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My kids just left for a trip

Posted: Aug 1, 2014

Mind you, they are 22 and 25. They are driving from upstate NY to Long Island to stay with friends and see a concert. Now, each of them has been gone on their own, my son's been to the other end of the country on both a plane and train. I think my problem with this trip is that they're together in his car. I have these visions of a crash and losing both of them at the same time.

I know - silly, right? Yes, I know it. But a mom worries. There's nothing to do but trust them and wait until Monday when they get back and keep myself busy in the meantime. Just wanted someone to say don't worry, they'll be all right! Oh, yes - they're both still living at home. Otherwise, I probably wouldn't notice really. I have GOT to let them grow up!

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Can they text "hello" every now and then - sm

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I do this with mine. Albeit, mine are younger, my oldest 13 goes off with dad (we all live together) and I just have the 13-year-old text "hey" now and then, so I know everyone is all right. I don't think it is too much to ask, especially if they still live under your roof!

Tell them to send you a picture or something fun, be sneaky if you have to. Ask them to pick something up for you if there is something special to ask for. Think of a reason to communicate, OR, just be honest and tell them you're going crazy and "hi" isn't really all that invasive.

That's a terrific idea - Just a text! - OP

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My son just gave me an iphone and taught me how to text a few weeks ago. I'm not in that mindset yet. Thanks for the idea!

My kids just left on a trip- - they will be

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ok. What an awesome job you did raising them if a siblings want to take a trip together!!! Relax Mom :-)

Thank you for that! - OP

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I love how they get along! I've tried all along to make sure they didn't have to compete like I did with my sibs, so they often do stuff together. And my daughter's best friend became my son's girlfriend! How's that for keeping it in the family?!

Helicopter parenting - sm

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Those aren't "kids," they are ADULTS. What you are doing isn't "silly," it is grasping, cloying, and controlling.

You basically want them to not live their lives because you are too whatever you are to let go.

The bit about "trusting" them has no place in this. They are not yours to control.

Let your kids live their own lives. Get your own.

helicopter parenting- - that was not nice

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No matter how old our children become they are always our kids. There was nothing stating she didn't trust them, just worried about them being on the road; a NORMAL response for a caring mother.

Yes, I have friends that even report - in with a text when they "arrive alive."

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Does "helicopter parenting" OP have children?

Are you sure you "been there/done that?"

My 56-year-old aunt went to the grocery store - gee, I hope she calls me when she returns

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You know just to let me know she made it home where she lives 5 minutes away from the grocery store.

Oh wait, there's the phone ringing now...gosh I hope it's her. Just so worried that she's going to get into a crash. - Rolling eyes

See how silly that sounds.

Not even close to being the same thing as the OPs situation - Havetobelieveyoudon'thavekids--nm

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nm

You mean, how silly YOU sound. - anon

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helicopter parenting - oldie but goodie

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I agree with no matter how old our children are they are always our kids. I am 57, my Mom is 78 & lives 2 hours away. When I go to visit/work on her house & head home (usually late), she always asks me to call or text her when I get home. I still do that to my kids who live 1 & 2-1/2 hours away too....

Calling or texting when they arrive - is not the problem.

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Sitting at home, not knowing how you will make it through the weekend having visions of wrecks, is.

Speaking of mothers - sm

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My mom used to say
"If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."

I don't use that advice as much as she would have liked, but sometimes I think it applies.

I agree with you. They are not kids - I'd be furious at my mom

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if she pulled that. They should not have to text just a hello or anything. They are adults and they have lives. What the OP is basically saying is she doesn't trust them. Maybe she should have driven them herself (just to make sure they are okay). Heaven forbid if they have to go to the grocery store by themselves. I think they should text her while driving there, once the get to the grocery store, while they are shopping just to make sure they are buying the right food (the pre-approved mom food) am sure they don't know how to buy their own food, then call her when they are driving home all the way til they get into the driveway, so she can make sure they are okay.

Jeepers! If my mom was so controlling like that I would have gone nuts. If she doesn't trust them she should never let them out of her house.

I agree with you- - You owe the OP

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an apology for your judging her or putting words into her post. "What the OP means." Are you a psychic? Evidently you must not have people you care about in your life that text to let you know they are ok if doing something out of the ordinary. I'll bet if the OP was going out of town, her kids would want to know their MOM made it ok too. Nothing controlling about this, it is called CARING!!!

No, I don't owe the OP anything. If she didn't want opinions - she would not have written

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anything here. This board is for everyone to give their opinions.

I have the good sense to let my kids who are adults live their lives without being so controlling that every single step they must get my approval. And when I go out of town or even out of the country, no my kids don't obsess over it or expect me to call them every hour.

