Advice Please

Posted: Jun 21, 2014

I don't know if I need advice or just want to vent. My husband and I enjoy having close friends over, going out to dinner with them, doing get togethers and other such things. Out of 4 couples, 2 of the couples are so dysfunctional that it makes me crazy. No alcohol is involved here, so we can't even blame that. I don't claim to know what goes on behind closed doors, but when we're all together, it's the women who fly off the handle at their husbands for the stupidest things. You know, stuff like husband drops a crumb, husband spills a drink/knocks over a glass accidentally. Husband said they went to the movies at 2, wife starts a fight that it was 2:30. These are the same women who have done the same imperfect things we humans do. I'm not talking just annoyed, I'm talking flying off the handle. It gets so bad, that now of course the husbands are fighting back. I find it interesting that neither of these women flies off the handle if I spill something, drop a crumb, or whatever. I am so tired of trying to keep things upbeat. Before anyone gets started here on "bipolar" or "mental illness," I'll stop you right now, because as I noted above, they only do it with their husband. If someone is truly mentally ill and/or has a chemical imbalance, they'd be flying off the handle with everyone, including the mailman if the mailman did something less than perfect. So don't try that one with me. I almost don't want to hang out with these people anymore, but we do truly know how to have fun--but something gets ruined somewhere along the line. Note that these people get along fine with everyone else in their world. You people who are flying off the handle all the time for really stupid reasons, are you really even thinking about the position you are putting everyone else in the room in? It's very uncomfortable for those of us who just want to relax and enjoy your company. Geez, people. Life is short. Are those dumb things really the hill you want to die on?;