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Did anyone have wedding disasters?

Posted: Nov 5, 2009

My daughter is getting married in a week. The wedding is not in our home state so she is flying out late Thursday night (tonight). She picked up her dress on Tuesday night from the alterations, and they have ruined her dress. Don't know how they did it but from the waist down the fabric hangs crooked so that a seam that used to be hidden in a fold now is total exposed and runs the full length of the skirt righ through the middle of the dress but on angle so that it crosses from here waist on her left side to her opposite ankle. I don't know what to do as there is no time to have anything else done to it. We will be trying to steam it into a new fold and hide as much as we can, but unfortunately, her dress will not be the perfect dress she was so in love with. What a disappointment for her. Anyway, I keep telling her every wedding has a glitch of some sort and that I think people will be looking at her beautiful face and not even noticing this one seam, that of course it looks worse to her because she knows it's there while someone else won't. I am just kind of curious if anybody else out that had a similar experience or some other "wedding day" disaster and how you dealt with it. Thanks.

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no one will notice but her...sm - flybye

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oh my, how frustrating for her! but i bet she'll be the only one who ever notices; if someone does, so what?!

i wore a billowing full-length designer dress with layers and layers of netting, stays, and petticoats underneath to support the design. i also wore tall heels, and at the reception i proceeded to take a misstep and tear through all those beautiful layers while breaking my heel. i had to rip out all the under layers and take off my shoes for the rest of the reception...i was nonplussed and kept going...i bet no one remembers....

my daughter wore a gown she designed herself and married in an antique church; we had a crew cleaning the steps to the church entry right up until just before the ceremony to make sure there was no trash or gum. after the ceremony as we formed the reception line, she motioned to me for help; her shoe was stuck to her gown...and the gown was matted together by CHEWING GUM someone had just dropped on the way into the church... we grabbed some ice from the bar and removed as much as we could...hardly missed a beat!

everything will be fine...whatever happens...congratulations mother of the bride...may the days be memorable for you all!

I'm sure she is upset. - sm

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I would have been upset at that point in my life, too. But, now 25 years after the wedding day, all of the things that went wrong on the day I was married seem like nothing. One day, your daughter's dress issues will fade away, too.

I wore my mother's dress, which she wore in 1954. My mother was beside herself, and I mean that in a bad way. She hated that I wore her dress, and for months ranted about how people would think I was too poor to afford my own dress. Well, that was very true! I couldn't afford my own dress, and my mom had no money to give toward the wedding, either. She also hated our wedding cake, which was one of those mid 1980s designs with the big rolls of white chocolate all over it. Her words, "It looks like someone dropped it from a helicopter." It was delicious! But, I certainly could have done without the stress of my mother's criticism for months on end.

Let's see... what else happened? Oh, yep! One of our groomsman was driving our brand new car. He was rear-ended by my brother-in-law, who was following behind a little too closely. The back of the new car was smashed. It was January, and when I walked out of the church I hit a patch of ice and went right down on my keester and tore the back of the dress a bit and got it dirty. And finally, there was our honeymoon. My husband had a client who was a travel agent, and he arranged for a deep discount on a nice trip to Cancun. Back in 1985, Cancun was fairly quiet. It was especially quiet for me, because I ended up with the flu the day we left for the trip, which was 2 days after our wedding. It was real flu, and I was a mess for the entire trip and stayed in the hotel room nearly the entire time. My husband sat on the beach by himself. When I returned home, I was still sick and went to the ER. ER docs really go crazy when you are sick and have just been to a foreign country! That was no fun, either.

It wasn't really funny at the time, but my husband and I laugh about it all now. The point is, the marriage has endured, and all those things that seemed like catastrophes back in 1985 are no big deal today. Of course, that won't make your daughter feel better about her dress today. She'll have some disappointment, but she'll get over it. I bet that even as soon as the I do's are said, she'll have a different perspective. Have fun at the wedding and be happy. Your attitude will help her to deal with her disappointment over the dress.

Oh, and I would be all over the folks who did the alterations, if I were you. It certainly wouldn't hurt to get some money back from them!

and my mom had no money to give toward the wedding, either? - Snow Bunny

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That ranks right up there with "my parents should buy me a car and pay for my college education."

Two thumbs down!

I think she meant - sm

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that her mother was being so critical with regards to her dress but wasn't going to do anything to help get it up to her standards, not that she expected her to. Draw in the claws.

I know what my mother would have done - L

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She, rest her soul, was so inventive. She probably would take either lace, some kind of sparkly rickrack and sew it along the exposed seam. She would have it so no one would be in the know. Heck, I think I would even be able to come up with an idea such as this. You could get some nice ribbon, lace or what have you and bling the dress up. That would take away from the seam and no one would know.

Wedding disasters - Anonymous

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Every wedding in my family has had a disaster. Now we can laugh about it but they do happen and what it comes down to is you can't miss the importance of the day with details that only you will notice. Good luck with everything. My maid of honor was sick with Strep. and didn't tell me until the rehearsal she couldn't participate. My SIL reluctantly took over at my MIL's insistence and we were gown shopping 10 minutes before the rehearsal. My dad had a heart attack and my mom broke her foot the day before my first son's wedding. At my second son's wedding, had my hair and makeup done and locked myself out of my car at the hairdresser as the groomsmen guys showed up at the house. My son wanted to kill me. I have a million other stories like it with family members. Just have fun! Good luck!

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