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Posted: Dec 24, 2010

Ok. I am not sure what I need here but maybe some opinions would be great!!!

I moved against my parents wishes (about a yr ago), I am 35 y/o and took my son (13 y/o)with me. They wanted me to move to be near them after my divorce. I did not want this and wanted to take my son and make it on my own. However the problems do not end there, my parents then tried to take my son from me. I have been disowned by my mother after a strongly worded email stating if she could not support me that I did not want to hear from her.

In the process of all of this I met a wonderful man. We are starting to make a life together including having a child together. He has been very supportive in this process me being pregnant and the seperation. My mom and I were very close and I do love her. At this time in my life I was hoping that my mom would be able to experience this joy with me as well. My wonderful man told me to call and tell my parents on my birthday because it was bugging me. I did so and called my dad was thrilled and welcomed me with open arms and a loving heart as he always has. My mom still won't talk to me.

I am not sure if I should try emailing her and explaining how I feel to her, not sure it would help. Could someone please tell me what you think????

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Give it time - sm - a mom

[ In Reply To ..]
My son and I had a falling out about his behavior (he knocked up two girls at the same time) and I told him I was done with him until he got his act together. I've long since gotten over it and would love to have him back in my life (not to mention my four grandchildren from him). Unfortunately he won't reply to my emails or return my calls. It's been ten years now.

My point is, if you two really were close as you say, it may take some time for her to adjust, but she will. Just keep open and friendly and let her know on a regular basis that you want her in your life so that when she is ready to take the next step she will feel she can do it without getting hurt.

Please try not to say anything bad about her to your dad or sibs if you really want her back - it will come back and bite you in the end. But to paraphrase Ebeneezer Scrooge's nephew, "I will go to him every year and wish him a Merry Christms . . ." Stay positive, let her know you love her. She loves you, and she'll stop being angry and miss you. IMHO, of course!

A suggestion - Anon

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What a mess, huh? Sounds like if there will ever be a reconciliation, you will have to initiate it. If you contact her, two things can happen - she'll be receptive or not. If she isn't, you haven't lost anything, but maybe she will be. In the long-run, she's the one who is losing - both her daughter and grandkid(s). She'll realize that as she gets older.

Good luck. It sounds like you have a great life, even with the difficult mom.

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