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I'm not a confrontational enough person

Posted: Dec 21, 2013

I am so frustrated by this situation and it is hard to know what exactly to say. Please help. My two kids have a friend who is being raised by a father, who is immature, and has no idea how to budget money. The kid's father has a government job (makes more than me) and gets paid once a month. Well, as soon as he gets paid, he spends, spends, spends. He takes his kid out to eat every night and the kid is ALWAYS walking around with at least $20 bucks in his pocket at all times. My kids see this kid always having money, always going places etc., and they basically have to sit back and watch, because I can't afford that. Well, after two weeks, the dad is dead broke and doesn't get paid for another two weeks. At that time, the kid is at my house, begging, and I mean BEGGING to eat dinner every single night right in front of his dad and his dad just laughs about it. He will only have the option of sandwiches at home, but it's not because they are needy, it's because of the dad's level of maturity and the dad's inability to tell the child NO when he does have money. This is a teenage boy and they eat A LOT and he is just always at my house eating during those two weeks that dad has no money. It's a tough situation, because it's hard to tell the kid no, he can't eat, when it's really dad's fault that he won't make a budget and assure they have meals all week, but then maybe if I refuse to let him eat at my house it could help him to stop begging his dad for money every day and realize they have to save? I mean, my kids have to watch this other kid live this elaborate lifestyle for two weeks out of the month, then share everything they have with him for the other two weeks. That is just not fair at all.

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Just call Child Protective Services - it's a minor, right? - wheres_my_job

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It's called neglect. They can take the kid out of the home - maybe that will straighten the dad out. Call anonymously - I've done it, and it can make a difference.

WMJ, are you serious? You don't have kids do you - that is hardly something to take a kid for

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Food is available. Maybe that food is not what the kid wants, but food is available even when the dad is broke. That meets the standard of care as defined by CPS.

You are out of your mind for suggesting this meets the level of neglect that would support taking a child away from a parent. Your reactionary tactics are not appropriate to the situation. When you don't know what you are talking about, you should really leave well enough alone.

Oh RELAX - I've seen this before - wheres_my_job

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I lived in an apartment complex where child services was a FREQUENT visitor. For all kinds of things. It did get some problems taken care of - without the kid being removed from the home. It was just a wake-up call for the parent. Sounds like the parent needs a wake-up call. The kid is "begging" for food? That's the word the OP used, isn't it. Begging.

again, you don't know what you are talking about - you dont have any kids

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I'm telling you that you don't know what you're talking about. Just because you feel air blowing across your lips, it does not mean what you say is important or right. If you are in a neighborhood where CPS involvement is the name of the game, then I understand why you are always harping on unions and having a pity party all the time. It's hard breaking out of the ghetto, but people do it by themselves all the time. Why don't you pick yourself up and better yourself before giving bad advice to others?

YES, actually I do know what I am talking about - wheres_my_job

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CPS has done wonders for many struggling families and their children. I stand by my advice.

Note: I do not live in what you refer to as a "ghetto." That's just jumping to conclusions. LOL. I lived in an apartment a long time ago, where CPS came out a lot. Note the phrase: "long time ago." As in no longer. There's no shame in being poor, or living where a lot of poor people live. Just as there's no automatic glory in being wealthy, and living where a lot of wealthy people live. People are just people (as this message board so AMPLY demonstrates).

Happy Holidays!

OMG - you are incredibly rude - sm

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You have no right to come here and tell posters that. What you said is so incredibly rude. I can't even decide which part is worse than the other. Telling someone they don't know what they are talking about or what she has to say is unimportant or giving advice to others. You sound like the poster that was talking about internet etiquette, yet has NONE!

I may not agree with WMJ on everything she writes, but there is no need to say what you did.

In this case I'm going to tell you that you are wrong about the kid.

You have a father who can't budget his money so the kid goes hungry 2 weeks out of the month cos there is nothing to eat. YES that is child neglect and YES CPS needs to be involved. The OP should not be responsible for feeding someone else's kid. If her wages are anything like most of ours, who can afford that. She also said the kid eats a lot. This kid is not her child. If she is going to continue to feed him she needs to either one tell the father that he needs to pay her some money for the food his kid is eating, or call CPS. That is what CPS is for. If a child is not being fed that is neglect on the parents part and CPS needs to be involved.

