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5th graders "dating"???? sm

Posted: Dec 1, 2009

I just came from a little lunch with a couple of my friends. We are friends because our kids go to school together (5th grade). I like them, but not enought to become "Best" friends.

Anyway, they are talking about how their boys have "girlfriends", where they go to the movies together (of course with a parent/parents there with them), and go to each other's houses and play and so on. I think it's too young to be thinking about having boyfriends/girlfriends. My son doesn't talk about girls, liking girls. He is a very shy kid too. Now I'm 38 and I don't feel like I'm that old, but for these kids to be worrying about having boyfriends and girlfriends, I just think there's too much pressure (I guess) for kids these days to have g'friends/b'friends.

I don't know, maybe I'm wrong.

;

Interesting - justme

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I'm with you that I think it's too young. I suppose to each his own, but I don't see myself allowing anything beyond meeting at the school dance at that. I think group dates and chaperoned dates would be more appropriate in the junior high years, even then, I might question if it's still too young. We have the 16-year-old rule here. :)

I've heard of kids having boyfriends and girlfriends at this age, but it only amounts to sitting at lunch together and that's about it...maybe passing notes.

A friend of mine's 4th grader asked a girl out to the dance. Her parents said nope. But it was cute. :)

Ugh...this irritates - me

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My sister is almost insistent that her 8 YOS have a "girlfriend..." It drives me insane! She encourages them to go on dates, hang out together at their homes, etc. At Thanksgiving, my nephew told my husband that he "has to have a girlfriend!" My son is in the 5th grade and has no interest in having a girlfriend at the moment...and I'm perfectly fine with that!

Dating so young - Vikefan

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We had the 16 year rule at my house too growing up but I was allowed to go see "ET" at the theater with a guy when I was just shy of 16. It was an afternoon date and I was home pretty early.

I remember thinking boys were cute in the 1st and 2nd grades but wasn't serious about any of them until junior high. In middle school (grades 5-7 for us), we called it "going together" when you had a boyfriend or girlfriend.

I'm in with the group that says they do it early enough as it is. Don't we type enough reports of girls who are having their 2nd and 3rd babies by the time they're 16 or 18? Heck, I graduated back in 1985 and even back then, it was a shame to become pregnant in high school. You got shipped off to "take care of Aunt Vera" or whatever. Now a lot of girls brag about it, saying they "just want someone to love". *Sigh*

It starts before 5th grade... - Stella-JRG

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I know it doesn't mean anything, but it makes my skin crawl when I hear an adult ask a preschooler who their boyfriend/girlfriend is, and I've heard them ask. Really? Doesn't this stuff happen soon enough as it is?

I have 2 kids in serious relationships at ages 22 and 20 and a son who is a senior in high school who has had 1 girlfriend since being in high school, so BTDT with the whole dating thing. And YES, it does start soon enough. No need to encourage it.

I have 6th, 4th and 1st graders - sm - momMT

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All boys and they all talk about girlfriends. I'm 35 and I can remember as far as back as 2nd grade having "boyfriends". The whole point of having a boy/girlfriend at this age is to be the first one to break up. My son has a friend of the female species, who is "in love" with him, but he just likes her as a friend. They play together at each other's house (always supervised) and have even gone to the movies or out to dinner with her parents or us.

I've talked with my son (the 6th grader) about sex and he's clearly embarrassed, but he is curious. Anyone who thinks their kid is too shy or isn't "into" that yet, think again. Kids at this age are naturally curious. Just because they don't want to talk about it with you doesn't mean they're not talking about it with their friends.

Just the other week, my 6th grader asked me what a condom is. He said one of his friends told him that it's what a girl puts on to keep from getting pregnant when having sex and that you can get them in the bathroom at the convenience store for 75 cents. I told my son how it really worked and that the next time he wants to know something to ask me if he wants the correct answer.

My 3rd grader - Silly Girl

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I have an almost 9 year old. Him and a little girl the next street over have "been together" since they were 4. They met in preschool and informed me they got married because they kissed on the playground. They said they were going to get married in real life too and my son at age 5 told me he'd have to come home now and then for me to fix him a peanut butter sandwich because he wouldn't be able to have any once they got married (she is allergic to nuts). There was no encouraging from either's parents. As the years have gone on, they are very adament about letting people know they are best friends, not girlfriend/boyfriend. They go to each other's games/recitals and even family events. They think nothing about it. They have their bouts where they get into an argument and don't talk for a while and then next thing I know, they are hanging out again. I have no doubt that they will be in each other's lives for a very long time but in no way do I encourage bf/gf! I actually thinking their preschool teachers encouraged it since I'd pick him up and they were quick to tell me what a cute couple they were, etc.

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