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I posted last Christmas about my daughter's mother-in-law. There seems to be no end to her drama. She said, "New Rule. We only spend $50 on the grandchildren for Christmas." They are my only 2 grandchildren, and I spend much more than that on them, but I guess it makes her feel bad. She has something like 15 grandchildren. I flat out told my daughter that I would not let her dictate what I give my children. She alternates visiting my daughter's house every other year for Christmas, and then her husband's side of the family the year. Her "new rule" was that my daughter and son-in-law spend Christmas one year with JUST THEM, and the next year with us. My daughter laughed at her and said, "I don't think so." She tries to stay with them for a week, but my daughter put her foot down and said 3 days because they only live 3 hours away.
She spends the weekend with them on Mother's Day because the other kids avoid her. This year on mother's day, she said to her son, "New rule. The other side of the family comes when I leave after brunch on Mother's Day," which could be anywhere from 12:00-3:00. When he brought it up to my daughter, he said it might be best because that way there would be less drama, and she could spend time with the kids, and then I could come and spend time with them. They got into a semi-argument about it, which made me feel awful! That woman is not the only mother in the family. Why should everyone always cater to her "new rule." I do know that she dislikes me, and she is very competitive. I said I would never let her run me away from my daughter and grandchildren, but there seems to be no end to this drama she creates over everything if she is not the center of attention. Should I stay away and have time with them alone later, or should I do as I damn well please and tell her it's her problem; I will not abide by her "rules." She is on certain psych meds, and can really create a scene when she does not get her way. I want to avoid that as well as my daughter and SIL arguing about it.
What would you do? Stand your ground, or try to make it more peaceful for everyone?
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