeup at all, never messed much with it due to my job in the past, but now wishing I wasn't quite so challenged in applying a bit of makeup or something to liven me up a bit. Think a bit of exercise, diet, water are going to have get me going to a better attitude about myself at this point.
Sorry so long, but just wanted you to know that there are probably many of us in the same boat with these feelings and kind of overwhelming knowing where to start. But whatever I do, know it's going to have be a major adjustment in attitude about getting older than I've had this year and get to a place to be comfortable with myself and the stages that we all hopefully are around to enjoy in life.
Just turned 53 - you just described me
[ In Reply To ..]Well everything except skin fading, lips thinning, but yes I do feel old and I think I look old. Inside truthfully I feel in my late 60s, I think I look late 50s, but I keep remembering my school days and growing up like they just happened a few months ago. I don't feel startled when I look in the mirror, but I do feel sad that I look the way I do (and yes I know there is something I can do to change it, just haven't done so yet). A lot of the way I feel right now is due to my marriage and bouts of depression. Not saying my marriage is bad, just lonely sometimes, but I have good days and bad. I'm 50 pounds overweight, my hair has lost its youthful appearance as is my skin and sagging body.
I will take the advice of some of the posters here and I saw a post about hair care products below I am going to try. I've also taken out my old Jane Fonda video exercise and I'm determined to force myself to do one hour a day exercise at night before I sit down to watch TV. I know there are a lot of better exercises videos/DVDs, but if she gets me back in the mood to exercise it does the job.
I'm also going bald (another reason why I look older), and I've been looking up natural ways to remedy that. Always been interested in natural health care and I've found some very interesting websites/newsletters, so reading a lot of what I can do and supplements/vitamins to take that will fit my needs.
I definitely would say to following the advise of everyone that wrote. At your age I'm sure you'll be able to pick yourself back up and feeling better within no time. At 53 it will take me longer, but I'm determined to do it.
Thanks everyone for your advice too.
As far as changing appearance, the things - that have helped me are
[ In Reply To ..]using a cleanser and moisturizer with glycol. It peels off the top layer and makes you look less "wrinkly". Also, getting your hair colored. Throw in a couple of red streaks for the heck of it. Pick a program you love (I watch baseball, believe it or not) and you only get to watch it if you get on that exercise bike or stretch. Getting older just means knowing thyself and looking out for yourself too. Guess it takes us this many years to finally look out for ourselves.
sm - desperado
[ In Reply To ..]I remember those Jane Fonda exercise tapes, mine were on VHS! I think she's got new ones for the older bunch now.
I think the hair thing (also going bald) has got me the most bothered. Have done a bunch of research on it, don't know why I couldn't be one of those postmenopausal women with beautiful graying hair... but I'm not and doesn't look like much to be done about it except maybe a new style, which on my hair now is going to be difficult because I think I'll look bald in places no matter what style. I've had most every lab test done just to be certain I'm starting out with a normal baseline, thyroid tested several times in the last couple of years.
I'm also suffering from a bit of what I think is loneliness for husband, who seems to have lost interest in me physically and makes it all seem worse. But, I'm going to try and start walking and try to build from there.
Exercise is the closest tting we have to a fountain of youth - LK
[ In Reply To ..]People don't really like to hear this, but regular (preferably strenuous) exercise is the best tool we have to keep looking young. That helps prevent the weight gain, makes your skin look better, and gives you more energy. It's especially important for MTs, who sit on their butts most of the day. I've been exercising regularly (4-5 days a week) since I was in my early 30's. I'm 55 now and look pretty decent. Shortly after I turned 55 I was carded in the grocery store where I usually shop by a young man that I had never had as a cashier before. When he looked at my license, he quickly looked up at my face and kind of did a double take and just said "Oh." That was it. He obviously didn't take a close look the first time, but I have a pretty youthful looking figure, a youthful and stylish shoulder-length hair style (I highlight my hair,not much gray yet). People tell me that I look like I'm in my early 40s, and I attribute it all to exercise and a decent diet.
re: getting old - I'm 60
[ In Reply To ..]I am told often that I don't look my age, that I have great skin, that I have fabulous hair... I love the compliments!
