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What do you think of kids calling their parents by their first name
Posted: Jul 28, 2010
My BIL keeps referring to his mom (my MIL) by her first name. He'll say "you know that Sharon moved the other day", or he'll say "I came home today so I could bring Sharon to the doctor". The first time he said it I said whose Sharon? He said you, know, my mom. I said why don't you say "my mom" I know who you are talking about. He told me that when he's talking to his coworkers they don't know who his mom is.
I'm sorry, I just think that's wrong. I think it's a sign of disrespect. I remember once in my rebellous teen years I called my mom by her first name. The look on her face told me not to do it again if I know what's best for me. LOL. I don't think he calls her by her first name to her face, but I don't live close by so don't know.
Anyway...does anyone know anyone who refers to their mother by their first name. Even when they are talking to other people. When talking about my mom even to people who don't know her I've always said "my mom". It just really gives me the heebie jeebies when he refers to her like that.
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Gosh, that goes back a long way in my family - Sue
[ In Reply To ..]My mom was a teacher, so I always had to call her "Mrs last name" or when we co-owned a business, I refered to her by her first hame, but I used her first name privately as well. My grandfather was simply Joe, and because my grandmother's name was a male name, we called her Jay or Mammaw. My great-grandfather was a school teacher in the late 1800s/early 1900s and he was referred to as Mr Jim or by my mom as Poppa Jim. My kids call me either mom or my first name, but my grandchild calls me Nammie. This is the only child I don't want to call me by my first name. When she is older and I am older, then I probably won't care!
So to answer your question, no, I don't think of it is odd.
first - name basis
[ In Reply To ..]Oh yeah. I remember my sister saying something to my mom and then adding "Linda" at the end, and my mom looked-- well, you already described the look! She knew my sister was just trying to get her goat, though, so she didn't say anything.
My mom did that with her mother - Happy MT Robin
[ In Reply To ..]I never heard my mom call my grandmother "mom". She was always Mildred. I asked Mom about that one time and she said that when my mom and her brother were getting into their teens, Grandmother didn't want anyone to know she had children that old, so she told them to call her Mildred.
Yes, she was vain and NEVER admitted her age to anyone. The only reason she admitted to being 65 was when she found out she could get a senior citizen discount at places. She was 65 until the day she died when she was 82.
Phyllis hates it when I call her that - MissAnthrope
[ In Reply To ..]She doesn\'t call me daughter, so I shouldn\'t have to call her mother. My one sister has joined me in doing it, but my other sister is mortified by it. I\'m 50 and she\'s 70, I think we\'re pretty much adults here. My boy is only 9. I\'ve told him to call me by my first name, but he won\'t do it yet. In fact, he has no name for me at all -- now that\'s a problem.
First name - Eurosepsis
[ In Reply To ..]My nieces have always called their dad Andy. I don't think I have ever heard them refer to him as "dad" and they're adults and married now. I still think it's weird.
One of my daughter's friends calls me by my first name. She's 21 and it still creeps me out. I still call any adult older than me Ms. or Mr. and their first or last name, however I was introduced to them. I think that's just how I was raised though.
I'm with you on that - anon
[ In Reply To ..]I just think it's disrespectful. In the town I grew up in everyone older than us not related was Mr. or Mrs. Then the only thing was we referred to grandparents as Grandma (last name). We never ever would have called parents by their first name. Not me or my friends or any of my hundreds of classmates. Guess the people in our town are just respectful in that way.
My mom (Helen) laughs about the time - sm
[ In Reply To ..]We were shopping at Wal-Mart on Black Friday (the day after Thanksgiving). Back then, they still had lay-a-way. The store was packed and I had this bike for my son but I didn't want to take it with me all day, so I went looking for my mom. She didn't have a cell yet. I paraded through the store calling "Mom, mom!". Finally, I made my way back to lay-a-way which was jam-packed. I spotted my mom at the front of the line and yelled "Mom". Of course, she turned around and answered me. To this day, she tells people about me calling "Mom" all through lay-a-way as if she is the only one in the store who goes by that name.
Other than picking on my dad, I only call my mom by her first name when we're out in public and I need to get her attention. I never refer to them when I'm talking about them by their first names either. I don't know if I would say it's disrespectful, just not the way our family is.
As for my dad, I've always called him dad except in the last few years. As my kids started getting a little older, they started questioning why everyone calls him Robert or Bob except Mumaw calls him Francis when she's mad. I had to explain that his name is Francis Robert, but he doesn't like his first name so he goes by his middle name. My oldest thought he should be called Frank. Now when I'm poking fun at him, I call him Franny. It tends to get him wound up.
First name calling - Even worse
[ In Reply To ..]I agree with you. I don't like that either. What I think is even worse is when everyone including the kids call the pastor by his/her first name. I know this is encouraged now, but I'm from the old school. It's Pastor Smith . . . not Jim or Sally. I think it is extremely disrespectful, especially for kids to do this.
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