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Help me before I lose my mind!!! Please!!!

Posted: Apr 1, 2012

Okay, I don't think this will be too long, but I don't know.

I live with my 15-year old son (who has Asperger's Syndrome, but we won't go into that) and my 22-year old daughter, who has 2 children, ages 3 and 10 weeks! My daughter has no car. She just got a job working as a waitress at a restaurant here in town, but as we all know, the money made in that profession really comes from tips, and she is a newbie, and from what she is telling me, they aren't giving her many tables yet. She's been training for a week, and is just now going on her own.

To give a little background, this is not the first time she has been home since she "grew up and out of my house". She came home once before, and it was a very bad situation. I served her an eviction notice, gave her 30 days to move, and she left. When she left, she had a car, and only 1 child at that time. She enrolled in beauty school. She had daycare for my granddaughter, actually right around the corner from my house, so if I ever needed to pick her up it wasn't a big deal. She initialy got an apartment with her best friend. She moved from living with her best friend into another apartment by herself. (She and her best friend were supposed to live together in the new apartment, until they got into an argument and almost came to blows). Shortly after she moved into the new apartment, alone, she lost her car, and could not get to school as a result, and she was almost finished. Then she told me she was pregnant again.

Even though I know we don't get along, I thought about my granddaughter, and told her if she needed to come back home for a while to get back on her feet, she could. She eventually did.

When she came home I figured at least she would have been receiving public assistance, and still have her day care voucher (from DSS) so we could get the baby back in daycare. No, she didn't. She lost the public assistance because she never made her redeterminations, and lost the day care voucher because she wasn't taking the baby to daycare. And mind you, in this city, that daycare voucher is GOLD. And they aren't even accepting applications anymore because the list is so long. So, now she has no way of paying for child care, unless she pays cash, and we all know, she can't afford that, and neither can I.

She has no car, so she is using mine to get to work, but guess who puts gas in it (at $4 a gallon almost). I actually considered financing a 2nd car, so we wouldn't have to share one. But I really don't want to do that.

Anyway, I know this is all scattered and jibberish, but that's where my mind is right now. Scattered! I am supposed to be working now, but I've been wracking my brain trying to figure out how the hell I am going to get some time off to babysit these kids, because working and watching 2 kids is just not possible, the 3-year old isn't too bad, I can atleast get some lines done before she comes in and asks for juice, or wants me to kill a bug, or fix her something to eat, or find spongebob on TV, but the 10-week old, cries and won't be quiet until you pick him up. He is not a baby who will just sit content (actually what baby will, none that I ever encountered anyway, certainly not his mother anyway - lol).

So I am worried because I can't work when I should be working. I am afraid everyday I will get the dreaded e-mail or phone call from my supervisor, Um, why aren't you working???? I am stressed out to the max, because I am afraid I will lose my job. I get short with the children, because I'm stressed. I have big resentments against my daughter, because I feel like I raised mine, what the f**k is wrong with you??? And I love her and my grandchildren, and want them to be okay. She needs my help now, we have no family down here, we have no friends willing to help (they all have jobs! Imagine that!).

I am about to lose my mind. I am on the verge of tears everytime she tells me she has to go to work, and I look at the clock and realize I have to work also, and I know I won't get any done, because as soon as I go near the keyboard the baby will cry, and I'm like, nobody else is paying the bills around here, what if I lose my job, WTF!!!!

Right now I am supposed to be working, and I can work because they are not here, but I can't because I am stressing! All I can do is talk about it to you guys, and hope for some experience and hope, because I am about ready to just go sign myself into some nut farm for some dang rest! And peace! And to be away from everybody and all their problems.

Add to this a very unhealthy relationship, and my son, who like I said has Asperger's Syndrome and is a hand full in hisself.......I just want to run away from home......screaming all the way!!!!

I know God doesn't make mistakes, and we all go through things for a reason, but what is the reason for this? What am I supposed to do, stop babysitting so she has NO CHANCE of ever getting the heck out of my house? Just let the kids fall where they may? Right now, today, her and the kids are my biggest issue, and without that stress, the other stuff would be manageable. Sorry I said this wouldn't be long, but I had no real idea. All I knew was I needed to put finger to keyboard and just let it all go somehow. Not even sure if I said all I need to say, but you probably get the picture. If I rambled I am so sorry. But some encouraging words, maybe even a kick in the a** would be very helpful right now. What can I do? I been looking up FMLA to see if there was a leave I could take - NO. Maybe some public assistance I would be eligible for just to get me through - NO! Why isn't there help for women in my position? I know I can't possibly be the only one. If I had custody, there would be help, but because I am trying to help her kids and HER, nothing!!!! Okay, I think I am done! Gonna go smoke a cigarette, in the bathroom, because that's where I smoke now since we have a newborn in the house (lol), and try to get to this work, while there is work available, and I am able to work. Just so ready to just say screw it all and just give up! That padded room is looking better and better to me all the time. Help please! Thanks for listening!

