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do i tell a parent her daughter is dating a teen who uses oxycontin recreationally?

Posted: Dec 30, 2009

I would certainly want someone to tell me, but you have to realize I live in an area where a lot of parents allow underage drinking. This particular mother has given liquor to teens, however, I am quite sure she wouldn't like oxycontin and oxycodone. I do know this for fact that the kid uses. My son wanted me to tell the parents and then he changed his mind but after I thought about it, I feel if something bad happened, I would feel I should have said something.

Please help me. Also what to do about parents allowing liquor for high school kids and calling them "almost college bound" as if that makes it better.

I'm going nuts with these parents. I'm worried about all the kids. I would want someone to tell me.

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Tell the parent. And call the police and report underage drinking when it happens. - nm

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nm

Underage drinking or drugging? - Mother and grandmother

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I would turn them in in a heartbeat and not think a thing about it. I would turn my own child in, why would I care about turning someone else's in? There are laws and the law states no one under a certain age is allowed to .....

certainly tell the parents - you must not live in GA

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Your child needs to keep his distance from her. Occasional use can blossom into addiction quickly. Georgia has some really aggressive laws and pursue parents behaving like the one you describe because of multiple incidents of lost lives of young people. If the adult knew of drug/alcohol use and did not put a stop to it, they were held responsible for the lost lives. You really don't want to be in that position either for her or for you. The laws are there for a reason. These kids can't be expected to handle adult things at that age.

if you do rat them out - Knower

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I would do it anonymously.

Parents don't like to be told they are doing a crap job of parenting and they will see you as nothing more than a buttinsky and trouble maker. You might be setting yourself up for trouble of your own.

I'm not saying don't tell.. I'm saying be smart and don't let anyone know it's you doing the telling.

I'm sure now people will post saying don't be afraid! you have every right! stand up for your beliefs! But I'm speaking from experience here.... protect yourself if you decide to open up this can of worms.

I told and guess what - Mommy

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I told the mother and aunt of the girl who is dating the oxycontin user and they said someone else already told them and they are keeping a close eye on it.

Really?

Tonight the daughter is having a New Year's Eve party and she is only 15. Her mother is going to her own party in the area. The mother is leaving an 18 yr old neighbor in charge. The 18 yr old drinks.

People are so selfish, stupid, irresponsible.

I give up!

Some parents just do not want to know or do not care - so long as the cops are not knocking on their door

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I learned long ago... I will parent mine, and let them parent theirs.

Sad situation - kids think they're immortal - Vikefan

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I'm glad you said something. At least if something happens, you tried to help. I had an OD of vodka and methadone. O2 sat was in the 30s when paramedics got there. Kids think they're immortal. Gosh, I drank when I was younger/stupid but never would have done pills with booze. I wonder what makes this generation think it's so safe? The only time I mixed anything was when I was about 14 and I drank and smoked pot. It made me puke. Never mixed again. Course, it could have been that nasty Malt Duck stuff they used to make - remember that - the mixture of beer and wine? Yech.

Oh, and one has to wonder where the kid is getting that medication. Where do they get all that oxycontin that they sell on the street? Grandma's medicine cabinet? Michael Jackson's doctor? I heard it's something like $1 a mg, so if you want an 80 mg pill, you pay $80. Where do the kids get the money? Yowza.

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