A community of 30,000 US Transcriptionist serving Medical Transcription Industry

Don't boys pay for dates anymore?!?! I have a 16yo daughter


Posted: Jul 7, 2016

who I have allowed to start dating.  In middle school, she would go to the movies or out to dinner with a boy with his family.  I would send money with her, but usally the boy's parents paid for everything.  Starting this summer, she has been allowed to car date.  She's not serious about one particular boy, but has been asked out on a few dates, but three different guys.  Only one of them paid for the date!  With the other two, she's had to pay for her movie ticket, food, etc. 

Now maybe it's an old fashioned notion, but I thought if a fella asks you out for a date, he's supposed to pay!  Maybe times have changed and I need to catch up, I don't know.  I have a 24 year old son who always paid for his dates until he found he got serious about one girl and she about him, and then they would sometimes take care of each other, ya know? But when you're in the processo f trying to win a girl over, shouldn't you wine and dine her so to speak?

;

I always preferred to go "Dutch". That way - no "entitlement" (sex) issues came up.

[ In Reply To ..]

Too many guys think if they bought you dinner, you 'owe' them something....

Dutch - mtmomma

[ In Reply To ..]
My little girl only just turned 7 but you did just give me something to think about! At first I'm thinking,yeah, traditionally the guy pays right? But then when you think about the point that he might expect something extra for taking her out - Yikes! I need to teach my little girl to be an independent lady! Dutch doesn't sound so bad now lol!

Social morality has changed. I hear my daughter's friends - talking about "hooking up"

[ In Reply To ..]
and some of the girls have the morals of a tomcat.

There's nothing wrong with traditional dating. The guy should pay. Sex always comes up but there's nothing new about that. Teach your daughter to be strong minded. I know, it's hard with so many distractions; texting, Facebook, etc.

Similar Messages:


Would You Let Your 16yo Daughter Get Her Belly Button Pierced?Jan 30, 2017
My daughter has asked me if she can get her belly button pierced.  I don't think it is a big deal.  I appreciate the fact that she asked me as one of her friends as a piercing "kit" and tried to talk my daughter into letting her do it over the weekend.  So she could have done it without asking me.  I called and made an appointment at a reputable tattoo/body art place who require parental consent, forms signed, ID's, etc.   She decided to mention it to her fath ...

12 Year Old Boys - Anyone Have Or Had One? SmNov 03, 2009
I have a 12 year old son in the 7th grade.  Yesterday he cried and almost missed his school bus because he was not happy with his hair and said there was no possible way he could go to school with his hair like that.  It looked the same as it always does.  I had to make him leave and go get on the bus and I felt awful having him leave upset.  This morning, it is about 40 degrees outside here, and he did not want to wear a jacket of any sort.  He has about 10 hoodies tha ...

DVDS FOR 8 YEAR OLD BOYSMar 16, 2010
My niece and nephew's 8 year old birthday is this week.  They are twins.  I want to get my niece a Barbie DVD but have no idea what an 8 year old would like regarding DVDs. Any suggestions? ...

Trying To Separate The Men From The Boys (so To Speak) Feb 28, 2014
If you knew FOR A FACT that Obama misled the American people on what happened in Benghazi just so he could win an election, would you take him down off his pedestal, or would you still bow at his feet?  Serious question with a little sarc thrown in. ...

New York Times Dresses Down The BoysDec 31, 2014
A well-deserved reprimand with their recent behavior. http://mobile.nytimes.com/2014/12/30/opinion/police-respect-squandered-in-attacks-on-de-blasio.html?referrer=&_r=1 ...

Boys Suspended From School For Using Fingers As GunsJan 16, 2013
It's a sad, sad day when kids aren't allowed to play. Really, really getting out of control. Such stupid reactions. The poor kids of today can't have any fun or play any kind of game anymore. No wonder they are always playing video games and/or watching TV. Nothing else for them to do! Then our politicians want kids to play for exercise instead of the video games or TV.  They're trying to ban guns and ammo (2nd Amendment) but won't do a darn thing about VIOLEN ...