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Wow - you really do sound stressed - and you really

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need to get a handle on things before they get worse.

All I can do is tell you what I would do in your situation. Since you say your daughter and her kids are the biggest stressors and you could probably handle things otherwise, that is what you have to concentrate on. You are going to have to tell her that you simply CANNOT watch her kids when she is at work. She is 22 and an adult - you are NOT responsible. Yes, I know you can't and don't want to just throw her out, but you HAVE to talk to her and tell her that you cannot work and watch her kids at the same time, you also need some down time and that she will have to figure something out. Not you. Believe me, I know sometimes there seems to be NO solution to a problem, but there always is in some way. If she absolutely cannot find anyone else to watch them, can you at least change your work hours? Then you tell her that she will need to PAY you for babysitting. Whether she pays you in doing housework, out of her paycheck, or whatever, she MUST pay you. Then tell her in order for her to stay, she needs to give you all of her checks until she has saved enough to get her own place, even if it's a small apartment. You say you don't get along with her and not much else about the relationship, but if she is not doing everything she can to take care of her own kids, helping you out at home, and planning on getting out soon, you just may have to do the eviction thing again. And tell her that. And mean it. It's called tough love.

I don't know if this will be of help, but wanted to pass this on - Henrietta Hermit

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You sound so stressed and I'm sorry you are going through this. I don't have kids or have never been in your situation, but what I did was in Google I typed in state assisted daycare and there were a bunch of links. It seems to me that your state might be able to help in getting the kids to a daycare place and with financial assistance. I also typed in DHS state assisted daycare and a lot of other links came up. Without know what state you live in I couldn't put that in but maybe if you typed in California state assisted daycare (or whatever state you are in) you might find a website that you could find some help.

I'm sorry you are going through this. I hope my google search suggestions will help. It's hard when you love people so much but feel helpless to help.

I can tell you are stressed beyond

Where to begin? - Geez

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I don't even know where to begin in giving any advice (except a couple of hopefully helpful hints below). I'm a single mom with a daughter the same age as yours, but they sound like polar opposites.

One thing to remember, first and foremost, is, if you are jeopardizing your residence (too many people not on the lease, the added costs putting you behind in rent/mortgage, etc), she HAS to go. ASAP. If you lose your home, where will she go then when the chips are REALLY down? While I admire your willingness to help her out yet again, at this point, she is indeed an adult under all definitions of the law. If she's on a sinking ship, do your best not to let her pull you under with her. Keeping a roof over your own head has to be your priority, as difficult as that may seem to enforce.

Second of all, it sounds like she's sexually irresponsible. If that were my daughter, I'd be carting her off to the health department toot-sweet to get an IMPLANT. Not pills (which can be forgotten, either intentionally or deliberately) or even an IUD, but an implant to make sure she doesn't conceive again in the foreseeable future. The last thing you need is a third grandchild to try to care for with everything else on your plate if she has another moment of irresponsibility (not to mention the fact if she's on the promiscuous side, the STDs she could be picking up with indiscriminate practices, so I'd stock her up on "gloves" as well, as the implant won't prevent those).

Good luck to you...what's that saying? There but for the grace of God go I?

I'll send positive thoughts your way, my fellow mom. Hang in there and please keep us updated.

I don't envy you - a mom too

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I know as a Mom it is next to impossible to live with youself if you deny your grandchildren. You asked for some help/suggestions. Please let us know what state you live in? You might just find someone that knows about or has been through the same thing, but different states have different rules, so without knowing what is in place in one state might not help you at all.

Reciprocity will reduce your stress sm - flybye

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I'm so sorry you're going through this. I don't know if there's any flexibility in your work schedule (or hers). I would suggest a schedule wherein if YOU care for ALL the kids while SHE works, then SHE cares for ALL the kids while YOU work. Fair is fair. She's taking advantage of you. Agree with other posters here; you need to show Tough Love and take good care of yourself.