There is caring and then there is obsessive. This is the latter.

22 and 25 are not children. They are adults and they have their own lives. The kids have grown up and probably glad to be out.

Do your children live with you...and don't assume - they live with her because she insists

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If they live with you, they are by definition in your life all the time, unless you run a boarding house. If they want the benefits of living at home, they owe her the common courtesy of basic communication.

That is a serious issue if you think that is controlling.

Some of you people are just plain mean!

you know, it's not like her kids are refusing to give - her their computer passwords

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Like another mother on here was feeling put out about, and her daughter was a whole lot older than 25.

One mom's (healthy) concern is another (unhealthy) mom's reason to berate.

I completely understand what the OP is saying. She has a close and caring family and in today's environment, her thoughts are naturally with her traveling family. There is nothing at all perverse or unhealthy about the OP.

Just the haters...

My mom called me on my honeymoon just to check in. I was 31. nm - Overstepping boundary

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nm

helicopter parenting - toomuchfuninlife

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I have been gone from at-home transcription for over a year now and plan on getting back into it for the short term until I decide what to do with my life. I have been reading these posts over the last few days. This is the more controversial post, but it brings back not so pleasant memories of when I would be involved in a discussion and came to realize after getting out of MT that STRESS is usually the reason. I was happier away, but circumstances bring me here until I get back on my feet and realize that knowing what I know now I will not be engaging in conversations where someone could take my post wrong or out of context again. I am way too happy without the thoughts of hurting someone's feelings or making senseless comments or have a stranger making senseless comments about my life when no one knows anything about it or me. Thanks so much ladies and gents for making me keep my eye on the ball and realize so many things in life are still good and happy.

This board is not a necessary component - of MT

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You can be an MT without reading this board. If it stresses you out that much, just don't read it. It won't have any effect on your MT job.

You are right about being an MT without reading this board. - toomuchfuninlife

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I wasn't talking about MTStars, I was talking about my old job that had a forum and it was used for help with MT questions and the like, but it was also used as a sounding board and you are right that it is a choice to read the posts and post replies. I finally had to just leave it alone because of the problems with the arguing between MTs. I love the read these posts now because I do feel so far removed from the industry, but still makes me sad to see the same things, BUT there does still seem to a lot of positive posts even though we all know where this industry is headed.

OP - stop being over-protective. In fact this goes way beyond over-protective - sm

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What you are doing is not being "over-protective" it is over controlling.

They are 22 and 25 years old. They are adults, they are not children. They have their own lives even if they live at home. They have friends.

What do you mean you "have GOT to let them grow up"? They HAVE grown up, it is not them that has to grow up.

What do you mean you have "visions" of a crash. What a horrible thing to say or even think. No, its not "silly". It's worse than that. You say they are 22 and 25, yet you are describing them as being 10 or 11 years old.

Just go about life as usual and soon they'll be home where those poor little children will be nice and safe for you to watch over them 24 hours a day.

Remember, in this case, no news is good news - MacroDiva

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Long ago, my mother (I have 5 sibs) advised me: As long as you don't hear from them, they are all right. If their money is stolen, if they have car trouble or have to hole up somewhere because of very bad weather, etc., you will hear from them because they need money. If they have a bad accident, fall desperately ill, or get themselves murdered you will hear from the hospital, police, or the highway patrol. It is natural to worry, but don't. Relax, Let them be. If harms come to them, you will hear about it soon enough.

Thank you! THAT is a healthy attitude. - No laying on of a guilt-trip.

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When you worry every time they are out of your sight, you place a burden of guilt on them for causing you to be worried and unhappy.

Death and injury happen. It is unavoidable and your worry cannot stop it.

The worry isn't about them as much as it is about you -- about you fearing loss.

That worry prevents you from living fully and from enjoying your children as the adults that they are.

A healthy response does not worry overly much about the things it cannot control.

Wouldn't you feel worse if your kids died in an accident caused by texting you?

OP, please ignore the nasty posts SM - KC

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It's amazing to me the posts that some choose to pick apart and put down for no apparent reason. You're not doing anything controlling or trying to stop them from going, you're just worried. Nothing at all wrong with that. It wasn't even your idea about the texts, that was another poster's suggestion, and a good one at that! Heck, I sometimes ask my mom to text to let me know she got somewhere, depending on the circumstances. I guess I'm helicopter daughtering ;) And you know what? Caring like that, whether it's your kids/parent/spouse/whomever, usually makes them feel loved. There's a difference between controlling and caring, and your post in no way implied that you crossed that line!