BUT, like the person above said, there is no miracle pill or fountain of youth. You can do something about it or just keep wishing you that you'd look better and continue getting depressed.
You have to really WANT to take care of yourself. At this stage in my life, I agree, it is nothing but work! But the end result is so worth it. I have no health issues, am on NO medications except vitamins and feel energetic and youthful. My doc says I am in fabulous health and have good bones too.
My favorite exercise is dancing! My and DH go dancing a lot! But you have to do it, you have to have to have to WANT TO DO IT.
I gave up sugars and caffeine and red meat years ago. Not a vegetarian, but eat more fish like salmon and tuna than any beef or chicken and no more pork.
You have to come to peace with aging or you'll be depressed. I hope you get happy someone.
I encourage everyone who is having trouble coping with aging and fading beauty to think about getting professional help too. Maybe some meds and help will get you motivated enough to get to exercising, which in turn produces natural endorphins! Happy juice!
Best to all.
I embrace it and take advantage of - No name
[ In Reply To ..]the senior discounts and people helping me lift/carry heavy things, getting treated with more respect, etc., that never happened before the gray hair. I have not had to change a tire myself since turning 55 (at which point my hair was almost totally gray). I do not have a problem with the natural aging process as there is nothing that can be done about it anyway. However, I am fortunate that approaching 60 I am in good health and am still able to do the things I love such as backpacking and gardening.
backpacking - desperado
[ In Reply To ..]Used to do a lot of backpacking, hiking, camping, etc. Would love to get back in shape to do again. Husband might like since is backpacking is really his thing since teenage years. Thanks for posting. Incentive to thinkg about and possibly help renew his interest in me. Feel sometimes with working this job (2 jobs right now) that I've become boring. just wish I had more time...
Forgot to mention - desperado
[ In Reply To ..]Forgot to mention one thing I know is important is muscle mass. Up until about 47, I did fairly regular moderate weight training and had pretty good muscle tone. Don't have the time right now or funds to join a gym but have found some of my hand weights and a coule of weeks ago ordered a body bar because I thought it would be good since it's balanced and can do some squats, rows, etc. better than with hand weights. I've lost most of my muscle mass, and I think that when I let that go, it has tended to cause weight gain in my middle area more. I think important to try to keep up muscle as we age for a lot of reasons. going to try to get some back but not sure possible at my age after having let it go. Anyway, just another idea to try a bit of weight training of some sort mixed in with exercise. I've looked at those kettle balls on line and seemed interesting but went with a body bar for now. Anyone out there had any success putting on some muscle in later age? Is it possible?
re: desperado - yessirree
[ In Reply To ..]yes, absolutely! weights are the best for building back muscle. go for it!
It is how you look at yourself. sm - Tabby
[ In Reply To ..]I had this same problem. I have felt like I am "mom" and nobody else. Three weeks ago my hubby of 23 years apparently had enough of it. He wanted me to be "me" again. We had an "extremely" long discussion.
I do not work out so I am working on that one. I am not large anymore. I used to weigh over 200 but in the last year and a half I have managed to get it down to 136 pounds. Proud of that definitely. However, I have started tanning (yes in a 12-minute tanning bed - I know some will disagree with this). Yet, just having some "color" made me feel sooooo much better. I actually feel sexier.
Since I have lost all of my weight, I really have not bought myself any new clothing or undergarments, etc. Well I splurged last week and bought what I consider "sexy" panties. Just wearing those.... Wow!
Seeing yourself as a sexy, beautiful person will build more self-esteem than anything. You have to decide what is going to make you feel that way.
Forty is NOT old by no means! We are just getting started. Love yourself and everyone around you will love you too. You will feel life change. Listen to all the advice given. I have learned even more from the advice given to you! Thank you for your post.