You know, what if this kid develops some kind of allergy to something she feeds him and gets really sick or swallows something wrong, the father will turn around and sue her. When a parent is neglecting to feed their child it is time for protective services to come in and either one, get the parent(s) straight or remove the child from the home until the problem is resolved.

I may not agree with WMJ on everything but your post is so incredibly offensive.

Calm down, OP said there was food at the kid's house - Stuff for sandwiches, etc

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And it's apparently a teenager, not a starving waif.

There's obviously makings for sandwiches at home and I'd be willing to bet there are chips, sodas and other stuff there, too. Sounds like the kid probably doesn't know how to cook (dad probably doesn't either), and they just subsist on what they can quickly and easily make. Kid probably wants a nice hot homecooked meal, no shame in that game.

To overreact and act like the OP presented this as some little helpless 6-year-old dressed raggedy and out on the street with a tin cup begging for handouts or pressing his little nose against the windows of a restaurant while drooling is taking it a bit far.

Anyone reporting the situation described by the OP to CPS would probably find themselves on the end of finding out it was considered a false report.

No no no - sm

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WMJ doesn't have kids. All she has is second hand knowledge/gossip from apartment neighbors she lived by "several years ago."

I call BS on what she has to offer, which completely lacks any substance, reason, or first-hand knowledge.

WMJ is rude and self serving and the first one to cheerlead a person into a bad situation without ever considering the outcomes to that person, ie encouraging an MT to post private information on a public board and then encourage someone to call CPS for basically no reason.

Sad you can't see that.

Rude. - nm

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Thank you for this post. - I just had a major revelation.

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You, WMJ, are nothing but a troll.

Thank goodness people are finally - figuring that out!

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I have been saying that for several years as she attacks everything I post with her deliberately oppositional weirdness.

"Several years" - I didn't realize I was so important to you - wheres_my_job

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Geez. I'm so flattered. I can't say there's ANYONE on MTStars that I would A) feel so intensely about and B) keep the flame alive for "several years."

Thanks again to the WMJ Fan Club! LOL.

Deliberately oppositional weirdness is an - understatment. The lady is

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Coo-coo for cocoa pops!! I agree with you 100% on the oppositional weirdness too & that was hillarious by the way.

This is not a thread about WMJ or any other - poster.

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I suggest if you want a place to insult posters on this board, you go somewhere else.

Actually, I'm not a troll. But thanks for the fan mail! - wheres_my_job

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I thought my fan club had dispersed, but apparently, you all are still out there, hanging on my every word.

That is what a troll is - Not a fan

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A troll posts inflammatory material in order to get attention.

Right now, your posts are typical of one of your "I have a job" phases.

Your posts fit your own definition - wheres_my_job

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Can't believe anyone is paying attention to me enough, to put my comments into "phases" - ??

It's because I mention labor unions. That's a magnet for negativity. I feel sorry for this country - it's gonna be a long hard ride down, for the anti-union crowd.

Has nothing to do with labor unions - Not what I think of

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I don't associate you with labor unions at all!

In the "I have a job" phase, you post all kinds of oppositional suggestions about everything from EHRs to child-rearing advice. The more inflammatory, the better. Your goal seems to be to get people to do unwise things.

In the "I hate this job" phase, you post about the problems you have with unreasonable job requirements, supervisor expectations, and impending termination.

In the "I got fired" phase, you post about how unfair the employer was and how it was all their fault.

In the "I am getting a job" phase, you alternate between posts about the fantastic jobs you are sure you will get, even though you hardly applied for them yet, and posts about how you didn't get them but you wouldn't work there anyway.

LOL!!!!! - LOL!!!!!

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I have to comment on this post - Oh geez

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Thanks so much for pointing out that WMJ seems to be keen on getting people to do unwise things.

There's a current post on the main board where s/he is actively encouraging an MT to do something that could perhaps have severe legal repercussions, and WMJ her/himself even points out that the MT could suffer financial loss, etc., by doing this, yet is actively encouraging the MT to do it.

I always thought she/he was just a nut case off of its meds, but, after reading its posts in that thread, I am very suspicious of the true intent behind those posts.

I'm not sure if WMJ is a troll or someone leading a truly empty and boring life and lives vicariously through the possible misadventures of others, but, in either case, I fully intend to ignore its posts from here on out.

Something ain't right with the WMJ posts...And I no longer intend to fuel its fire.

