A community of 30,000 US Transcriptionist serving Medical Transcription Industry

Would you feel comfortable with ....

Posted: May 27, 2010

a woman discussing her marital problems with your husband (assuming your husband is not a marriage counselor, clergyman, etc.)?

;

absolutely not! - -- nm

[ In Reply To ..]
,

Just from my personal experience, no good comes from this. - She needs to get a counselor

[ In Reply To ..]
I've been on all sides of this, and I can tell you, there is a reason she has "targeted" your husband to talk to. I'm pretty sure it is not to get an objective point of view. She needs to talk to her own husband about THEIR problems or a counselor, but she is not looking for advice or help, she is looking for an affair. Just my opinion of course.

Nope, sure wouldn't. nm - wannie

[ In Reply To ..]
x

it depends..definitely a slippery slope - sm

[ In Reply To ..]
If she wanted advice from a man's perspective, I would be ok with it. I trust my husband.

However, if it appeared that SHE had ulterior motives, then I would step in and put an end to it.

Of course if it were my friend, I would suggest a professional counselor who was removed from the situation and could be objective about it.

Generally Speaking - tootsie

[ In Reply To ..]
I have had some experience with this in the past. My husband at the time told me that, he felt (in his opinion) if a woman began discussing her marital problems with him that it was an actual "come on." She was "insinuating" that because of her marital problems, she was telling him that she was open and "available." Some may not agree with the analogy, but it has also been my experience that when a woman (a close friend of mine) pulls my husband aside to speak with him in private, she was after him. Friend or no friend, this turned out to be the fact in 100% of the cases that I experienced. Sometimes "friends" only turn out to be "friends" because they are after your husband.

Whoever this person is, I would not trust her, but that is just me, and I am that way due to past experiences. She is looking for more than just "counseling." Be on your guard. Been there.

it depends what kind of marital problems - sm

[ In Reply To ..]
It is suspicious if the woman "pulls him aside," to speak with him in private, regarding any matter.

I think it depends. Is this woman a friend or just - sn

[ In Reply To ..]
an acquaintance?? When I first started dating my SO (together now for 10 years) he had a female friend from work who would take him off when we were at get-togethers and talk his ear off about her BF (now her husband). It really bothered me in the beginning, but after a while I realized that that is all they were, friends, and had been for over 20 years. It all depends on the situation. If it is only an acquaintance, then I would not like it at all, but if they have been friends forever, that is what friends do.

My husband gets an earful...sm - Deb

[ In Reply To ..]
from sooo many women on a dialy basis. It doesn't bother me because we've been married for 40 years and I trust him explicitly. I think it's because he's so easy to talk to and understanding but then he's in his late 50s and kind of a fatherly figure. I think most women want sympathy from a man because another woman might just not feel their plight. He works in a correctional facility and he hears it all. Sometimes he jokes about the supply of "tissues" he goes through. There are females from the ages of 18 through 65 that cry on his shoulder (not literally). Even he doesn't understand why at times. He's just a sympathetic and understanding person and they always look to him for advice. As far as having "affairs" with them, I'm thinking not. :)

generally speaking - been there

[ In Reply To ..]
My husband allowed a female coworker to cry on his shoulder. I told him and her right up I didn't like this, felt like it was gonna lead to something else and sure enough, they had an affair.

Men like having their ego's stroked and there are many a she-male hunters out there after anyone who pays attention to them.

Their private office conversations soon turned to "could you please meet me after work, you're the only one who I can talk to" talks at bars and intimate resturants. Hubby was there for her more than he was for me in just a month after they started "talking".

Emotional affairs are also just as harmful as physical affairs. I told my husband that I didn't like the situation, so he started to keep it a secret.

I thought I did everything I could to nip it in the bud, but the bottom line is, I had no control and could do absolutely nothing.

our 10 year marriage was over in a matter of months with him crying to me that he should have listened, and she is, of course, still with the husband, the man she complained soooo much about...

So much for MY happy ending.

Oh no, no, no - sm

[ In Reply To ..]
This is a HUGE ain't gonna happen with my husband! We've been to counseling and she adamantly warns against this very behavior for both partners. Women need to confide in other women, and men in other men. Bad, bad thing to do...

woman shoaring marital woes - Storm

[ In Reply To ..]
In my experience (and I DO have it although it was my husband discussing with a woman via online chatting) if someone is having a problem in their married the person they should be talking to is their spouse. There is a tendency for the person griping to be getting the "oh you poor baby" response or "your wife must not understand you". It can ONLY lead to trouble.

