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Need military burial information

Posted: Dec 2, 2009

My husband's father was in the military and served in VietNam 3 times. He just passed right after divorcing his wife. His wife now says that in between hospitalizations she took him to the JP and they re-married and he changed his will (8 days after he made the will after the divorce). Now that is enough to grasp but here is the clincher. She is telling the family that the military won't bury him for 8 days (because they are so busy) and after the 1 hour viewing that the military whisks the body away and buries the body privately with no family present (because they are so busy and families would slow them down) and that the family is free to visit the grave at a later date. This whole thing does not sound logical and I just wanted to know if anybody is aware of how the military buries it's vets in NJ? This is chaotic enough with the death, let alone the wife who is or may not be the wife and the question of his estate, etc. It sounds like she is trying to secret away the burial and leave the rest of the family out in the cold. Anybody know anything about this?

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Lies, lies, all lies! - military funerals

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My father was a veteran of WW II, and he's buried in NJ. We planned his funeral and the military accommodated us. There was an honor guard of veterans, a flag ceremony, and my mother was presented with the folded flag that had been draped over the casket When my uncle, who was also a WWII vet, died a few years later, the same was done. When my father-in-law passed (Korean War vet), again, we planned the funeral, and military honors were paid. All three of these graves were marked with a bronze plaque provided by Uncle Sam.

Call the VA Administration nearest you. They will help. My father, uncle and father-in-law had honor guards at their services. The members of the guard were veterans themselves, people who volunteer to do this service. Some of them took time off from work to show up, and we were most grateful.

I think this woman is up to something. Trust your instincts and stand by your ground. I've been to other veterans' funerals, and not once have the survivors been told that the military was "too busy". Definitely call the Veterans Administration.

DD214 - Vikefan

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Does she need his DD214 in order to contact the VA Admin?

Something not right...sm - Bookworm

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In PA, my dad had the honor guard, we received the folded flag, etc. I really cannot remember if our family contacted the VA or if everything was handled through the funeral home. I agree with the others--something odd is going on. Contact the VA or a funeral home for info.

Think her nose is growing sm - Gem

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I would imagine all states are the same as the VA does not discriminate. Two women I know were buried at their husband's site in the NE and one died before the husband. I don't know the particulars but for the wives there is no military funeral but the burial plot and marker were provided with the living spouse and the vet's names carved in. Check with the local and national VA in Washington. She wants all she can get her hands on, she's lying methinks!

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