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Why can't I have a dad who helps me sometimes instead of me having to always be the one helping him? I need to VENT! My dad is a bum who basically lives off others. Since my mom divorced him, due to the fact she was footing all the bills, it was either he had to get a job and take care of himself or live however he could. Well, he is determined not to get a job. So he lived in a shed for a while. When I asked him why he didn't ask a certain man I knew would hire him for a job he said "because I don't work 9 to 5 jobs like that." So I thought well, why should I help you if you won't help yourself? So he lived in the shed. When it got cold some old man who felt sorry for him brought him his camper to stay in. So now he is staying in it. Thing is, he is right next door. My mom lives next door also. See when they divorced the land (10 acres) was split. He got some, and she got some. She has a house on part of the land and he has his part of the land. I live on the land because when I first got married they told me I could put a mobile home on the land and one day it could be my land. Well with him staying right next door, me or my mom either one never get any peace. He is constantly knocking on the door wanting to know if he can get something to eat or this or that. When he needs to wash clothes he won't go buy detergent. He asks me for detergent or bleach. He also asks me for soap. He makes money piddling here and there and won't go buy things he needs. Instead he bums things he needs. If he couldn't do any different I wouldn't mind giving him anything, but he isn't trying. He was given a place to stay. Someone else pays his electricity bill because the man felt sorry for him cause he had no lights and got them turned on but I have heard through the grapevine that "friend" said he is tired of paying it and he nevers trys to help out when he gets any money. He is so imposing. My mom and me were leaving in a hurry tonight and he comes walking over there and mama said look I am in a hurry what do you need. He said did you cook anything? Mama said if you want it I have a hamburger pattie and bun from earlier. I will hand it to you but I am in a hurry so tell me yes or no now. He said well can't you heat it up for me. (He has a microwave, mind you). She said I just told you I am leaving, and I am in a hurry, no I will not heat it up for you. If you are hungry take it and heat it yourself. He says no then I don't want it and you are going to he** too for treating me this way. Mama said oh please. I offered you food if you choose not to take it cause you want it warmed for you then go hungry. It is things like that that make me want nothing to do with him. If we are having a family dinner and we don't ask him cause mama and him are divorced and she prefers not to have him around her because he is nuts, he will invite himself. He will literally walk over there and walk in if the door is not locked and go in there and help himself. The only way my mom can keep him out of her house is to lock the door at all times. I have told her the only solution is to put the house up for sell and get away from him. She loves her house and is resistant to sell. I said well as long as you stay you are just gonna have him pestering you. Believe me, the first chance I get to move, I am out of here. I mean it won't be fast enough. I think when I move one day my mom will be more apt to move too. I think she hasn't because of me being here. I hope to be gone within the next year. I just don't know what on earth to do. He acts like he is an invalid and he intrudes and imposes himself on anything you do. If my mom comes over here he follows her. It is so outrageous. I have told him before not to come to my house uninvited anymore because he has said some bad things about my mom. It goes in one ear and out the other. He will come the next day like you never said anything. He told me one time, I know you don't want me here. And I am thinking why in the world do you keep coming then? My mom is sick of it and so am I. I just hope I can afford to move soon. I have never seen someone who expected everybody to give him everything. I don't think there is anther person on the planet like him. My sister lives 1-1/2 hours away, and I envy her. She no longer has anything to do with him because of the way he is, a bum and a moocher. And when we tell him about a job he won't even inquire about it. I am so fed up. Just needed to vent. Sorry so long.
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