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I've been living with a guy for 12 years. There are some aspects of his personality/behavior that are positive. However, he has a habit of mocking me at just about every opportunity, belittling, that kind of stuff. When I get upset he says he "was being funny." He likes to contradict me in public when possible and point out negatives - not so much about me specifically but demeaning comments about things like my dog or my hobbies, etc. I ask him to please not do these things in public but it continues. His other habit is to walk off or start making noise when I'm talking about something. Doesn't really matter what I am talking about. Or he'll just cut me off in the middle of a sentence. I have asked him nicely to stop, I have burst into tears, I have become angry and at times have become very angry over this. Today he did it again when I was trying to discuss a few tax strategies and what deductions could be claimed this year. He walked into another room in the middle of a short statement I was making. When I got upset about this he said "I never know when you are done talking." This was a new comment for me. I am not a huge talker in general and am in my mid 50s and this is the first he or anyone has ever said this. I think it's more of his mental garbage he dishes out at times.
What causes this behavior? What is at the root of his need to be so disrespectful? What can I possibly do that I haven't done already, i.e., discussing it calmly and genuinely, crying, yelling?
;Or kick it out.
We are treated the way we allow ourselves to be treated.
By continuing to tolerate it, you are telling him it is okay for him to treat you poorly. You cannot change another person or their behavior, you can only change how you react to it. If you want it to stop, you can make it stop. Get yourself away from it.
You tell her to not stoop to his level, yet advise her to do exactly that by giving him the silent treatment and withholding sex. Tit for tat? I guess that would work if she is trying to piss him off in addition to him already holding her in disdain. How close is he to escalating to physical abuse from the verbal and emotional abuse she already accepts and tolerates? Let's send the dog right over the edge.
Get out, get away from him. That is the answer.