WOW, I'm feelin' the love now - my fans really DO love me! - wheres_my_job

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Wow. What an incredible gift - it's not even Christmas. Someone else is having a problem with feeding someone else's kid - and there's my fan club, right on schedule, pouring forth their deep devotion to all things WMJ.

I can't even believe it! LOL. Good grief, why not just ignore me? But you CAN'T - because you're my deeply devoted fan club. Cheers for the holidays!!

You forgot something - sm

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Don't forget about the "I don't like jobs" phase where she's going to live out of her car or at a homeless shelter and work on her painting and poetry.

Thank you! - nm

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NM

LOL!!! @ the i have a job phase. U hit the nail - on the head.

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She is delusional & would like to think she has a fan club. She has hijacked enough threads, lets just start ignoring her.

Why are you guys ganging up on 1 poster? - This is not middle school.

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Please stop.

not middle school? It is according to the tattle tales - er - hall monitors - NM

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Please just stop. - nm

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You annoy people with nonsense post; not exactly - a fan club.

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Happy Holidays! Goodwill to all MTs - wheres_my_job

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Christmas is right around the corner. I sincerely hope you all can find some joy in the holiday season, as I am.

I may disagree with you on some issues - but what they posted was wrong

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Sometimes I find your posts amusing, sometimes not. I don't ever agree with you political wise, but in this case I agree with you totally about CPS. The personal viscious attacks directed towards you have been reported to the moderator. ALL OF THEM.

this case does not meet the standard of neglect - requiring CPS involvement

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I have been evaluated by CPS to establish that my home met standards in order to obtain custody of someone else's child. I've dealt with GALs in family court as well. CPS physically looks in your fridge and cupboards to see if there is food. They turn on the water tap to make sure you have water. They flip a light switch to make sure you have electricity. They check to make sure you have a bedroom for the child in question. The bedroom has to meet minimum standards (a bed, a table, room for a chair - and it is better if there is room for the child to play and if there is a bookcase). That is the minimum standard. No need for a washer or dryer, automatic dishwasher, minimum number of bathrooms.

This case of a teenage boy who has sandwich stuff available to eat, but would rather eat at someone else's home, does not meet the standard of neglect. CPS also does not entertain lightly people who make false reports to their dept, tying up resources that are badly needed (in the ghettos for example). You need to get a grip on reality, not the person telling WMJ that she does not know what she is talking about. She has no kids; she has only observed neighbors being investigated by CPS. Advice offered from first-hand experience is much more valuable than that offered by someone with no kids. And common sense plays into the quality of advice as well, something lacking in the post by suggesting the child be taken away from his parent.

I reported them as well. - nm

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MOVE ON! - Jesus, people.

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Stop being bullies.

Exactly - All the bullies have been reported - nm

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nm

Looks like you are about 24 hours late with the "Move On" post - judging by the time-stamps..sm

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they were all posted yesterday afternoon so I think it's safe to assume they're gone now.

Saying Jesus, people - is offensive

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just sayin

saying "just sayin" - is offensive to me

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Be original, for chrissake.

You're a sick manipulative person. - nm

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nm

Give the father a bill for the boy's portion of your - groceries? If there are 4 of you sm

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including the kid, give the father a bill for 1/4 of your groceries. He'll probably laugh even louder but it's worth a try. If the kid has $20 in his pocket at all times, he can just as well pay you for food as opposed to a restaurant.

a suggestion - from a couponing mom

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When the kid comes to visit when money is tight and is eating at your home, keep a monthly calendar on the fridge and write down what he eats at your home. Estimate the cost and write that down as well. When he comes to your home with pocket money, tell him to come in and have a seat at the dining room table with your own kids. Show him the calendar and tell him he needs to repay you for his expenses, that while you care very much for him, you are not his parent. You are raising two kids and your obligation is to them first. Tell him you expect him to pay you back, either in cash or chores. He will always be welcome, but you can't afford to continue taking away resources dedicated for your children to give to him.

If you have the option of teaching him to coupon, take him with you when you shop and show him the reality of food costs. Show him how to clip coupons for foods that he enjoys eating that you are willing to give him at your house (provided he pays for it).

If he will give you the money, put it into a clear jar and use it to buy for the next time dad is broke. When the kid comes to your home to eat, tell him he can't eat unless he pays for it in advance. Take it from the prepaid jar. When the jar is empty, so is your ability to allow him to indulge in food you pay for.