I just wanted to say - OP
[ In Reply To ..]Congrats on your transformation! I do not think I will see 136 ever again, but I will try and get down a few pounds at least to chisel some of the pudge from my face and esp my stomach. That takes incredible hard work, way to go! I am also on Lexapro and I think antidepressants make it hard to lose weight. I am motivated to try a little harder though, I know it can be done and i'm excited to see some results.
re: OP - no more meds
[ In Reply To ..]I had opposite results while on Lexapro and other anti depressant medications! I lose a lot of weight. I threw them all out and started to work on natural cures for depression. I look back now and can't believe that once we get into that funk, we are soon in over our heads. Exercise is PARAMOUNT for mental health. Please, talk to your doc about tossing out the pills and get yourself on a regular exercise regimen. Yoga is fantastic! Diet and exercise. Such a simple concept, so easy to put into motion, yet those first steps to making it happen can overwhelm us. Take baby steps, start with long, leisurly walks, alone or in a walking group. (I'd encourage in a group, because you can talk and that in itself is great, walking and talkign!) then pick up some hand weights and take them walking with you, add ankle weights and before you know it you're looking forward to the walks! Step it up and jog here and there during the walk and build on from their.
I was a couch potato when I wasn't working and had a flat behind and instead of a muffin top I had a bundt cake top! My mother (yeah, mom!) started demanding that I accompany her to walk with her group and that's how it started.
I am 54, she is 75. She looks like she's my age! I am look like my old self, up to running 1 or 2 miles every other day, but more importantly; I feel better!
Relax. As you lose your eyesight - you will look better
[ In Reply To ..]When you get used to the bifocals, those nasty chin hairs and wrinkles won't be quite so noticeable. Look at the positive side. An arthritic neck makes it difficult to see that thigh cellulite. Your hubby will start to look better, too. What you can't see, isn't really there.
re: look better - sm
[ In Reply To ..]BOO! I wear bifocals, pluck the chin hairs and use a good cream on my wrinkles. You've let yourself go to pot and sound defeated. I hope you take some of this advice posted above to heart. There is never such thing as too old. There is always something you can do for youself, at any age.
My neighbor is 89 and we walk around the part across the street. She pumps her little fists like a boxer for upper body exercise too. She is inspirational and awesome. She still drives! She wears make up and gets her hair done still too.
It's never to late. never ever ever!
and more great advice - take care of your funny bone
[ In Reply To ..]taking yourself too seriously puts frown lines on your butt.
Yikes! Turning 40 today.. - Birthdaygirl
[ In Reply To ..]My 40th birthday is today, but gosh I just dont feel it! You have me worried with your description! I too have gained some weight since my early 30's, but not horribly obese. I color my hair, but only because I have since I was 16 and I really dont know what else to do with it! My grandmother is going to be 95 and she still colors her hair so she doesnt look old! LOL!! Anyway, I think if you feel old and act old your definitely going to look it. Age is just a number and I am certainly not going to let it get to me. Enjoy yourself. Get out and exercise a bit, color your hair, or just do something for you that makes you happy! Dont let it get you down. My grandma said to feel young and look young you have to trick your mind into believing you still are! :)
re: Birthdaygirl - sm
[ In Reply To ..]HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Hope it's wonderful.
It beats the alternative - mt1347
[ In Reply To ..]I'm 63 - I'm not depressed but I am noting the physical changes. However, doing this job, with all the drama and trauma that is involves, I realize how incredibly lucky I am to have my health and almost no physical aches and pains, the ability to stand up and walk around, etc. I also feel so much more confident and comfortable with myself than I did when I looked great back in my 30s, that I would not go back.
Surprising thing happened when I turned 50 - starstruck
[ In Reply To ..]Even as a child I was fearful of aging. When I figured out I would be 40 in the year 2000 I was upset as that seemed unimaginably old--weird because everyone in my family lives into their 80s and 90s, enjoys life, and are active practically up to the very last minute, so I don't know where the problem with aging came from. I had set up a very rigid life timetable for myself, always wanting to accomplish things by a certain age, but for some reason I could never envision myself at 50 (probably thought I would be beyond decrepit by then
The physical part of aging *is* hard, and other posters have made excellent suggestions on how to deal. I think the trick is not to compare yourself to younger people and especially not to your younger self. Shoot for attractive rather than gorgeous. How tough is it to look beautiful at 25?? Pretty 25-year-olds are a dime-a-dozen. But an attractive 40- or 50-year-old stands out. Be confident as that is always attractive. (And buy some Spanx until the confidence part comes naturally!)
