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So, I've got a friend who is always calling me up when she is in crisis only. I hardly ever hear from her unless there is some disaster in her life and this past winter she and her 16 year old daughter even moved in with me for 3 months while she and her boyfriend were separating after 13 years living together.
I am a very active gal, always going to movies, to dinner with friends and to any art exhibit, wine tasting, interesting event I can find. While they were here they went with me to a lot of my outings. It seemed to cheer my friend up a lot. She is normally a couch potato stay at home mom, not a great housekeeper, the kind of person who thinks that getting dressed to go somewhere is "too much like work". (i know she's depressed...)
They moved out and I hardly hear from them except when she's an emotional wreck. Anyway, I try to include her in as many things as I can, and she always brings her daughter! I had passes to a museum exhibit and she talked me into letting her go. The day of the show she called me 15 minutes before they were suppose to be here and cancelled! My sister had wanted to go and I could have planned on that. We were going to meet at the movies and I went, bought my ticket and was waiting in the lobby, she stood me up and sent her daughter! Never even called me!
We went to a concert and she knew that I only had 2 tickets, yet brought her daughter anyway! I had to stand in line with them to get her a ticket (defeated the whole buy in advance concept...) then the kid complained the whole show. The last straw was when I joined a new gym. I go regularly and she asked me to get a trial pass for her, I did and I didn't count on her meeting me there and went for my training session like I had scheduled. HER DAUGHTER SHOWED UP with the pass I got for my friend!!! That was it.
I was going to a book reading where wine and goodies were going to be served and invited her. I told her that her daughter would not be able to come because wine was going to be served, she brought her anyway...
I have tried and tried and tried to be a good friend, to include her in a lot of things I do but I am always getting stood up or having to entertain the daughter as a substitute friend! I don't want to hang out with a whiny teenager! I also think she should know when and where a teen can go. I told my friend that I didn't appreciate how she treated me and that I really didn't think it was cool that she bring her daughter along to EVERYTHING that adults do, and she is mad at ME! Her daughter has called me 4 times today to cuss at me. I have no patience for bad mouthed kids so I warned her that if she called one more time I'd call the police and make a report and that I was recording her calls.
Does anyone out there hang out with their kids like a friend? See I just don't see that it's a healthy relationship. Her daughter doesn't seem to have friends, but there are just simply times that a child in the equation is not appropriate (like wine tastings, bars or clubs... she has tried to bring her daughter everywhere!)
Anyway... I'm also a bit hurt that my so-called friend would be this way. I don't want her to feel like I've turned my back on her because she's in an emotionally fragile state, but I want her to understand that I don't think she is treating me right. Any ideas on how to drive my point home?
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