I know it is not your responsibility to show this kid how to be financially responsible, but it is your job to teach your own kids. If you demonstrate this in your home, they will learn how to be financially responsible and also how to set limits with future friends.

an after thought - from a couponing mom

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I have a neighbor who said something to a girl in our neighborhood and it has stuck with me. She was complaining how her parents never do anything with her (and they don't - they sit in their home and never, ever do anything with this 11 yo girl). He told her she had the right to talk to her parents and tell them they should be doing things with her outside the home - even if it is just a walk down the street, go the pool, something simple. He told her, though, that parents are all different. He tried to spend a lot of time doing things with his own girls because he enjoys that and feels it is a big responsibility he owes to them since there is no mom in the home.

Then he said this thing that I think a lot of us would not say. He told her she had the right to have her parents doing things with her and if he were her dad he would things with her. That made that child feel empowered and started asking her parents to begin interacting with her more.

Sometimes it is as much what we don't way to other peoples kids as it is what we do say. In this example, the kid felt at fault because of not getting attention, like there was something wrong with her - not them. She realized she deserved it and started asking for it.

This kid coming to your home has the right to talk to his dad about the problem, and for the dad to take it seriously. I would encourage you to say something like that to him.

this is codependent nonsense - sm

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You don't let the kid eat at your house and then bill him at the end of the month.(!) This is a kid. I don't blame the OP for feeling taken advantage of, but she needs to behave like an adult. There is nothing wrong with telling the kid "I'm really sorry, but we just can't afford to feed you."

It seems like the bigger problem here is that the OP doesn't like the way the father budgets. I would agree with her on that, but ambushing a kid with a bill is a horrible idea. Neighborhood adults should not be making monetary deals with children.

Please continue to feed this child - Out of goodness

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It is a lot easier emotionally to help a needy hungry child who is homeless on the streets of some Third World country than it is to help a normal, middle-class kid whose father is doing an inadequate job of parenting, but this boy is as needy in his own way as any other hungry child. Maybe worse because he is going to be incredibly unprepared for life. I feel for your kids because the situation isn't fair. It's like the prodigal son story in the Bible. Your example of feeding the hungry is as valid as anyone who helps out in a soup kitchen for the homeless. You are just doing it on a smaller scale, and I hope you are blessed for it.

Oh, please. - This kid

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is NOT starving or abused. The kid is a greedy freeloader like his father. They have food at home, he just wants better food, and his father has no class and lets him behave like a begging animal.

The sooner the OP's family is rid of these people the better. People like that are nothing but trouble.

It is the father's responsibility to provide for the child. He needs to figure out how to do it. He also needs to teach the kid some manners.

Have a nice, friendly talk with the dad - see msg

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Just be polite about it, explain your situation and how hard it is to feed your own kids with your income. Tell him you dont mind his son having dinner at your house and that you would be more than happy to continue feeding him if he (the dad) will contribute something to your grocery bill for those two weeks.

Be as kind as you can (but) firm. Let him know that you & your kids really enjoy having him, but its weighing on your budget. Maybe you could come to some sort of agreement that for $60 a month (suggestion) he can have dinner at your house 2 wks out the month.

wait a second... - sm

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You say in your post "BEGGING to eat dinner every single night right in front of his dad." If the dad is right there, you smile at the dad, tell the kid "sorry, not tonight," and then you speak privately with dad and let him know you can't keep feeding his kid.

As for your thinking that it's not fair that your kids "have to watch" this "elaborate lifestyle" - sorry, that's fairly ridiculous. You're a grown up. You can explain to your kids that you don't make as much money as the other guy. Furthermore, they obviously see the consequences of this "elaborate lifestyle."

What do you mean by "government job"? - Suggestion

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If dad laughs at this, he is telling you that this is not a problem and that he knows he is using you. He KNOWS he is taking advantage of you. This is deliberate.

One reason he laughs is that this kid gets two meals out of this ... you can bet he has those sandwiches, snack foods, ice cream, and everything else after he goes home.

The situation is not going to improve if you continue overfunctioning in this manner. Overfunctioning means that you see dad doing something less than optimal, so you step in to do what he should have done. It is a kind of "step in to save the day" sort of thing.

It is not necessary to save them. You said all they have the last 2 weeks is sandwiches. There really isn't anything wrong with that. The child is being fed, even if he and you don't prefer the form of the food. When you step in to save the day, you do so because you feel that hot, home-cooked meals are necessary. Really, they aren't.

