Depression, etc.

Posted: Jan 18, 2015

If I am not mistaken there were those in the Bible who suffered from depression and they followed God. Now my opinion is that it does not help anyone to say to them that they are having a pity party. That person is trying to explain how they got to feeling as they do. Others can depress you with their actions albeit deliberately or whatever. To criticize anyone going through a hard time by saying this turns me off. I have heard preachers on TV start talking about pity parties. Okay, lastly I don't think it is a good idea to say to another Christian that they don't have the faith to overcome the depression or that there is something lacking in their walk with God. I have been wounded by my bros and sisters in Christ sometimes more than non Christians. That hurts because I guess I feel they should know better. I have also seen some Christians support another but seemingly you have to be a certain type of depressed person, a deserving Christian in their eyes maybe before you are worth their prayers. That really cuts me to the quick. I have hardly any support system. People do not want to hear about your problems. That is a shame that they can't see that they themselves might be in a similar situation. I have hardly any family and I have lost many friends as well. I had a Christian friend who had exactly the same thing happen to her and this was after she had criticized me for thoughts of suicide when I was at my lowest. She admitted to me that she was wrong in saying many things to me that she did. She now understands. So it is better not to judge someone. I don't like it when I see other Christians on the Prayer board criticize someone and say that they are repeating their story over and over again. If they are, then it still is bothering them. Often times we go through long years of suffering from things done to us no matter how hard we try to overcome. Triggers such as holidays will often bring this to bear. For me, I would rather sleep from October 31 through January 1 of the next year. That is a particularly bad time. I had a lot of losses during those times, holidays, etc. Pile on year after year of losses, eventually it becomes too much to bear. Sometimes, Christians believe that if they do everything right, they should not have problems and on the outside it sure seems like they don't have. That is when you start doubting yourself and wondering why you never see some Christians have huge problems like you are having or others are. We all have to grow and I can more readily understand many people now that I myself have been through so much. That does not mean that I do anything but listen to them. I don't try to solve their problems as some others will try. I don't need fixing. I need someone to listen and care. Everyone needs that. It is cruel to call someone needy, especially someone who has no one close to them. They are not begging for pity. I resent that fact because I am independent and do not like to depend on anyone else if I can do it myself. I have been primary caregiver to some in my family and it is hard to give up and accept help when you need it. Believe me, you make a mistake when you do. There are those who want to help. These are just my ideas and thoughts on things that I have experienced. No judgment or insult intended. ;