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Anyone have experience with online dating websites?

Posted: Nov 14, 2013

I'm sort of, kind of, maybe, possibly considering signing up with an online dating website like Christian Mingle or Plenty of Fish. Do any of you have experience with either of these? Divorced 6 years (from 2nd husband), I'm finally feeling ready to share my heart again with a nice man. Since I'm 50% the reason for both divorces, I know that I'm far from perfect...but I feel like I've learned to spot a man who will end being a verbal abuser. I hope so. I can't afford an expensive dating website, which limits me.

There are no single men at my church or at my day job (not transcription). There certainly aren't any at my transcription job at home. Ha!

My church does have a few couples who met on Christian Mingle, and they're very happy.

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I'm the OP and am making a correction to my post - sm

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I didn't make much sense in this sentence. I meant to say "I know that I'm far from perfect...but I feel like I've learned to spot a man who will end UP being a verbal abuser" (meaning that I'll avoid him like the plague).

Dating sites - Happy

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I met my husband on EHarmony and could not be happier. We spent around 6 months just chatting online and on the phone with no expectations. When we finally met we really knew each other and it has been awesome since that day. We dated for nearly 6 years (not on the computer, in real life) and now have been married for a year.

We are in our late 40s if that helps any and I have 3 kids from previous marriages. He had none from his previous marriages.

You can email me if you want to ask anything.

Good luck!

getting inspired now - OP

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I had forgotten about E-Harmony. I think it might be more expensive than the other 2 I had in mind. Your story is very inspiring! I'll email you. Thank you. :)

Have been pleased with online dating sites - HopeSpringsEternal

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After a 23-year marriage, I've been divorced for quite a while, too (64 years old now -- medical transcriptionist for the past 41). I thought Match.com was very good, but most recently I've discovered "OKCupid," which is very good also and is FREE!! I'm not real active in the dating world right now, but I do enjoy feeling like I'm at least staying in the game, and could jump in again if and when I wanted to.

Stick with ones that cost a lot - sm

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Because that's the difference in some skanky man-ho cheating on his wife and somebody who's actually willing to put something into it. POF was bad news for me. I met a guy on there who I actually became friends with who was a man-ho and I wouldn't have touched him with a 10-foot pole for anything other than friendship if you get my drift because he was retired and spent hours every day trolling the different sites for women while HIS WIFE worked out of town. If they don't post their picture or give you a home phone or any other odd story, watch out. Also if they've never been married and older than 40, there's probably a reason. Just be careful.

E-Harmony - OP

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I've been looking at some online reviews of dating websites, and it seems that E-Harmony, although expensive, might be the safest. Almost like the old saying "You get what you pay for." Some other sites had some pretty scary reviews. Plenty of Fish had very bad comments. Even Christian Mingle doesn't seem to be a real good choice, although as I said earlier, there are couples in my church who met on Christian Mingle. I will be very careful, no matter which site I sign up with.

some advice... - please read

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Watch so.e of the tv shows on the topic, like catfishn and Dr.Phil had some show what to watch for.
- if they have some crisis and need you to send some money... run.
- if the only message you in the overnight hours... run.
- if they wont do a video chat... run.
- if the sentences seem put together somewhat backwards or the ling seems off... run.
- if they sweet talk the pants off you for two weeks and then they have a terrible accident... run.

Also... google search any photos to see if they really belong to someone else. Google search their name and check and double check everything they say. Meet in a very public place and have friends nearby. Be safe.

sorry for the multiple typos - cell phones and fat thumbs dont mix

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Hope you undersood it anyway, sorry.

I get what you're saying - OP

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I agree, there's a lot to watch out for. I'm way too trusting, which usually results in my getting burned.

E-Harmony A+ - Online Dater

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People who will pony up the cash for E-Harmony are serious about finding someone. Separates the wheat from the chaff real quick.

Best of luck to you! I know many people who've met and married via online dating. I also know two women who met their (excellent) husbands via a local matchmaker.

dont pay at eharmony lots of times they do women - mtr

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for free because they need more women, too many men!!

What? Are you serious? - OP

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I will have to check that out. Too many men sounds like a good problem to have. Hee-hee!

No experience myself but... - clb

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I have friends and family members who have gone the online dating route, good and bad.

My friend signed up on one site for free, got a few matches, but then had to pay to see them.

My ex's cousin met a man online who was just the most wonderful thing since sliced bread. Had a huge fancy wedding. Got pregnant on her honeymoon. Then got a call one day FROM HIS WIFE in another state. Their marriage was "on hold" until his wife divorced him and then could be married to her (they are still together last I heard). He told her he was divorced with a child and was just so charming, but left out that little bit of important info of still being married.

BUT on a good note, my MIL met her husband online and they have been married for 10 years and he is just wonderful and great to her. So happiness can happen.

Just be careful and keep your guard up. If he sounds too good to be true, he probably is. I agree with the poster about Catfish the TV show too. I watch it every week and I've only seen one episode that the person actually was who he said he was. Good luck!

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