This is probably acceptable to dad because his family lived that way. They ate lavishly after payday and ate sandwiches for the last week or two.

This is what I would say ... "I am so sorry, but my food budget is stretched too tightly to have company right now." DO NOT add "maybe later" or perhaps another time. This puts the ball right where it belongs in dad's court.

There was a post similar to yours a while back. Was that you? If so, did you try the suggestions we gave then?

People can only take advantage of you - xx

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if you let them.

When this happens, you simply tell them it will not be possible to ask him to stay for dinner, then usher them to the door. You don't have to provide an explanation other than it would be impossible. Alert you own family to what you plan to do ahead of time so they don't sabotage you by objecting to sending the freeloader away.

You need to be firm with the freeloaders and with your own family that this cannot continue. You are concerned that the boy is a bad influence on your own children, so you cannot continue to allow this to go on unless you are willing to concede the formation of their values to the other family.

Practice saying "no" (in the mirror, if it helps) until you can picture yourself saying it and making it stick. You cannot say no and then relent because you will never regain the upper hand. Sometimes confrontation is unavoidable. Sometimes you need to stand up for yourself or the freeloaders will walk all over you.

Sounds like he's not a bad dad just irresponsible - as his teenage son

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Do you think the problem could be that the dad has no budgeting skills, including grocery shopping, etc.?

It may sound out of the box, but what if you offered to help dad prepare menus and help him make a list of things to pick up at the grocery store to make those meals? Does he even know how to cook? What with sandwich stuff apparently being readily available, it sounds like there's food there, just not terribly substantial (although no one ever starved to death eating sandwiches, I guess). A crockpot might be this irresponsible (or clueless) dad's best friend.

Anyway, maybe try a counter tactic where you offer to help the dad find quick and easy recipes on line and how to make a grocery store list might help the kid (and you, LOL!) in the long haul.

Maybe being a guy he's just too egotistical to admit he doesn't have a clue and would rather blow all of his money eating out in the first 2 weeks than scream help?

LOL, maybe I'm giving the guy too much credit, but it sounds as if he might need the help of a mom to figure out how to be a more responsible dad.

Good luck with the situation...I know it's hard to tell a hungry kid no!

straightforward, direct, and honest - are not synonyms for confrontational

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How old is the kid? - nm

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nm

Just a suggestion if it was me... - notamom

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Okay, first off I'm not agreeing with any other posters here about OP or WMJ. I'm just making an observation and am saying what I would do if I was in OP's place. I am not a parent so I will never tell a parent how to parent! That being said, I've been in similar situations with friends' kids and always needing help with food, so after the umteenth time of feeding their kids (I never let a kid go hungry) I offered to help them shop, coupon, prepare meals ahead of time, or stock up on supplies and (kid friendly and microwavable)food so that their kid(s) can eat all month. I help them out twice. Not giving in and feeding them each time, that is enabling not helping. After that, I say I'm sorry I have to feed my household first. Here are some phone numbers and info to get help (SNAP card, assistance, etc if applicable) and then that's it. Put a note under his door saying no more free meals for him without paying for your food or bringing food over for him first. Stop giving in and after a while the dad will either get it or move on to someone else. Maybe he really doesn't know how to grocery shop and buy food to last awhile. If he's never been taught that's not his fault. It may sound mean to a parent, and again I'm not a parent so I don't understand, but you can't save everyone. My therapist told me a long time ago you can't keeping helping people that won't help themselves. Just my opinion.

The kid is not starving - xx

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there is food in his house. He just wants better food. By continuing to give in to his rude begging, the OP is being manipulated by the kid and his dad.

She needs to stop feeing the little parasite. If the dad can't count on gullible people to take over his responsibilities, he's going to have to shoulder them himself and take care of his own kid.

The OP is being used, very deliberately, by the kid and his father. If she doesn't want to end up being their doormat forever, she's going to have to stand up for herself and put a stop to the freeloading.

um, didn't the poster you're replying to say just that? - only nicer - NM

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They took me by surprise calling me, since I applied several weeks ago. it's for a nighttime part-time unit clerk position in a nursing home near me. I am so nervous! I tend to be a blithering idiot when I am nervous :) I don't think I have clothes to wear for an interview....sigh. might need to go out and buy something, or at least decent sandals to wear with a skirt. I know nothing really about the job, other than that I am quite sure I can do the requ ...

