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Can we all please get a handle on our posts

Posted: Jul 31, 2013

Everyone needs to get a grip on their emotions. The reason why I delete a post is if a poster is personally insulting another poster. I'm not going to delete anyones post who is giving their opinion on an issue they feel is important to them.

You want to insult me fine, but I'm not going to leave the insults up from one group and delete the insults from another. I was banning the people who were insulting but they didn't like that. It also does not help when peoples bans are lifted and then they come back and continue the same insults I banned them for the first time.

People need to get a grip on their emotions. That is all I am asking. Discuss issues that are important to us. That is what the board is for. If you are writing a message snickering about it or writing something you are going to regret then chances are you should not be posting it in the first place.

I'm also asking posters to please stop going after other posters ridiculing them telling them things like you gotta be kidding me or for petes sake or any snide remarks like that. All it does is make the poster angry. If you don't believe something just please explain why you don't in a civilized adult manner instead of poking fun at the poster. It never ends well.

If you don't like a subject matter, then just ignore it and move on. Please do not report messages just because you don't like what is being said. There was a poster who posted a new thread and someone reported it saying they were disrupting the normal flow of dialogue. Since it was a new post there was no flow of dialogue to disrupt. Also please don't assume to think you know anyone's "motive" or "real reason" why anyone posts anything. If you have those magical powers, then please tell me what the next winning lottery numbers are going to be.

Please stop calling posters racists, haters, commies, anti-Obama, anti- this or that. If you don't agree that fine. Discuss why you don't agree in an adult manner. It is possible.

I'm getting both sides of the isle claiming I delete only their posts and never acklowlege that I've deleted message from everyone. Moderating has no sides. Moderating is moderating. An insult is an insult and it's gone.

I'm not going to turn this into a board where only one side can express their opinions. I don't monitor the subject matter of posts. Every time someone posts a post it is about an issue that is important to them. Everyone is deserving of being able to discuss issues without being called names or told their sources are not valid.

So I am asking everyone to please stop with the sarcasm, insults, and name calling. I don't care if you have strong negative or postive feelings towards a politician or someone in the media. Say what you want about them. If you disagree with one side (or guy/girl) you have as much right to post about it as someone posts about someone on the other side. Just try to please not use words that are so bad they will get edited out.

Can I just please have everyone's cooperation to please get this board back to discussing issues and leave out your dislike for other posters. Don't say something to someone that you would not want them to say to you.

Thank you,

Moderator

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Thank you to the 3 dislikes. Its a badge of honor - Moderator

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I don't care if you like my posts or not. Just trying to get a handle on the rude and childish posters/posts.

I consider dislikes to my posts a badge of honor. Thank you.

I consider a personal insult a badge of honor! - I understand :-)

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When someone insults me or anyone for that matter, I take it as they have nothing to offer debate-wise.

I kind of thought things were going pretty civilly as compared to weeks past, but I don't read every post.

Anyhow, thanks for putting up with us :-)

Response - just saying

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Moderator, I know this job must be difficult, and I can understand much of what you said, and are asking.

That said, after reading the post I wonder why there couldn't just be an expectation for posters to remember this is not a personal board (all posters are anonymous to one another) and to not take things to heart so much...

For *me* I could not care less if someone insults me or my posts. After all I don't know that person and their opinion is hardly of more importance than my own. My goal is not to win over all posters, but to plant a seed with other posters with more open minds and perhaps share information.

Again, I am not second-guessing your job, just think more responsibility lies with people in how they RESPOND to posts versus the actual post itself.

Very good post. Thank you for replying - Moderator - sm

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I agree with your post. Posters should not take things personally. Nobody knows anyone. Nobody knows whether posters are men, women, what race, religion (or no religion), or anything about anyone.

I think posters get upset when someone is insulting them and they lash back. I've gotten messages saying they wrote in haste and didn't mean to.

I hope posters will be more respectful. Nobody will agree with everyone 100%. Someone once told me you may not respect a person, but you should respect their right to voice their opinion. Everyone's concerns are important to them.

I liked your post. Thank you for replying.

A suggestion? - I feel your pain.

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I'm a mod on another board and we're strict about acceptable dialogue--i.e. posts that are about the board or posters on the board are a no-no. For example, this is a politics board so every single post must pertain to the subject. Any posts that are personal (even if they're not insulting) or about the board itself (such as why does this board...some posters on this board...) are all removed.

It actually makes my job easier because there's no room to have these trainwreck threads that devolve into personal attacks and he-said/she-said rather than the subject. It *really* helps keep people focused.

The problem with this board is that everyone gets more focused on the posters than politics. It's an ego-driven board.

Too much censorship not a good thing - just saying

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I am a strong proponent of free speech - if there is too much censorship, it's not any better than 'boards gone wild.'

Have to strike a balance ;)

I agree in normal circumstances, but - this board is not normal.

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I've never seen a board where people bicker so much. I don't know if it's because we all work at home and are bored or what, but this board is not. normal.

Adding that the board I'm a mod on was also - abnormally ugly

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People were actually figuring out one another's identities and threatening to post real names, addresses, email spouses. I even had one poster whose BOSS was called by another poster, telling them all the things that person had posted on the board. Terrible, terrible things.

Keeping people on subject made a big difference. I was actually worried about peoples' safety. It's scary stuff, these internets!

Here it's not that bad obviously, but what bothers me about this place is that I would simply like to have a good discussion about politics and that is not possible here. It's just not possible.

People on this board care more about winning arguments than communicating with one another. It's such a waste.

Adding again to clarify that although - my other board is more

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scary, the volume of arguments was actually less than this one. On this board, every single thread *goes there.* O
n the other board, when it does go there, it's more volatile. But it happened less than on this board.

Okay, I'm done now. LOL

Suspect 2 groups here-unhappy MTs in econ trouble, and - non-MTs drawn by lack of constraint. nm

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Another piece of advice - self-admitted "trolls"

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are a BIG no-no.

If someone comes onto a board stating they only like to pop in once in a while just to rile people up and then laugh at them--that's the very definition of a troll and it's the lowest form of poster. That should be absolutely not tolerated on any civilized board. Not for a second!

IGNORE trolls - just saying

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I may try once or twice to reason with someone/post an opposing viewpoint, but trolls or troll-like posting is pretty easy to spot. Being ignored is like cryptonite for trolls.

That would work, if people would actually - do it. But they don't.

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The reality is, there will be one or two posts telling others to ignore, but the majority of people don't ignore and keep replying.

Sometimes the posts telling others to ignore get deleted, but the post admitting they just came here to "rile them up" is left up. It's kinda backwards than what happens on other boards.

Many boards define trolls by their EFFECT. If - they keep causing dissention, they go.

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That differs from boards on which the INTENT must be to cause trouble on the board, but since the end result is the same many boards just get rid of any repetitively nasty troublemaker.

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