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I was wondering (maybe more worried)

Posted: Apr 21, 2010

My father passed away this past week, he took his own life. He was 75 years old and in bad physical shape and constant pain. His nightmare was that he would be put into a nursing home. He was a fiercely independent man living alone and was at the point of not being able to care for himself. He led a good life and was a very generous man with many friends. I am wondering about suicide in this case, what do you all think about what is going to happen to his Soul? I really have no one to talk to about this as nobody in the family will discuss it.

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Your father is being well taken care of - Please try not to worry

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First of all, please let me say that I am so sorry to hear about your loss. But, the main thing to remember is that your father is no longer in pain, and that is a good thing.

I believe that your father is being taken care of very well on the other side. I believe that God (or whatever name you want to call him/her by, the higher power you believe in) is infinitely good and infinitely loving. And it would make absolutely no sense to me that God could or would love a person any less because they committed suicide. In fact, I believe that God gives people like this extra special care, because they were obviously in so much pain (whether physical or emotional) that they felt the only avenue open to them was to end their life here in this world.

Unfortunately, I have had a lot of deaths in my own family, including my husband just a few years ago at age 48 and also a cousin who just committed suicide at the age of 58 this past year. So please, if you ever need someone to talk to, please feel free to email me, anytime, okay? My heart goes out to you. It's always hardest on those of us who are left behind. But please try not to worry about your father because I am sure that he is being extremely well taken care of over there.

Thank you so much for these thoughts - Grieving

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I am inclined to believe as you, but some family members are very angry about what he did and I guess got me questioning my own beliefs. I personally am not angry, only sad he is gone. I was the first one in the apartment and was relieved to see that he did not suffer and saw by the way things were left that he had made up his mind and was okay with his decision.

Don't worry - sent you an email with my thoughts - nm

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nm

Thank you - Grieving

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You have given me much to think about and another way of looking at things. My father was not on any narcotic medication, only medication for hypertension. As I mentioned in answer to a post above, when I saw how he left things in his apartment I was satisfied that he had made his decision rationally and was okay with it, like he was ready to go. I have often thought about maybe we are here to learn and in each life we go a little further, but also wondered if suicide makes it so we have to come back and do it all over again? Your email got me thinking that maybe this was my father's path, indluding suicide, and that it may be part of his learning process. I cannot blame him for what he did considering the physical shape he was in. Like you said, there is no way to know anothers path and I take comfort in your words.

Nobody knows for sure - deb

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Different people believe different things. It is one of those things you can never be sure of, and can't do anything about anyway, so try to let it go and don't dwell on it. (I would and will do the exact same thing if I'm ever in his condition.) I am sorry for your loss.

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