May 27, 2017
has anyting bad to say about that fellow in the WH whatever his name is but she/he obviously has no life and she/he should up her Prozac because she is obviously a little manic today. Dont even lower yourself to the level of pursuing a conversation with ??. I just post what I want and never come back on and that allows her to rant on and on and I never respond. That is the best way to deal with this person. Throws them off balance. Indifference is the toughest thing ...

Oct 16, 2011
Today I made a double batch of your pumpkin muffins for some neighbors and for the guys at my hubby's work! I frosted them with a cream cheese frosting and they were absolutely amazing. Now I for sure have to walk 5 miles a day this week to walk off all of that deliciousness. Thanks Again. ...

Feb 14, 2017
of course. ...

Sep 21, 2014
Didn't want my reply to get buried below. I have a lifetime of experience with Alaska, western Canada (Alberta, BC), and the Pacific Northwest (WA, OR, ID) - and youth spent in the midwest (MO, KS). There's one thing you definitely need to consider right off the bat that has to do with climate indirectly, and it affects a lot of people very negatively - which is the more extreme differences in daylight hours between summer and winter as you move further north. You don' ...

Mar 22, 2016
A man captured on video kicking and punching an anti-Donald Trump protester at the presidential candidate's rally in Tucson on Saturday is a member of the Air Force. Staff Sgt. Tony Pettway, a response force leader, is assigned to the Davis-Monthan Air Force Base in Tucson and was arrested on Saturday on a misdemeanor charge of assault with injury. He works in security forces. Davis-Monthan said to be looking at the situation and will take the appropriate action. ...

Mar 21, 2016
Hulk Hogan. ...

Dec 17, 2016
An elderly family member recently developed dominant-side paresis due to an inoperable brain mass. She was always healthy and active until this. She now has limited, assisted-only mobility, and arm neglect which hinders use of a walker or wheelchair. Does anyone know of one-handed household/functional activities we can have her do? She hates sitting around and doing nothing. It is heartbreaking to see her so frustrated. Tried having her fold laundry, but it did not go well; we will try again lat ...

Dec 07, 2016
gets one right. Not Fidel this time. ...

Aug 10, 2015
Just read about a woman who was to run the London marathon. The night before she started her period. She thought she could either wear a tampon or go without, to do so because she claims there is "period shaming." She went without. She said also did it for all the women around the world who do not have the products when they have their period and also she thinks some do not talk about it because of shame. I saw a picture of her after the race with her blood soaked pants. I have no idea what othe ...

Oct 04, 2016
The Internet has a lot of information about him as well. God Bless. ...

Nov 02, 2012
You stated, "I'm slowly resigning myself to the possibility that the voting machines (that one of his sons has a financial interest in) will be rigged" from this message: http://general.mtstars.com/324027.html Guess you're bummed out now? It's been debunked by snopes.com. http://www.snopes.com/politics/romney/votingmachines.asp In fact, the voting machines in Ohio are having trouble. http://now.msn.com/voting-machines-switch-romney-votes-to-obama h ...

Mar 19, 2013
It seems to have disappeared. I'm not going to inquire about why it's gone, but I did want to repost my reply regarding associating modern-day Democrats with Byrd and the fact that there was only one person caught making a statement on tape. --Byrd was over 40 years ago. Surely we can't use Robert Byrd and other racist Southern Democrats circa pre-1960s as examples of who modern day Democrats identify with, no more than we could use Lincoln as a modern day R ...

Jun 16, 2013
for a 21 year old making $25000 a year in California will be $144 per month. Get the facts before falling for the lies about ObamaCare. ...

Nov 29, 2014
Leaving aside passages in which he quoted a Chicago pub owner and a letter from a citizen from Georgia, President Barack Obama used the first person singular—including the pronouns “I” and “me” and the adjective “my”—91 times in a speech he delivered in Chicago Tuesday to explain his unilateral action on immigration. But as often as Obama used “I,” “me” and “my” in Chicago this week, it was no match for the ...

Apr 15, 2011
A few facts for you. There are 3 large unions in the U.S.: the AFL-CIO, SEIU, and National Education Association. Do you know what the AFL-CIO initials stand for? The American Federation of Labor and Congress of Industrial Organizations (AFL-CIO) is a voluntary federation of 56 national and international labor unions. They represent 12.2 million members, including 3.2 million members in Working America, its community affiliate. Affiliates of the AFL-CIO are: Airline ...