Advice needed, please!!!

Posted: Jun 19, 2013

My daughter (I'll call her Jane) is entering the 3rd grade.  We moved here at the beginning of the last school year and one of the first girls that she got to know (I'll call her Sue) seemed okay to me at first.  Sue invited Jane over to her house almost right away.  I was happy she was already making new friends, so I said sure.  I got her over there and the house was in pretty bad disrepair, there were animals everywhere, and it smelled, but I talked to both of the parents and they seemed nice, so I grudgingly left her there.  I didn't really want her going back over there (they did invite her, but I made an excuse), so I thought I'd invite Sue over to our house.  I will not go into detail, but suffice it to say that it took me 3 hours of cleaning after she went home to get my house back to normal (85% of the mess was made by Sue).  Not only that, but she did not listen to me, she was disrespectful to me, our home, and our rules.  She even told me that if her mom had made her eggs in the morning she would have put cheese on them because "that's the good way to make them."  Anyway, I thought, well, that's the end of that and thought that I would just brush her mom off the next couple of times she contacted me and she would get the hint.  Nooooo sir.  She has called at least 35 times in the last few months.  I don't answer because I don't know what to say.  When she does leave a message, she is inviting her child to spend the night at my house!  I started off making excuses that we were busy, etc., but now I just don't answer the phone at all.  I ran into them tonight at a school function and she again stood by as her daughter invited herself over.  What in the world should I do?  I don't want to make her too mad as the kids go to the same school.  Thanks for any help.;