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Co-ed sleepover for 12-year-olds? Really? sm

Posted: Jan 22, 2010

My 12 year old son just asked me if he could sleep over at a friend's house tonight at a boy's house, with 4 other kids. I asked him who the kids were.... three of them (including my son) would be boys, and two girls! I said no. He is very upset and says it is no big deal. Would you have let your child go?

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sleep over - MT Bottle

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NO WAY

co-ed sleepover - Tara

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Absolutely not!!!!! My daughter is 12 and you couldn't pay to convince me that it is an okay thing to do.

At our house... - we have a 9 year old

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Girls are welcome to come eat pizza and watch a movie. When movie is over, parents are to pick them back up and the boys spend the night.

good idea. - Emily

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I agree with this. Here i am commenting on something i really cant because I am not a parent, but I will tell you what, my children will not be having co-ed sleepovers... at any age! im glad there are still good parents out there!!! :)

No co-ed sleepovers - kris

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Absolutely never do co-ed sleepovers! My friend's son went to one where a sister and brother both had friends over and it ended up with her son being questioned by the police for possible sexual abuse, which was consentual with this young girl. Talk to the parent having this sleepover!!

coed sleepover - NO, Nadda,NOT Happening n/m - SR Wordsmith

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Thanks for the replies... (sm) - Ella MT

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My son came home and said the party had been canceled for some mysterious reason. Maybe parents called? BTW, I had offered my son the option of going and picking him up at midnight and he did not want to go at all if he couldn't spend the night. I had decided not to let him go, but was glad to hear it was canceled. Hope that doesn't come up again!

He is 12? It will come up again - The No List

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Whether you actually know or hear about it or not, this situation will present to him again, and another time he might not tell you there will be girls there. Don't think ... oh that won't happen with my kid, he doesn't lie. Teenagers find ways around parents' rules, and a classic is "The Omission".

Just keep that in mind. This co-ed sleepover trend is all over the place and does not look like it is going away anytime soon. I first heard about it when my 14 y/o niece wanted to do it - that was 12 years ago.

For the record: I am a no-way-no-how on this also.

Would this also disqualify households where opposite sex siblings live? - Just curious. sm

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Especially ones close in age? Things are not always black and white. At age 12, the concept of "fair" in a parent is paramount. I would not miss too many chances with a son or daughter to demonstrate that desirable trait. Seeing a parent as fair translates into seeing a parent as someone they can trust a little further down the line when the stakes become much higher. If parents lead by example and offspring follow, then the question arises over instilling snap as opposed to deliberative and well considered judgmentalism into their personality and character.

just one word - whadyousay? - is it CVA season?

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I didn't understand that either. nm - Am I dense?

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