Here's another idea - Go to thrift stores
[ In Reply To ..]I come out of those stores with a whole new wardrobe for about $30. I feel good that I got such bargains and can wear "new" things. It's uplifting. Plus, there are always older ladies doing the same thing and you can't wipe the smiles off their faces.
Age is a number - Karen
[ In Reply To ..]Many years ago on my 24th birthday a much older co-worker told me that I was "24, only a year away from 25 which is half way to 50!" That was the worst year of my life! The next year, same co-worker put a sign on the back of my chair that said "One quarter of a century old." Needless to say, after feeling ancient at only 25, 30, 40 and 45 have all been downhill! I have begun lying about my age though, my 9 year old has lost a couple of years and now thinks I'm still only 42, the same age as his dad, so I let him think it! LOL
I'm in my mid-60s but still think I'm in my 20s. That helps. - Backwards Typist
[ In Reply To ..]I did look at a picture of myself from the 70s and thought, "I had a body then!" Now I'm a pear, but it doesn't bother me. DH still tells me I look good.
My hair is thinning, too, and for that reason, try to keep it short. I'm still blonde, no gray hair except for a streak that you can barely notice, but I do have a problem with facial wrinkles. Under my eyebrows, the skin has fallen so much that I have trouble seeing at times, plus my eyelashes are a lot shorter and sparse. I used to have real long, thick eyelashes. Eyes were my best feature but they're gone now. (sniff, sniff).
I was never one for the sun since I'm so fair-skinned and I burn too easy. That's one of the reasons I don't have too many wrinkles. Genetics is the other. Neither my mom or dad had any until they were in their mid-70s.
Think young and that's half the battle. As others said, exercise will help and drinking lots of water helps, too.
BTW, I've had spider veins since my teens so that's nothing to do with aging. You could probably cover them with a little makeup.
Or cover spider veins with self-tanner - Ssej
[ In Reply To ..]That stuff works wonders for the skin. I put it on my face and look 10 years younger. Better than sunning.
Self Tanner - whiter than a sheet
[ In Reply To ..]Anyone have any suggestions for a self tanner that doesn't have that awful smell to it? Something about that smell just nauseates me and I can smell it for a day or two after applying it. I think I have tried almost everyone on the drugstore shelves, can't afford the high priced Este, Clinique, etc. brands.
Have you tried Jergens Natural Glow Express? - Ssej
[ In Reply To ..]You get a tan in one day and I like the smell.
i love this stuff! - sm
[ In Reply To ..]I use it on my face as well as my body, and it looks like a natural glow that gets deeper with each application. No streaks, brown/golden and not yellow.
Jergens Natural Glow Express - whiter than a sheet
[ In Reply To ..]I have Jergens Natural Glow Firming in my bathroom right now and it has that odor, LOL. I also have banana boat (which doesn't smell that bad) and I have Lorel Sublime. I think it is the ingredient that makes you turn tan that has the order because they all seem to have the same odor. I guess I will just have to learn to live with it. Thanks for the suggestions.
Oh girlfriend, you need to shake it up - RubySoho
[ In Reply To ..]Hold those horses, chica, sounds like you're verging on depression over silly numbers that don't mean much in the big picture of life...except that getting older can and *does* mean getting better!
First of all, regarding the skin issues...What skin care line are you using now? My #1 pick is anything in the Creme de la Mer line. These are the only skin products (and I've tried them all) that really, truly did improve my skin. I started it at 40 and within about 7-10 days, my skin texture was smoother, my pores were visibly reduced in size, my jawline was firming up, and it just made me "glow." The stuff is pricey, no doubt about it, but IMO worth every penny. Heck, I've worked a couple of hours of OT just to replenish my supply of their moisturizer. If you can't afford the entire line (cleanser, toner, scrub, eye cream and moisturizer), just get the moisturizer. It's about $125 per ounce; nowadays with the tight economy, you can pick up 1/8 to 1/4 oz jars of it to try it for around $20 (I use the small jars for traveling and they seriously last about 60 days, enough to give you a good idea of how it will work for your particular skin). Get to Ebay and pick one up if you get a chance.