Now, what certain other posters chose to read into your post is another story, but that's a reflection of their characters, not yours.

I'm sure your kids will have a great time and make it home safely :)

beautifully written - NM

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I woke up this morning to a bunch of pix on Facebook - OP

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They went to the concert last night, said it was the best concert they've ever been to, are going to walk around NYC today - they're having a ball.

And you're right. I'm anything but controlling - just concerned. There are a lot of crazy drivers out there, not to mention muggers, pickpockets, whatever. But I know any of that can happen right here at home too. And I'll continue to be a little concerned until they come home on Monday. I trust their judgment implicitly. It's other people's judgment I'm not sure about.

Thank you for your support. I feel bad for the posters who wanted to put words in my mouth, condemn me for "helicopter parenting" with only the very little bit of information I offered in the OP. Someone who automatically jumps to judgement must be pretty unhappy.

All I said was that this was a first for me, I wanted some hypothetical hugs and reassurance that it will be fine - and it is. Thank you!

Pix on facebook- - glad to hear that

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I felt bad there were so many negative comments on here. So glad you saw pics and know they are having a good time. To me you sounded like a caring Mom and I know just how you feel, I feel the same way with my kids and also with my grandchildren. I guess I am fortunate because they are considerate letting me know they are okay and also check in on me regularly to make sure I am okay. Maybe some of us are just old fashion and don't feel like being concerned is intruding on someone's space. Enjoy the rest of your weekend knowing you raised great kids!!

Glad you posted follow up and maybe I missed it - but NYC - OMG - NM

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They surely could have been mugged - or shot or something!

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NM

My kids left for a trip - over-protective mom

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I read you post several times after reading some of the posts/opinions. I understand where you are coming from. Please don't let their negative comments about being controlling, etc. bother you. Obviously they don't understand the difference between controlling and caring---big difference. I didn't find your comments as controlling, just a nervous Mom. My daughter and her male friend take motorcycle trips, she is 38, he is 41, they still text me to let me know they are okay and I don't even ask them to. If I go out of town, I text her to let her know I arrived ok; consideration to someone that loves you.

Letting someone know you arrived is not the issue - sm

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"Trusting" them as if they are 13 and you don't want them having sex in a motel or smoking a joint is a problem.

Having "visions" of death is a problem. Frantic worry is obsessive, not healthy.

The words she used described almost neurotic obsession and preoccupation with harm.

My mother was like that. No one could stand to be around her , to phone, or to visit because she would not stop worrying. "Oh! Thank God you're safe!" "Call me when you get there I will know you are safe!" Then, "call me before you leave!" When you called, it would be "Oh my God! It is so late! It is DARK out!" That, at 8 p.m.

If you didn't keep calling, she would call the police. She called employers, asking them to please fire you so you could get a job during the day because she was worried sick about you "being on the road" at night.

When she died, it was a relief. Her children were glad to be rid of neurotic Helicopter Mommy.

Not saying the OP is that bad, but that's how it starts.

Wow, really? - sm

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I agree with the other poster. Some people on here love to overanalyze every word of someone's post and then pick it apart like there is some deep psychological problem lurking beneath the surface. The OP never sounded neurotic or preoccupied with harm. She mentioned that they could be in a car crash and even said it sounded silly to her, but as their mom, she was worried. Just because you had issues with your mom, does not mean the OP is anything like that. In fact, she already said both of her kids have been out on their own previously and have obviously come back to live with her, so it doesn't seem like they would have done that if she was so horrible for them to be around. To me, it was pretty obvious from her post that she didn't want to intrude on their trip. I have had plenty of people ask me to call them when I get home to make sure I got there safely in different situations (bad weather, traveling late at night, etc.)...my mom, friends, coworkers. It never occurred to me that they were neurotic. Bad things do happen sometimes. Taking a minute to call someone to let them know you are okay really shouldn't be such an inconvenience if you care about that person as much as they obviously care about you.

of all the hating posts, this one takes the cake - why would you post that?

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We aren't the members of your group therapy session.

You talk about how unhealthy the OP is? Find someone to talk to face to face. This platform shouldn't be your group therapy alternative.

No surprise that those making insulting accusations - didn't have a

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healthy relationship with their mother. That's the first thing I thought of when I read the over-the-top reactions to the OP who is simply a caring mother.

BTW, I'm 50 and married and when I take a plane trip, I call my mom and dad to let them know I've arrived safely. I ask them to do the same. We live on opposite sides of the country and talk about once a week, so there is no 'helicoptering'. It's called a caring, considerate relationship.