Similar Messages:

Oct 26, 2010
I implore everyone to vote. AND check your ballot after you vote and make sure who you voted for is who is checked. This is what makes me nervous that they could cheat themselves back into office. In Las Vegas – “I went to vote and Harry Reid’s name was already checked” http://www.fox5vegas.com/news/25511115/detail.html Voting machine techs are SEIU members – Voting machines automatically checking Harry Reid’s name http://www.washingtonexaminer ...

Dec 11, 2012
I was wondering if anyone can recommend a good supportive comfortable bra to wear while sitting here all day typing. I don't like to go without one, (only if I wear a big oversized sweatshirt jacket for cover) and feel I need the support; plus I have 3 older boys in the house so I need to be a bit modest as well. I am a 38 C. Thanks for any suggestions! ...

May 07, 2015
More Americans feel comfortable with a presidential candidate who identifies as gay or lesbian than with one who identifies as an evangelical Christian, according to a new poll. The latest WSJ/NBC poll listed a series of qualities in a potential presidential candidate and asked respondents whether they'd "be enthusiastic," "be comfortable with," "have some reservations about" or "be very uncomfortable with" a candidate with each of those qualities. The results revealed that Americans ...

Sep 11, 2014
I swear by Berkinstock shoes, have probably 6 or 7 pairs of those and I like the fact that I have good support for my arches, no problem there. I am asking about some good walking shoes that have the same arch supports. By the way, I literally hate tennis shoes on me, make my feet look extremely large so not looking to get those. Any ideas on shoes that could give me the support of the Birkie's - what I have now are mostly sandals and these would need to be something other than open toed sa ...

Feb 07, 2015
Powerful!!! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bn_Wxsa7NBE ...

Sep 13, 2012
Another installment of Michael Lewis' fascinating series, beginning with the downing of an American pilot in Libya, but then going back to the man he followed around for several months to help understand his decisionmaking. "The other aspect of his job I have trouble getting comfortable with is its bizarre emotional demands. In the span of a few hours, a president will go from celebrating the Super Bowl champions to running meetings on how to fix the financial system, to watching people on ...

Feb 11, 2011
ALLERGIES: The patient is allergic to work with coughing, nausea, and vomiting. ...

Aug 24, 2011
There's a hurricane and I live in Florida...I have a compulsion to go to the grocery store and stock up on nonperishables and water, fill up my bathtubs, and fetch all my candles.My TV is locked on the Weather Channel!!! Sending good thoughts to all who may be in the path of Irene. ...

Aug 20, 2013
Anybody else have a body complex where they ALWAYS feel fat, or is it just me? I would LOVE to be happy with my body, but I can't and it frustrates me. A few years ago I was a size 20 and I decided to make some lifestyle changes. My goal was a size 12 and ended up getting down to a size 6 and was ecstatic! I was happy with this for maybe a year or so, but then I started feeling "fat" again. I obsess over every single thing I eat, I stair at my naked body in the ...

Feb 24, 2014
there are people who post on this board with made-up situations to entertain themselves through our responses. Anyone remember that girl who posted a couple of years ago whose boyfriend was on drugs and was paranoid and holding her "hostage"? These posts have that kind of feeling to them. MAYBE she is still posting here. ...

Oct 26, 2014
in NY and NJ for the healthcare workers returning from Africa? ...

Jan 11, 2012
I always loved the vanilla creamer for coffee. Now I put in 2 ounces of real vanilla flavoring in my coffee, and I feel great! Wish I'd thought of that sooner. ...

Nov 09, 2012
To the OP of the military vote suppression thread, I'm sorry if I insulted you. I tend to see everything as humorous, even serious situations, and went for the quick, stupid laugh, rather than address your statements directly. I want to assure you that I meant nothing personal by it. My friends and I all share a similar sense of humor, so we often poke fun at one another in a very similar way, so I'm a bit too used to verbal rough housing. I didn't mean to ...

Jan 09, 2013
They're threatening to sue the Tucson Police Department because the police department wants to destroy guns turned in via their buyback program. The NRA is upset, saying it's illegal to destroy the guns and they have to be sold to a licensed firearms dealer. Those guns were willingly handed over by citizens and are now the PD's property. The PD are the people who actually put themselves on the line and deal with situations arising from firearms, and if they want to destroy them, ...