I'm so glad you have a daughter who is a polar opposite - BLG

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I wouldn't wish this kind of pain on anyone. I am grateful though, because as bad as my daughter is, there are others who are worse. Kind of screwed up way of thinking about it, but its true. It can always be worse.

Daughter - Friendly MT

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My son was dating a girl that sounds very similar to your daughter. She had a baby, not married, bounced around from jobs and colleges, and moved in and out of apartments. She was very immature. Anytime she got mad, she would quit or move.

When they were dating, she was living with her parents. I know they only took her back in because of the baby, because she really had made them unhappy with her behavior. However, they placed restrictions on her. They would not babysit because they both worked. They did help pay for daycare but that was it. They paid no bills for her. They would not let her use their car, would not pay for school, would not pay for cell phones. They paid for food but discontinued Internet and cable TV at home.

She was absolutely miserable and thought her parents were unfair and mean. She only stayed there because she had no where else to go. In fact, my son broke it off because she was trying to talk him into letting her move in with him. The last I heard she was now working, had a car that her grandparents cosigned on, and had state-aid daycare.

In your situation, you really need to take back the control in your family. You have let your daughter take over. This is your home and your the one that has got to lay down the rules. Take a couple of days to regroup and calm down. Then write down what needs to be done by your daughter in order for her to remain in your home.

This will be hard. You and your son come first, then your grandchildren, then your daughter. You may need to make some tough andgut wrenching decisions in regards to your family and this may cause your daughter to hate you. I know other people who have taken custody of their grandchildren in order to qualify for state assistance and others who have reported their family to DFYS and the grandchildren have gone to foster care.

You are in a tough situation and I hope things will improve. Take car.

Sorry to all for not giving better info. I live in NC - BLG

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I was, and still am to a certain degree, scattered in my thoughts and feelings. I am reading all the replies, and yeah some stung a bit, but I'm gonna keep in front that you are all trying to help and not trying to make me feel worse.

How I'm feeling now is kinda responsible because, hey lets face it, I raised her. Did the best I could, but not all my choices were great ones either. I can't help but think had I beed a better mother, then maybe she would have been able to make better choices. I guess that's another reason I try so hard to help her. I don't know. Anyway, thanks again everybody.

Like I said, the words sting a little, but keep them coming. I believe God sends messages through people.

While I believe in tough love.... - sm

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Never, ever, never could I throw my grandbabies out on the street, NEVER. That is not tough love, that is insane. And BTW, the chips REALLY are down at this point. Are you paying for the raising you did of this girl, maybe so, but that is water under the bridge. Forget it. Thinking like that is not going to do you any good right now.

First and foremost, I would not say that you come first at this point, but 3 children, the 2 grandkids and your son. I am assuming that your income is more than your daughter's, right? YOUR job is what is important. YOU HAVE GOT TO KEEP YOUR JOB. If you don't, then where will all of you be? If this means your daughter has to quit her job, then so be it. She can watch all the kids while you work. You are risking too much to help her this way.

I think it would be better for her to quit working temporarily because this situation simply is not going to work. Yes, you will have to pay to clothe and feed the kids, but at least you can work, and you will not be paying for her gas, and you are at home with the kids with no car. During this time, your daughter should be finding some government assistance immediately! Even with you watching the kids, she cannot come back from no home, no car, no job without some assistance, and it is more than you can handle.

You need to let your daughter totally explore all options available to her. Depending on what she does or does not come up with, ask HER what the plan should be. Tell her to come up with a better solution. If she cannot, then you probably need to broach the subject of you taking temporary custody of the kids so you can get some assistance. As hard as this sounds, and as much as she/you are not going to like it, there is the welfare of the children to think of first and foremost. I do not think you have a lot of time to act. YOU cannot put your job at risk another day. Please explain that to her, because I do not think her tips and you baby-sitting and pay for gas are going to get her and the kids out of your house.

My heart really goes out to all of you. I hope you can work something out, and the sooner the better. I know you do not get along with her, and probably for good reason, but you both have to set aside your differences and think of the children. Talk about it, brain-storm about it. While I do not totally disagree with tough love at when needed, this is not the time.

As for you, do a little meditation. Calm yourself. Eat right, and sleep good. Pray for these children when you go to bed at night, and perhaps that will help you find your way.

P.S. When she is at home, you get out. Do anything, go anywhere. Lastly, have a glass of wine.

One very important thing you did not mention. - Where is the father of the kids?

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Where is the child support? Is it 1 or 2 fathers? That should also be a priority order of business. If the father(s) are not cooperating and paying up, contact DCSE (Division of Child Support Enforcement) in your area. Any amount they can collect is certainly better than nothing or a verbal agreement at this point.