Now, about that hair color...Some chain salons, such as Super Cuts, offer coloring services for a fraction of what the more exclusive salons charge (my local one is $20-$50, depending on length of hair). Try going a shade or two lighter than your natural color as a pick-me-up. Or, try a color you've always wanted to try but never have (such as one of the fiery reds). Don't make the mistake of going dark; if you feel you're looking a little worn out and aging, dark colors can really make a person appear more harsh, so I'd suggest going up a notch or two. You can also treat yourself to just a new style to go with the new color for about $12 at a place such as Super Cuts. In just a couple of hours, you can walk out of there a whole new "you" and I guarantee you'll have more sparkle in your step.
Get yourself a couple of new outfits as a pick me up. They don't even have to be expensive. Target has Missoni doing a line for them and it comes out, I believe, this summer...Should be absolutely fantastic pieces and I'm goign to guess for $100 or less, you can treat yourself to 4-5 mix-and-match pieces, enough to feel like you have a whole new wardrobe. If you won't be wearing them all the time, hop on over to Payless Shoes during a BOGO sale and get yourself a couple of really cute pairs of shoes, too, to go with those new outfits.
For exercise and just "zen-ness" in general, have you ever tried yoga? GREAT for tightening up problem areas and improving flexibility. If you have cable, the exercise channel in my area broadcasts yoga classes from beginner all the way to advanced...all for free, all can be done without having to leave the comfort of your own home. Just a pair of sweat pants and a sports bra or comfy shirt (and maybe a mat if your floor is really hard) are all you need. It really does help to relax you and does WONDERS for your posture and "presence" in general.
I could go on and on with this, but I'll end it here on this note...For about $200 and a couple of hours a week in front of the TV trying out yoga or another exercise you enjoy courtesy of your local cable company, sample sized "luxury" products scored from Ebay, and a few new pieces to add to your wardrobe, and you're going to feel rejuvenated and vibrant again. We really *aren't* getting older...We're just getting better with each extra 12 months of life experience that we gain. I think we all hit a rut as you have at some point in our lives...The trick is to mix things up, shake things up, and embrace a whole new YOU.
Good luck to you!
There's an exercise channel? Didn't know. - Shirl
[ In Reply To ..]I'll have to check my channel lineup.
It is Comcast On Demand; channel 1; sports - then exercise.
[ In Reply To ..]You can also access it on-line. Comcast Exercise TV.
response - OP
[ In Reply To ..]I looked at the website that has the product line you suggested. Too expensive for me at this point, but that only means its effective right? At the moment I use Rhonda Allison, but will no longer afford that either, so the bulk of my facial care is Aveeno face wash, neutrogena and extra virgin olive oil for moisture.
Well, I took everyone's advice to heart and I have gone on two mile bike rides this week and have also ran my dogs. I am using the self tanner and as soon as my hubby gets paid I am getting the burgundy hair dye to spruce up a little bit. I am still out of shape and try to avoid the mirror too much but I am starting to feel firmer and maybe a little younger too.
I am trying to cut down the carbs and did fine yesterday until I had a craving for nachos, lol. Thanks for the support ladies.
Awesome! - Shirl
[ In Reply To ..]I might be joining you in the bike riding dept. The brakes went out on my car, and our moped needs the starter fixed; can't even kick start it. My daughter has a sweet pink old school style cruiser with a banana seat and a sissy bar. It just needs a basket to carry stuff in.
If you have slightly oily skin or problems with blackheads, using powdered milk works really well. The lactic acid breaks down the oils. I just sprinkle some in my hand, add a bit of water to make it creamy, and scrub away.