Jul 28, 2016
I respected very much had an affair. I know him through my church and always considered him to be the epitomy of ethical, moral, etc. He was one of a handful of people I considered the spiritual center of our church. I don't know how to square what happened with what I thought I knew about him. I dread having to see him and his wife again because I don't think I'll be able to act natural. It is a very small congregation, so avoiding them won't be ...

Sep 03, 2013
link ...

Feb 05, 2014
she really didn't see this coming? Really? Of course, if he had promoted the law by telling the truth, he never would have been elected, nor would it have passed. Ugh. Link ...

Apr 30, 2015
I made the mistake of looking up some old classmates on LinkedIn. I was better off not knowing. ...

Jan 13, 2016
Eight years that you could have experienced a genuine person in politics instead of that stuff that has been elected in the past. I feel sorry for you as people, that you cannot understand real people, that you have been so brainwashed by the right that the world has really been turned upside down for you. http://www.addictinginfo.org/2016/01/12/what-his-friend-barack-did-when-son-beau-got-sick-brings-joe-biden-to-the-brink-of-tears-video/ And, BTW, the next real person to be elected ...

Jan 02, 2012
Was out having a New Year's Eve day late lunch and felt the rumble, and heard what sounded like a thunder. I felt one back in August too but nothing like this. HOpe that was the last! ...

Dec 08, 2009
A lot of doctors that I transcribe for are telling their patients as old as 18 not to get any kind of radiology done that they might not need because of the risk of cancer later in life. When my son was 1 he fell down the basement stairs and the doctor had told me this, but also told me that the risk was very small and that it is better to know than not to know. I think that CTs, X-rays, etc. are good things. I have heard of so many stories where the person goes ...

Dec 16, 2009
Every year since my 2000 wedding have spent Christmas Day with hubs family (have daughter by another marriage, grown and out of the home). My SIL (hubby's brother's wife) and I have exchanged the dinners since the other participants really too old (70s and 80s) to host everyone, quite an ordeal to arrange for say about 15 people. I hosted dinner in 2007 and asked last year by SIL to host again and she would do this year. Have heard nothing about dinner until yesterday (10 days prior to ...

Aug 11, 2011
When things here got real bad, pay-wise and did not seem to be getting better, I decided to go back to school. I was 48 and now I'm 53. I got a degree in education and can't get a job. Student loans are due and I can't make money here MTing. At my age it's just plain hard to find a job I guess, let alone have no experience except in this field. Last week I got a job as a sales manager for better than minimum wage and I do this at night still.&nbs ...

Aug 05, 2011
Okay, before anyone replies with "you're the only one who can change things" or anything like that, I know that already. I know not to be living in a dream world, be grateful for what I have, etc. I know all that stuff. I'm just wondering if there are other people who feel like they are living in a different life they are not meant to be in. I don't know how to describe it. I feel like I'm in limbo or something. I was pulling up some differ ...

Oct 22, 2010
I saw a post on the main board that made me think of this question. How many people feel their age or younger/older. I'm 50 years old. I took one of those on-line surveys about your real age. It told me exactly what I suspected My real age is 67. Before I ever took it I always felt older than I really am. Most days I feel in my late 60s. Just curious if people feel their age or older/younger than your age. You don't have to list your age if yo ...

May 13, 2011
Dictated: dog took off and the leash Speech Rec: Dr. Kaufman the leech ...

Sep 28, 2012
Well I had family visit the other weekend and I discovered a bunch of my stuff in one of their bags because I had seen some things in the guess room sitting out I KNEW I had hidden in a drawer. Upon further searching I discovered they had ransacked my bedroom, bathroom, guest room and total would have gotten away with about $100 of stuff. I told the rest of the family that the family member was no longer part of my family to have such nerve as to completely invade my privacy and all ...

Jan 02, 2013
I have had hypothyroidism for some years now, since the late 80s and have been tried back and forth on different medicines. I have met people who told me they went on medication and immediately their weight came back to normal, never happened to me. I have tried all things hoping something would take, diets, exercise. My appetite has waned while my weight has steadily been climbing. I right now do not like me in my own skin. I had some indepth tests done at the endocrinologist's office a co ...

May 22, 2013
Does it make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside, wrapped in The One's big arms? You don't have to worry about anything anymore. He will tell you what to do, and what to say and give you everything you need. ...

May 22, 2013
Does it make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside, wrapped in the third reich's big arms? You don't have to worry about anything anymore. They will tell you what to do, and what to say and give you everything you need. [I did not enjoy posting this. This is a demonstration: It needs to be understood that talk like this is, in fact, demeaning and insulting.] ...