The child support and any government assistance will go a long way toward her buying her own car. Besides telling her that you cannot baby-sit the kids and work at the same time, you need to work out a financial arrangement with her. I agree, let her come up with a plan that works for you all, but do not risk your job. If you lose your job, you can help no one.

That was my thought too... - sm

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Where are these 2 kids' father??? Where is your daughter's father? Where is your son's father? I agree with her quitting her job, taking care of her own baby and looking into assistance for your daughter to get an education in order to move forward. Being a waitress is not going to feed 2 babies now or ever, so it is just her spinning her wheels for a pitance. I think she should speak with the other family or families of the 2 babies to see if they cannot only help financially, but help out with childcare while your daughter is getting an education.

One thing that struck me is it sounds like your son is getting the short end of the stick in this situation. He is your #1 priority and you cannot do that while caring for 2 babies, as they demand all of the attention. I have 3 children, 23, 12 and 13 months, so I know it is a juggling act giving everyone the appropriate attention, but I also have their father right in there with me. I know I could not do it on my own, financially, physically or emotionally.

I think you need to reassess the situation and move in a whole different direction, as no one is making any progress this way. Good luck to you and know you can only do what you can do. Also, demand she get on birth control, not pills, as it sounds like she is not too responsible, but Depo shot, IUD or something that does not require her to remember.

Good morning all - BLG

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To all who have asked, she IS on birth control. I thought I said that before, but I guess I haven't. Mirena, as a matter of fact.

To the question of the fathers, The older grandchild has a good Dad, who lives in another state, and comes to get the child for the summer. I didn't expect much of him, but he has shown me he can be a good father. And his family supports the child as well. Has she asked them for help? I don't know. But I have seen them in the past help her out some.

The youngest child's father, from what I have been told, the relationship was violent, and it also included his family as well. Police and courts got involved. I have, however, on many occasions asked my daughter to tell me where the other grandmother lives, so she will know she has a grandbaby, but she refuses. Not sure why, but that's the deal with that.

I can only say that my daughter has seen my struggles trying to get my "baby daddies" to help out financially, and saw that I ended up doing it all by myself. She is proud of that, and probably wants to do it that way as well. Once she called me a "phenomenal" mother. Her pride may be getting in the way of asking father #2 for any financial help.

When she was younger, she told me she wanted to be a single mom "just like me". And I told her, No baby, that's not something you strive to be, its something you just end of up being. But I have to tell you, it gave me a big swell of pride for her to say that.

Anyway, I wanted to answer the questions that were asked of me. Continue to pray for us. Thanks!

Oh, one more thing... - BLG

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My experience with child support has been, they don't help very much in trying to get dead beat Dads to pay up. My daughter's father was ordered to pay $25 a week, and that's been the order since she was born! Would you believe he is still, to this day, in arrears??? My son's father, his order was to pay me $125 a month. He, too, is in arrears. They move alot, and work under the table when they can, and do whatever they can NOT to pay. And what made it even more frustrating was them wanting me to fill out affidavits to find out how much money I made. If I made a good living, then they didn't raise their support order. I always made more money than they did, so that's why the orders have never changed. And my son's father is famous for moving around alot, and they don't look for him very hard. I finally got tired of the chase, and stopped helping child support find them, because they never did anything when they did. The last straw was a letter from them saying, if I didn't tell them what I knew about their whereabouts, they would close my case. Really? I have never answered a correspondence from them since.

Like I said, my experience with child support is just mine, I know personally women who have gotten quite a bit of help from that process, but not me.

BLG, if I were in your shoes... - sm

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Considering there is the welfare of 3 children involved here, I would fight, chase, provide information, fill out forms, whatever in the world it took to make these fathers responsible for their children. I don't care how many times it took, I would never stop, not even if they were 18 years old, if their father still owed back child support. This is for the children that you claim your daughter can not support, and you don't want to. These children deserve it!!

Again, if I were in your shoes, and I did not get satisfaction with 1 DCSE agent, I would ask for another, and another. I live in the State of Virginia and they do not mess around with dead-beat Dads. You do not even have to go to court. They collect for you, and they issue subpoenas. Of course, you have to provide them information if you know it and their SS# is not enough. Maybe you do not need the child support for your son, but your daughter certainly needs it for her 2 kids. Heck, she is not much more than a kid herself. She does not have to have contact with the father of the baby. People have to want to help themselves, and once that order is in place, DSCE will enforce it no matter how long it takes. He will never get out of paying, even back support, if they have to chase him for years after the child turns 18.

