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Married, do you file separate?

Posted: Apr 6, 2013

I might write some more about this later on but just now am wondering about the above. I have been married over 10 years now but questioning about doing the above for this next year. Long story so will not go into it at this late hour tonight. If you file separate, any advantages or disadvantages. I always thought better for a couple to file together but.... like I said more later. What about deductions, who would take those or? No young children in the picture here and we have taken itemized in previous years. Thanks for any information you might have. ;

Only disadvantages, no advantages - If I remember my tax class

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There are no advantages to married filing separately. You pay the highest rate of tax and get very few deductions from it.

If your spouse might not be truthful - 6 tax classes LONG AGO

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I think that if my spouse tended to lowball income and highball expenses on tax forms, I'd file separately so I wouldn't have to sign a tax form I feared was error-filled.

Did this the first year we were married - sm - InkMT

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as he said I was taking his refund away from him. I sold mutual funds to pay for our wedding...to lots of tax was due. So we filed separate...I paid the taxes, he got his refund, then I filed an amended joint return and got a refund. Yes aggravating, wondering what will happen when he inherits (parent's weathy)...says its "his money" already....being very miser-like of late too (been married 17 years)....but that is another story.----but that first year was the only time we did separate tax returns while married. (though I did sell more more mutual funds a few years later to buy some property we plan to retire to...we each coughed up half)

Your answer was exactly like what is happening - Questions

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in my marriage of 10 years. I have more than paid half of most large bills (well I pay about $100 more on the house per month), he pays for the autos, I pay the household bills and the biggies like property taxes, house insurance and the like are divided and we both pay half. He bought me Sirrus radio when we first married, in fact bought me a very expensive auto, some pretty jewelry in the first years for Christmas and the like and now.... he told me had reordered Sirrus and my half was $35.00!!! Really, $35.00? I just sent off a bill for the both of us, did not mention to him because only $50.00, never said 1 word that he owed gasp $25.00. I usually always pay when we go out to eat, not minding to get the bill. My big fear is this- what if I get too old or something happens that I cannot work any longer? Am I going to be put out to pasture like some old work horse? It bothers me because I thought he was in my corner at first, now not too sure anymore. For his birthday this year I treated as surprise he, some members of his family all out to a nice dinner, surprise for him. Me on my birthday got a Happy Birthday. No gift, no card. Now, I am a big girl, don’t get me wrong but not even a card? Surely you could take 2 minutes and go into the drugstore and get a card really quick. Oh, we would never had the home where we live now if not for me. I paid $60,000 to move in and several years later paid another $15,000 towards the interest. He certainly did not have this amount. I would definitely have the money to support myself if need be but you would think the person you love and married would not give you angst in later life.

Can relate though my situation is not so bad as - sm - InkMT

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that, least not yet. He did get me a nice gift for valentine's this year and dropped $200, shocker, though only because my daughter made him, usually he does nothing...maybe a card but not always, same with birthday. Used to get me very nice stuff though kids do tend to put the brakes on that, money was needed for them. But all bills paid from joint checking, he makes 4x what I do...had some financial issues a few years ago which were mostly of my making but light at the end of the tunnel here, still a few years to go there but under control at least and he is starting to trust me again slowly. Just one account he won't let me near, is in his name only....his parents just started giving "us" $13K a year as their accountant told them they had too much money...he has been buying stuff and telling me he'd pay for it using that money...when the bill comes due he won't give me the money and I have to pay out of the joint account which is pretty tight most of the time, not much room for extra anything. We live paycheck to paycheck as we have way too many bills, and extravagances obviously,sirius radio, internet (90), TV sat (99 about to go up as he wants DVR and Showtime...so will be about 150), kids activities (150), Musts-- college funds, 401k, etc. Think we spend more on "necessities" then food though that is high too (800+ a month). He plans to take early retirement soon (he is 8 years older) so it is gonna get real interesting....says he will get a job but knowing how hard that is right now don't see it happening...plus income will be drastically reduced, hence I am trying to get an outside job now and get out of MT...figure take a CNA course here soon, if I like it work and take a LPN course then to up my income a bit. Doubt I will go the whole RN route. Will see. Beat the money out of him to pay for school, lol.

Well, he sure cannot take it with him - Questions

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like my father apparently used to think years ago, had change of heart after his wife died and started doling out the money. We have separate accounts, thank goodness for that. He has gone from frugal to downright cheap about things. The next time he decides to tell me how much he loves me and thinks about me all the time I will tell him what he really thinks of, that being the money part.

What? - lala

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You're upset because your father doesn't fork over money to you? Really? Wow.

Your assumption is wrong. - Questions

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My father had amassed quite a bit of money and after his wife died he gave me money as he did other family members. For 1 thing, I was shocked he did this, never thought with his being cheap that would have happened. So now really? Wow.

You should reread your original post then - lala

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'Cause that's not what you said at all. Wow is right.

I reread and have no clue where you are coming from - Questions

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as there is no mention whatsoever of my father there.

Not the original original.. the one with "can't take it with them - lala

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Here's a copy of what you wrote:

like my father apparently used to think years ago, had change of heart after his wife died and started doling out the money. We have separate accounts, thank goodness for that. He has gone from frugal to downright cheap about things. The next time he decides to tell me how much he loves me and thinks about me all the time I will tell him what he really thinks of, that being the money part.

The THIRD word is father. You go on to say that he used to dole out money like there's no tomorrow and now he's "downright cheap." BUT, you say, he says he loves you, BUT you'll bring up the money.

So what is that if not he used to give you money, now he doesn't and so you're mad?

My father died some years ago, this was - about my husband who could not take it with him

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No one, including my husband or my father, ever doled out money like no tomorrow. I think you must be making sentences up in your head. What you are stating is not the first posting. The first was asking about filing separately. I then went on to say that my husband in earlier years bought me some nice things. NEVER has he ever "doled" out money, that is absolutey not him and if he did that would probably make an appointment for him to see his doctor ASAP. By the way, in the first sentence it states "like my father USED to think." Past tense here. My father gave me a lot of money BUT even if he had not I would never have expected it, never, was grateful but get mad about someone not giving me money? That pales in what I am speaking about here, my husband, he cannot take it with him, not mad at him, not mad at my father, make my own way and make more than my husband per month. Now hopefully this is settled.

Whatever - lala

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Considering you can't even own what you wrote, WOW.

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