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Why is it that mothers of boys/men think that even when the man is grown/married they STILL have control over their son? I have a son too, he's only 13 right now and I PRAY I am not like that!! Any advice on what you would do?
There are six children in my husband's family who have ALL taken MIL to her doctor's appointments, etc., at some point in time. Lately though, one of hubby's sisters has been taking MIL to ALL appointments. This sister doesn't work, by choice, as her husband makes really good money and they are probably more financially stable than any other person in the family, get to take great trips, nice cars, etc. Well, IF the sister needed gas money or something, MIL actually has money as well, she could EASILY pay her, but I'm sure she doesn't need it, nor would she accept it, as I said they get along pretty good.
Well, in MY household, I'm in charge of the money. Both hubby's money and mine. I pay the bills and I let him know what's left. We aren't super financially stable, I'm an MT for Pete's sake! My MIL likes to get on these "missions" because basically she is bored and wants a reason to call up all members of the family. Well, she calls hubby yesterday and says she needs him to bring her $100 and she is asking the four other kids (sister excluded), so they can give a total of $500 to the sister who takes her to appointments as a "thank you" so she can do something nice for herself. Okay, I feel it is a nice gesture, BUT I just don't have an extra $100 bucks laying around that can be used just to give someone who really doesn't need it. If she was struggling, needed it for food, gas or something like that, then sure, I would squeeze it from somewhere, but basically just as a random gift with no prior notice? Well, hubby tells his mom "okay" like he ALWAYS does and I about hit the fan! I told him we couldn't afford that and I didn't see the point in that either. I mean $20 bucks a piece would be giving her $100, that's a nice token of appreciation, but it's HER mom too, it's not like this is an outsider who is taking MIL to doctor's appointments.
I don't mean to sound greedy or not appreciative, but I'm so irritated. I'm thinking of calling MIL and just telling her we can't afford it, but then MIL is such a gossip, that she will probably tell everyone in family we have "money troubles" because that's how she is. What would you do?
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