If money is not an issue, and it is only the baby-sitting that is a problem, I don't understand the problem. You have to help your daughter by making her help herself. I don't understand how she can qualify for any government assistance if she does not enforce child support payments. They too are going to wonder whether the father is and why he is not paying. Again, if it is only the baby-sitting, tell her to quit her job and stay home with her kids. She has nothing to lose at this point, you do.

I am not trying to get down on you, but... - sm

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I really am not trying to be negative, but just giving my point of view. Child support is not for you. It is not your choice for your children nor is it the choice of your daughter's for her children. This is money that is for the children. They deserve all support available to them, financially and emotionally, no matter what lengths you have to go to to get it. It was not their choice to be born into less than ideal situations. I would spend more time pursuing at least the financial support avenue for your son and your daughter than I would spinning my wheels trying to get her to a waitress job. I think fufilling that obligation for your children may inspire your daughter to do the same for hers. I really am sorry you guys are going through this and your children and grandchildren are suffering and hope your situation turns around soon so you can enjoy your family rather than them drowning you with worry and grief. Remember, it took 2 people to make all of these kids and it takes 2 to raise them and it is not fair to you that you have had to assume all of the burden of raising them. Get after these deadbeats!!!

This will seem drastic, but what about asking the older - child's dad to take him or her long term for

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I know you don't want to not see your grandchild and don't want to separate her from her mother, but is asking the older child's dad to take him or her long term a possibility? You've said he's a good dad and his family supports him/them. It might give the child some stability and it would give you and your daughter a little bit of an easier time to figure things out.

I know this won't be a popular option, but it is an option.

Drastic - MT

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But logical, and you're right, it could help a great deal. The main thing is doing the best for the children first and foremost. Good suggestion.

Help me - a mom too

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I don't know if NC has this type of program but California has something in their welfare program called non-needy care giver. I know someone here who is getting that aid because she is taking care of her daughter and her daughter's two kids (even though her daughter also gets welfare).

We also have WIC in California that you can get for children under 5 which pays for diapers, formula,fruits and vegetables, milk, cheese.

Check and see if NC has anything like these programs. Every little bit helps.

Good Luck!

Daughters who come home - MT

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What if she were in her own apartment? Wouldn't she qualify for help then? With two kids, I can't imagine her not being able to get some type of help. I'm in NC, too, and this state isn't the best for providing help in these situations. I have a daughter who is a single mom, makes 9 bucks an hour and can't get any type of help. The dad's stepmother only pays his child support (a whopping 180.00/monthly) when he's on the verge of going to jail. He's a nut and can't hold down a job. I live in fear of something happening to her car, as she is a paycheck away from disaster. I don't mean to make this about me, but you're certainly not alone in your situation. You've gotten some good advice from the other posters. Oh yeah, I also suffer from the "if I had been a better mom, things would be different." And it eats at me, too, but I can't change the past, and neither can you. We've just declared Chapter 13 and can't help ours, either, so I know what it's like to want to run screaming down the street hoping someone will take you to the hospital believing you're insane and if things go on like they are, you might just find yourself there.

Just check into every option possible unless you've already done so and sit down with your daughter and lay it out for her. If you lose your job, you're all out on the street. My heart goes out to you and hope things get better for you. You sound like a responsible and caring person, but you can't do it all alone.

Been there, done that - Angie

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I hate you are going through this and I have been trhought the same thing. My stepdaughter is 23 and has a baby that was 1 in November. From 5 months pregnant until the baby was 9 months old, she was with us (again). No job, no nothing, food stamps...nothing else. Long and short, after the baby was born, we offered to keep the baby at night for her to get a job and get on her feet, her dad bought her a car after she got a job and I was taking her back and forth....she would say gonna go for a minute, be gone for hours, had a MY PHONE DIED issue. (yeah right, everytime u leave the house???) Anyway, she lost her job, got a boyfriend and we had to give her the boot, she stayed with him most of the time anyway, but she had to go. She never helped at the house...etc. She did get the implant, no babies for 5 years, but this is her 2nd baby, the first one was taken by DHS 3-4 years ago bc her and the babies dad wouldn't stop doing drugs. I know this is really telling you more about me and not helping you, just saying. You are not the only one. You are doing it for the grandkids as I was, but you have to stop for your sanity. You raised her with enough sense to know right and wrong and she should be able to raise her own kids and stop using them for pity. She burns enough bridges and hits bottom, she will wake up. It is hard, yes. I pray for my granddaughter every night...but I cant' live w her mother and raise her too. Tough love is tough on us all. I will add you and your situation to my prayers!

