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anyone worried about Xmas?
Posted: Nov 14, 2009
I only have 3 paychecks left until Christmas and I am kind of bummed. I have 3 small kids so that is where the money gets tight. My mother in law told me not to get her anything this year, as with every other year. This one year I took her up on that and didn't get her anything and I felt like just a creep when we all opened our gifts. She got loads of stuff and we didn't get her anything. She told me that I need to get over that feeling, but I cant!!! Anyways, anyone else feeling some Christmas stress yet? I know it is still early. I have been cruising the black friday sites. A lot of the stores I shop at have already posted on there. A good one is the black friday.com.
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Xmas - MT2020
[ In Reply To ..]I was just thinking that exact same thing. I want to tell my children that it will be one present a piece this year, but even that might be a stretch! I'm very concerned.
Christmas This Year Post - LinK
[ In Reply To ..]Any reason why my post would be deleted? Guess I'll ask a moderator.
Here's a suggestion - jm
[ In Reply To ..]I've been in your shoes. Still am to a certain extent. We can't afford gift changing, but I am more fortunate than others because I don't have kids so therefore don't have to deal with that aspect. I am starting to get depressed like every other year at the holidays. Family is on the other side...anyway another story for a different post. Back to you.....
Believe in your mother in law. Trust what she says. She is so right. Getting gifts is not a big deal. Especially when people know if you're in a bind. I believe you are feeling it worse because you want to do more but are in a situation through no fault of your own (it's happening all over the country) people are in situations that are not in their control. If your MIL says don't worry about it, don't. What would make her feel bad is if you got her something but yet you couldn't really afford it and it puts a hardship on your family. Okay two suggestions.
1. I don't know if you have exchanged gifts yet or not. If not, explain to her that you feel uncomfortable exchanging gifts when you can't be part of it and ask if the family can exchanges gifts before you arrive or on a different day if possible. This has worked for us in the past. Xmas eve is when everyone exchanges gift at the in-laws. One year they exchanged earlier and we had a later dinner and we showed up for the dinner. Then we watched their kids open their gifts. Another year the adults exchanged on Xmas morning. So if you can arrange to not be their during that time. But remember, nobody in this day and age is expecting anything. In fact my dad is out of work (has been for a year). I feel most uncomfortable at xmas when he sends me something because I know he can't afford it but he does it any way. It just makes me feel uncomfortable, and therefore I know what your MIL is talking about.
Second suggestion. Make something homemade. Anything home made will always be treasured. Whether it's a batch of cookies, brownies, fudge or a little drawing (if you can draw), make a candle, make a collage from some pics, or a mini home-made photo album, write a little album full of funny stories your kids told you, and make it into a colorful little album for her, or anything. I'll bet you a million dollars putting together a little collage with pictures of your kids and funny stories or things they say she will treasure the rest of her life. Use your imagination and make something from your heart. I can guarantee you it will be the most treasured gift someone gets.
As for the Christmas blues....I'll tell you I sure do get them. Mine is more emotional. Want to be with my family and friends but can't afford to fly back (and with the flu going around I would never expose myself to that).
Anyway...hope whatever you decide you will feel most comfortable with. Just remember what the holiday is for. And trust me, gifts do not matter to people. Just being with them is the most important part.
Nope. I gave it up altogether 2 years ago. - Talk about feeling emancipated! N/M
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making bread to save money - 35 cents
[ In Reply To ..]Money for christmas by cooking more homemade bread. However you cook it, it is just flour, yeast, water, sugar and salt.
Roll it out flat or put it in a pan. You will save enough for a gift easily.
http://video.about.com/mideastfood/How-to-Make-Pita-Bread.htm
a suggestion - Snow Bunny
[ In Reply To ..]Since finances are so tight, can you squeeze out a few dollars and take your children to a place like Dollar General? Lots of inexpensive items there. Maybe they can make Xmas present for their grandmother. Sometimes, what comes from the heart of a child means so much more than what comes from the wallet of the parent.
Awesome suggestion Snow Bunny.... - MT17
[ In Reply To ..]This is such a wonderful idea. My neighbor, an older widow, received 2 stepping stones for Christmas one year. They are very inexpensive to make or buy the kits, and the kids can put their handprints in with their names and such. She LOVED them and proudly displays them outside in her beloved flower garden all year.
How about a photo in a frame decorated by the kids? Cannot have enough framed photos of family... - CaliDeb nm
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