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Adult subject. Please be forewarned, I am seeking genuine opinions in this matter. I am not seeking to instigate a riot.
My husband is a lousy lover. We have been married for 13+ years and I guess it will never change. I have guided, instructed, suggested, taken over, recommended... with no results. He mostly lays there like a slug and (I guess) WANTs me to take over, but it ends up being a CHORE and there is no positive end result for me.
I have been avoiding any encounters for six months now, 'cause I've given up on believing our intimate time can be pleasurable for me on any level. I mean, his idea of foreplay or stoking the fire is coming to bed naked and saying something along the lines of "hey hey hey baby"... This to me is like jumping into an ancient vehicle and expecting it to ride like the wind without any warming up!
Anyway, it seems that his feelings are getting really hurt. He keeps asking why I'm avoiding intimacy and even though I HAVE talked to him about it, he seriously thinks our love life is great. I'm glad he's satisfied, but I am not. I'd like real, from the heart suggestions. I love him sooo much and really want improvement in this area.
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