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Aug 06, 2016
yes, everything. i have no backup income, no savings, no nothing to turn to. no family to go to, nowhere to go, nothing. same as so many other MTs here. this would be a complete and total devastation, and pretty much the end of everything for me. prayers, please, if anyone would be so kind. i am terrified sick. ...

May 14, 2013
Link ...

Jul 09, 2014
Good read, and so true. Link: http://polkncgop.com/2014/07/07/you-start-to-lose-track/ ...

Nov 30, 2014
I am not sure what her problem is. She just likes making people so very sad. She is a sick, sick nonhuman troll who needs help. She loves the drama obviously. ...

Oct 20, 2016
Is there a way to lose belly fat fast. I cannot do any exercises for abdominals or sit ups. I have diastolic heart failure and I know I need to lose weight. Thing of it is what do I eat to help lose the fat. I look like I am nine months pregnant. Gosh, I used to be thin. ...

Sep 07, 2015
and get back in shape? ...

Nov 07, 2015
I've lost all respect for the far right and all that emotional drama. Won't be voting for any of them until they can act like adults. This group can't and won't. Hoping for better in the next election. ...

Apr 13, 2011
I have no political heroes. None! I don't see President Obama as a hero. I don't see him as a villain. I think he's done some things well and others not so well. However, his speech will determine for me whether I will support him or not. There is not one person running on the other side that I would tolerate so far, so I'm sure hoping he doesn't lose me. LOL. How can he lose me? If he caves in to the people who want to take my Medicare and/or social security from me, ...

Aug 23, 2012
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Sep 08, 2013
People in Wash DC having been losing their homes over small property tax debts. ...

Jun 18, 2016
responsible for the return of both the U.S. House and Senate to the democrats. I don't know how any conservative can say he is running a serious campaign. He has almost zero ground game in the swing states he needs to win, more and more republican candidates are distancing themselves from him, and he continues to say stupid things like he really doesn't care. ...

Oct 11, 2014
It's easy, cheap - and usually wrong - to think of political parties (and hence, anything or anyone related to them) in terms of simplistic stereotypes and labels, which are almost always flattering with regard to our own party and insulting when it comes to others. I see people here hurling insults at one another - conservatives are this, liberals are that - based on these caricatures which bear little if any relationship to the truth. The political parties themselves encourage this ...

Dec 02, 2010
Apparently, they cannot even follow a budget in their national party. I wonder if they will ask the Democrats for help? ...

Nov 07, 2012
Of course, if a dysfunctional do-nothing plan continues on the right, they will use their power to continue gridlock as before. ...

Jul 22, 2013
radios worth millions of dollars. Quite a security risk. Who's minding the store? I wonder if Eric knows where they are. I bet he does. Link ...

Jan 28, 2015
The Congressional Budget Office now says ObamaCare will push 10 million off employer-based coverage, a tenfold increase from its initial projection. The "keep your plan" lie just gets bigger and bigger. The latest CBO report is supposed to be a big win for the Obama administration because the projected costs are 20% below what the CBO first projected in 2010. But the CBO report also shows that ObamaCare will be far more disruptive to the employer-based insurance market, while being far less ef ...

Nov 09, 2016
What will that do to the health care industry and our jobs? ...

Apr 17, 2012
WASHINGTON -- Women who stay at home to raise their children should be given federal assistance for child care so that they can enter the job market and "have the dignity of work," Mitt Romney said in January, undercutting the sense of extreme umbrage he showed when Democratic strategist Hilary Rosen quipped last week that Ann Romney had not "worked a day in her life." The remark, made to a Manchester, N.H., audience, was unearthed by MSNBC's "Up w/Chris Hayes," and will air during the ...

Sep 20, 2012
Why isn't the media telling this little story? Probably because it will reveal just how bad this economy is and the Bamster will look bad. ...

Nov 18, 2014
On Nov. 7, the Supreme Court said it would entertain the latest legal assault on President Obama’s health-reform program. Leading liberal analysts worry—reasonably—that the justices will cripple Obamacare. Unfortunately, these defenders of the program are making their case by preemptively accusing right-leaning members of the high court of bad faith and rank partisanship. Paul Krugman of Princeton and the New York Times has has called the argument that a sy ...