Most Popular Name For Baby Boys In Great BritainOct 06, 2015
yeah, you guessed it:  Muhammad. http://www.babycentre.co.uk/a25011625/top-baby-boy-names-2014 ...

I Don't Know What I Believe AnymoreNov 10, 2012
Okay, I don't want to make this long, but if it is please bear with me, but I will not feel like going back and editing it. I am going to post a link below that I found to be interesting, and I hope you'll read and let me know what you think about it.  It is really making me think twice about politics.  I was raised in neither republican or democrat household.  I have no idea who my parents or grandparents supported.  Later in life as an adult I learned my mom was ...

And I Don't Even Use Google Anymore May 14, 2013
no Iphones or Ipads . . . but I'm in a tiny minority. http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2013/05/14/america-s-new-oligarchs-fwd-us-and-silicon-valley-s-shady-1-percenters.html   ...

Is It Just Me? I Just Don't Care About Any Of This Anymore. -smSep 02, 2013
I'm not close enough to retirement to retire, I am not making enough money working 2 jobs to pay my bills, but I just can't work up any concern for it.  If I lose my jobs I don't know what I'll do but I remain completely disinterested.  I may actually be depressed although I don't feel it.  Any thoughts? ...

It Isn't Just Sarah Anymore.Oct 15, 2013
link ...

They Don't Even Pretend AnymoreAug 05, 2017
https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/politics/onpolitics/2017/08/04/vice-president-pence-headline-koch-grassroots-event/538333001/ ...

Grocery List Anymore? Dec 02, 2009
More and more, people seem to just use cell phones at the store instead of using a list. We were at Krogers a little while ago, and encountered at least 20 people on cell phones while shopping, asking what to get, etc. All ages too, from teens to the elderly. Drives me nuts!!! ...

Can't Stand The View Anymore...is It Just Me?Jan 14, 2011
I don't know about you, but I think it's time for some changes on The View.  I think it's time for Joy and Barbara to go.  I like Barbara, but she has gotten a little to intrusive and interrupts too much, and goes on and on redundantly.  Joy...well, all she does is bash people.  It's funny how she calls herself a comedienne, but she's actually not.  Very few comedians left these days in my opinion....Ellen, Seinfeld, can't think of another&# ...

Ya Know What? I Dont Care About ANY Of It Anymore.Jan 22, 2010
the banks, unemployment, Iraq, business, the weather, Dem or Repub, you name it.   Why?  Because none of it changes anything for the average citizen, you and me.  No matter what happens, or doesn't happen in Washington or on Wall Street, or the rest of the world for that matter, WE WILL REMAIN SCREWED.    Nothing left to do but sit back, watch, and try to laugh at all of it, cuz either way, WE LOSE. ...

I Don't Need Anymore Bosses Bossing MeOct 19, 2012
I have had "bosses" cutting my wages and lettiing me "purchase" health insurance plans that basically don't pay for anything I need, all the while they outsource the work and give themselves bonuses for being so profitable.  So, now Romney is telling "the bosses" that it is okay and not illegal to tell your employees how to vote.  A couple of the richest Republican contributors, the Koch Brothers, sent their employees a list of people to vote for, or else they could "su ...

Nobody Listens To Obama AnymoreJan 24, 2014
Noonan: The Sleepiness of a Hollow Legend ...

Our Democracy Is Not Working AnymoreNov 01, 2016
I am amazed how lies and innuendo can possibly steal an election.   1.  FBI director coming out and saying there might be a problem (but has not even seen the e-mails). 2.  The Birther's who wanted to disenfranchise our country's first black president.  3.  The Swiftboaters throwing manure on a Vietnam vet, Kerry.    (Makes me think of Trumps 'bone spur' that kept him out of the draft and Trump saying he doesn't like vets who get cau ...

American Idol Is So Lame AnymoreApr 20, 2011
This show and judges are such a bore now.  The judges say the same predictable stuff.  Its nothing without Simon.  ...and they love James Durbin, but when he screams that high note, its horrible... horrible.  My friend who teaches music noticed this too.  Listening to him on a CD would be painful.  Why cant people just sing well and that be good enough?  Its all about theatrics, screaming, being different, etc.  I used to love watching Idol.  I am don ...

