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Feel sad because I just learned that a man

Posted: Jul 28, 2016

I respected very much had an affair. I know him through my church and always considered him to be the epitomy of ethical, moral, etc. He was one of a handful of people I considered the spiritual center of our church. I don't know how to square what happened with what I thought I knew about him. I dread having to see him and his wife again because I don't think I'll be able to act natural. It is a very small congregation, so avoiding them won't be possible. Just wanting to vent a little and see if anyone might have gone through something similar.

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Forgiveness is key - Winston

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Sin happens; forgiveness is golden. No one sin is worse than another. Jesus was asked what the most important commandment was. He said there were two: Love God with all your heart, and love your neighbor as God loves us. That's all we need to know in these situations. Judging isn't an option; it's a sin. All that is left is to love him and forgive him and act like it never happened. Sounds too easy, but God makes it easy for us to unburden ourselves of such things through absolute forgiveness.

So, Who is Gossiping - see msg

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So, is it the church people who are gossiping? First of all, unless this man chose to "announce" his sin, then someone gossiped something they shouldn't have--further, if it didn't come from his own mouth, then you don't even know if it really happened.

Mind your own beeswax and don't even discuss it if someone else brings it up.

FYI, a lot of bad people hide behind a cloak of holiness---it's their "cover," so I'm not sure why you are so shocked. I'm not saying this man is that--maybe he's got a miserable sex life at home or an incredibly bitchy wife--or both--but there are a lot of fakes who hide behind their religion.

What I was told - Rusty

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When someone very much admired committed a sin worse than adultery, in my opinion, I was told by my friend "Hate the sin, not the sinner."

someone wanted to engage me in gossip one tine - I shrugged my shoulders and said

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I had more important things in life to think about. Gossip is as much a sin as adultery. Leave it alone and pray to be free of your need to think about it. IMHO, gossip is a sign of immaturity,

Amen - see msg

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I can't stand when people try to engage me in gossip. I, too, shrug my shoulders and change the subject.

People who choose to listen to gossip are just as bad as those who start gossip.

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