Eyebrows. Get them waxed, plucked, threaded, whatever. I notice when mine need to be spruced up that the shadows from the hairs makes my eyes look older.
This one is old, like, 80's old. Callanetics. One session and my waist and hips feel tighter. It's total instant gratification. I just fail to do it. A newer one that's similar is The Bar Method Body. It doesn't take quite as long, 45 minutes instead of 60. If you can score the Raquel Welch yoga tape, that's another good one. It's Bickram yoga; she made it before that particular series of poses wasn't allowed to be used on video/DVD by anyone other than the guy who started the Bickram studios. It's a long one, hour and 15 minutes I think, and it has some poses where you just want to quit, but it feels so good when you're done.
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I'm so depressed, it's literally almost unbearable at times. I have to find a way out of this. I've tried most antidepressants over the years, and the side effects make it just not worth it to me to take them. A couple of the OTC medications are pretty good, but with the same side effects of ankle swelling, hair loss, weight gain, and insomnia. I've been off everything for about two years, except I'm still hooked on Ambien, which I've weaned down to about 3 mg ...
So DepressedOct 25, 2014
I am in the depths of a major depressive episode (part of my bipolar disorder). This job doesn't help with that except to make it worse. I am partially retired, but due to financial constraints, can't fully retire for another 4 years. I just don't think I can make it that long. I'm under a psychiatrist's care, and I'm thinking maybe an increase in my meds or changing them altogether might be in order. Does anybody have any suggestions?& ...
Depressed HusbandApr 17, 2012
I have been married for 25 years and together we have two wonderful, grown kids, 20 and 22 who are still living at home. No problem with that. My husband has major depression which is usually (okay, about 50%) under fairly good control. He's on a couple of meds, which I'm not sure are still working right, but what little health insurance we have doesn't cover either mental health services or medications, so he's very resistant to going to a psychiatrist to get th ...
Job Burn Out Or DepressedApr 12, 2014
I have been a medical transcriptionist for 16 years. For the past 8 years I have been doing children's psychiatry full time and working for MModal part time. I dread each job now and it's a struggle to stay focused each day...I hate hearing day in and day out the sexual/physical abuse most of the children are put though and then I come home after a full day of hearing that and then I'm stressed working for MM/MQ. I'm thinking of going back to school (not sure ...
Thankful For My Health But Can't Help But Be Depressed...Dec 19, 2011
I must say after doing some reports where people are not near as healthy as I am I am thankful for that. I can't help but be depressed though because Christmas this year is not much at my house. My husband lost his job in October and got another one in November (thankful for that) but it is only part time. He may go a week without any work or work everyday some weeks. But mostly he hasn't got to work much. We are doing all we can to keep our heads above water much less buy Christm ...
Why I Wouldn't Be Entirely Depressed If Mr. Romney Did Win.Aug 27, 2012
(And we're mostly women here, after all). This was Sunday on Fox News. Mr. Romney: “With regards to women’s health care, look, I’m the guy that was able to get health care for all the women and men in my state,” Mitt Romney said in an interview on “Fox News Sunday,” before making sure to attack Obama’s law. “There’s talking about it at the federal level, we actually did something. And we did it without cutting Medicare and without raisi ...
I Am Just So Stinking Depressed I Cannot Stand It!Apr 27, 2014
I needed a job for so long and was so happy when i got one (it gets old quick having to apply for assistance....especially since it does not last forever). Finally got a good job, but am in pain all the time and so tired! I am just so tired:((((( ...
Iowa Prefers The Nonscientist Depressed Dr. C ToOct 23, 2015
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Adjustment Disorder With Anxiety And Depressed Mood Jun 17, 2015
is my (MT-related) dx after finally visiting a shrink last week. One of these days, I'm optimistically hoping to be "adjusted" again, in a new field! Not that I'm not a good MT, I have confidence that I'm very good at what I do, but it's just -- you know. Thanks for reading. This forum is the only place I have any communication at all with "coworkers," and I can't begin to tell you how much I value it. It lets me know I'm still sane. : ) ...