Thank you! That's all I was saying - Treating adults as if they are

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children not old enough make their own decisions is what I was saying. The visions and being obsessive is what the OP stated. Frantic worry about adults being out from under your controlling thumb is not healthy.

My grandmother was like that with my dad. She went so far as to contact some priest to have him go over to my dad's place and force him to contact her two or three times a week.

My mother loved me very much, cared for me, and would have done anything for me. Thank God she was not controlling or forced me to call her every time my sister and I went out and I lived at home, my sister had moved out. She never had "visions of our death" (OMG that's pretty bad). If she had I think I would have taken her to a counselor to help her get over that.

I swore I was not going to get sucked in - - OP

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But, come on - I never said "obsessive." Yes, I did say visions of a crash - I'll but your mother did too, even if she never said so. Anyone who cares about someone can't help but process possibilities in their head. Did I say I don't trust them? No, I said I must trust them, and I do. They've earned it, and even if they got stoned or drunk while they're there it's not my business. I trust their judgment.

I was sharing my innermost mother worries about the next emptying out. That's all. Soon they'll be out living on their own and I'll know they'll be just fine. I'm still living the transition.

Trust them how? - sm

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What, exactly, are you trusting them to do? Not get drunk? Drive safely? Wear clean underpants?

The issue isn't about trusting them or not trusting them. It is that "trust" is entering into this at all.

We should not have that kind of relationship with adults. It demeans them.

said the person who never had a - kid NM

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Just sound like a caring mom to me - sm

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I don't think you are being over protective at all, and I don't even have kids.

I drove cross-country to visit my best friend. She asked me to send her a text every time I entered a new state and every time I got to the hotel I was staying at for the night and when I left the hotel in the morning. She was worried something could happen on the road and wanted to be able to narrow down my location and a time frame if she didn't hear from me. I didn't think it was crazy for her to ask this whatsoever at all. The only thing I thought was the truth...I was traveling a long distance and she cared about my well-being.

Your kids sound like well-adjusted young adults, and I'm sure they would be more than happy to send you a little text every once in a while to put your mind at ease. I know it was no big deal for me to send them to my friend, so I'm sure your kids will feel the same.

I completely understand this - sm

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I feel the same way when my sisters, ages 64, 68 and 71 go away together without me. It isn't that I'm jealous or anything else like that, it's the fear that they'll get into a wreck and all leave me at the same time. I can't even begin to think what I would do without them.

Moms worry - anon

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I have these same thoughts. It's basically the human condition, how we're designed. If you love someone, you automatically want them to be safe and sound when traveling anywhere. We've all heard those stories where accidents have happened and entire families have been wiped out. What total devastation! Moms deserve consideration from their children when they worry. What's the harm in letting her know all is well to just ease her mind?

Some perspective on the distance ... - not a "trip" to me

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Albany to Long Island is 150 miles, or about 2.5 hours by car, and the roads are good.

I guess it depends on your perspective. I don't think it is that far. To me, it is not a "trip." It is just "an outing." I drive that distance and back in a day for work several times a year or just to go to lunch or an outlet mall.

On the other hand, I know people who shop at a small store 1 mile away, driving 15 mph on residential streets to get there, because the better store is 3 miles away and requires driving on a 4-lane road at 35 mph, with 3 stoplight intersections along the way. To them, it is too far and too dangerous.

Your chances of getting into an accident are far higher close to home than on the highwy. Highways are good, there are nice gas stations now, there are great maps and they probably even have a GPS. We've come a long way since the Conestoga wagon.

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My child has social anxiety and has very few friends. It is difficult for her to make friends, but once she does, she loves her friends. It causes her a lot of stress and such at school, due to this, but it is getting better. She has this one friend, who is her best friend, she is 11 years old. I have known this child since she was born, because her dad, who raises her as a single father, is very close friends with my husband. There is no talking to the dad about the pro ...

Jun 20, 2013
Any opinions please? My daughter has a friend who started coming over and I noticed she was continuously scratching her head A LOT, so I asked her to let me look in there and she had lice. It wasn't a case that was just hard to get rid of, her head was crawling with TONS of lice!!! I actually called and asked the girl's mom about it and she acted like she didn't even know she had lice, but said she would treat it. Well, then my daughter gets lice, so I trea ...

Dec 08, 2009
A lot of doctors that I transcribe for are telling their patients as old as 18 not to get any kind of radiology done that they might not need because of the risk of cancer later in life. When my son was 1 he fell down the basement stairs and the doctor had told me this, but also told me that the risk was very small and that it is better to know than not to know. I think that CTs, X-rays, etc. are good things. I have heard of so many stories where the person goes ...