Just When You Thought You Couldn't Stand Anymore Jul 15, 2013
nm ...

Jon Stewart Promises Not To Pick On Santorum Anymore. SmJan 05, 2012
See clip included in article.  LMAO at the Iowa Caucus map.    http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/showtracker/2012/01/late-night-jon-stewart-santorum-jokes.html     ...

My Daughter Sent Me An ItemNov 11, 2009
About a sick child wanting Xmas cards.  I double checked the story at Snopes, and it's true. Please check this link:  http://www.snopes.com/inboxer/medical/biorkman.asp ...

The Loss Of A DaughterJan 16, 2011
One of my best friends has a daughter (her only child) who has been fighting cancer for 10 years.   The daughter is soon to turn 43. My friend called me tonight telling me she and her son-in-law put the daughter on Hospice this past week.  Her battle is soon to come to an end. The original site of the tumor was in the left neck.  She mentioned to her dentist a numbness of the left side of her tongue.  He sent her for tests and the tumor was found.  She has been th ...

I Think My Dog May Be Jealous Of My Daughter.Dec 07, 2010
We adopted a dog about three months ago.  She was six months when we got her.  She's a chihuahua/rat terrier mix.  She is as sweet as she can be and has basically become "my" dog in that we have bonded and love each other, but recently she's started snapping at my daughter.  At night, I let the dog up on the bed with me while I watch TV and my daughter usually cuddles with me.  Lately, the dog has taken to growling at my daughter when she gets in bed.  And ...

Why Does Brangelina's DaughterDec 04, 2010
Shiloh (sp?) always look like a boy?  She never looks like a girl, always dressed in boy-ish clothes.  I thought I read somewhere that she likes to be called by a different name... a boy's name... but don't remember what it was.  What's up with that?  I don't get it.  ...

Please Pray For My DaughterDec 01, 2010
My daughter is disabled with Rheumatoid Arthritis and also has Diabetes.  Her name is Brandi and she has had 24 surgeries due to RA since she was 14.  She is now 23.  Brandi is 12 weeks pregnant.  Please pray for good health for my daughter and grandchild.    Thank you, Tammy ...

HELP!! Daughter Out Of ControlJul 07, 2011
My oldest daughter, 19 years, is on my last nerve.  She is totally out of control and I am about to throw her out.  Her plans for college are out the window.  She started working at a resturant, is making a little money and has decided that "college would be too expensive".  She had a scholarship of $5000 per semester, but isn't going to use it!  She actually called the college that accepted her and told them she wasn't coming! She is staying out very late or ...

Troubled DaughterMar 09, 2012
I have a 17-year-old daughter who I just dont know what to do with anymore. She is in consant trouble at school, kicked-out all the time, smoking marijauna, drinking, having sex, talks back, wont do her chores, wont comply with teachers at school, sleeps through school and I have even been called up to the school for several occasions because of her bad behavior and the teachers inability to get her to calm down or cooperate. I have tried counseling, took her to the doctor. The counselor th ...

Help With My Daughter's IllnessOct 04, 2011
My daughter is 38 and puts off going to the doctor like her Mom does.  A couple of weeks ago, she went to doc because she had been bleeding in-between her periods, but also very heavy menstrual cycles, to the point of being anemic.  She also was having pressure and pain in her abdomen. She was found to have a tumor/fibroid about the size of a cantaloupe in/on her uterus.  She went for biopsy yesterday and they could not pass scope due to its size and pressure on other organs.&nbs ...

Disappointed Daughter...Jun 18, 2012
I have been astranged from my dad for 8 months now.  I got another phone and new number, not just because of him but other reasons too, and never shared my # and neither did anyone else who knew it.  I moved and he did not know exactly where I lived, knew the general area, but didn't know where exactly.  My reasoning was a few years of him constantly borrowing money, never paying it back, constantly wanting to borrow this or that, mostly money though.  Had actually stol ...