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Posted: Jun 18, 2012

I have been astranged from my dad for 8 months now.  I got another phone and new number, not just because of him but other reasons too, and never shared my # and neither did anyone else who knew it.  I moved and he did not know exactly where I lived, knew the general area, but didn't know where exactly. 

My reasoning was a few years of him constantly borrowing money, never paying it back, constantly wanting to borrow this or that, mostly money though.  Had actually stolen a few things from me and my husband (push mower, very expensive chain saw).  He was seen loading them in his pickup so we knew.  Anyways, I got tired of being asked for money all the time and if I gave it to him never ever getting it back.  It went on and on. 

So that is why I estranged myself from him.  My life has been much less stressful.  About a month ago, he had sent word via my nephew he wanted my phone #, etc.  I ignored the request.  Then Friday night he called my husband's phone because he knew his #.  I answered it and decided to give him a chance.  He said I won't bother you I swear.  Just wanna call you sometimes to talk.  I said ok sure.  So I gave him my number.  We talked and I felt good to have talked to him.  Today I get a phone call.  I could tell the minute he spoke he needed something.  I said surely he is not gonna ask me for money.  Sure enough, he did.  When told him I didn't have any money to give him, he asked if I could ask my mom, who is remarried mind you, if I could borrow it from her and give it to him.  I said no I can't do that. 

I was very disappointed.  It was the same ole thing.  He only wanted to talk to me so he could get my number and start calling for money again.  I should have just stuck to my guns and not even answered the call the night he called my husband's phone.  Nothing has changed.  Oh well.  You live and you learn. 

;

I'm so sorry - walkingatightrope

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I know how disappointed you must feel. You keep thinking that with the passage of time that things will change and to have no hope at all that it will change can almost crush your spirit.

I really do understand how disappointed you feel and I'm sorry for your situation. hugs to you.

Thanks, sorry for ur situation too... - blondie

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It's hard to see how a parent can just not only talk to their mom who is doing a great thing by adopting her child but not even talk to the child. That is just sad.

It happens all the time though. You and I aren't the only ones with these problems. It's just so hard to grasp.

bums - CrazyMama

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This happens to every family - Tell him dont ask for money if you are gonna call - make a ground rule - if he cant follow it, just steer clear - less pain in the long run!!!

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