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Update RE: Favoritism in a Small town.

Posted: Sep 26, 2011

Well, after I blew off steam here. I decided to keep my mouth shut. No telling anyone off or mouthing off in the stands. I had very nicely asked the coach if there was anything my DD needed to work on to be able to be a flyer and I decided to just leave it at that. I decided that I would alienate my daughter more by running my mouth and I decided nothing would change anyway. So I threw up my hands in futility and swallowed my anger which was EXTREMELY difficult!

Fast forward to the past Saturday, my daughter was a flyer. She got to do several stunts. Yay! She was so excited. So I decided that I should thank the coach for letting her do the stunts and I did. I told her it meant a lot to my daughter and I appreciated it and that I also appreciated the hard work she and the other coach have put into the squad. The coach then told me what a great attitude my daughter has and she is a joy to have on the squad, willing to help and compromise when necessary. So then I felt good and bad all at the same time. Good because I've raised such a good girl and bad because my daughter is a better person than I'll ever be and I don't deserve her!

So I just wanted to thank everyone who responded to my original post, even the ones I argued with. Even though I was righteous in my anger and frustration, the situation would have only been made worse for my daughter had I acted on my anger and frustration. In the end my daughter succeeded where I would have failed her.

Lesson learned!

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Sour Taste - Silly Girl

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Sometimes the worst thing we have to swallow is our pride. I'm proud of you - and yes, she does deserve you!

Good For You! - BeenThereDoneThat

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My hat if off to you because you have done something really difficult. Change is tough, but you did it. Accepting a situation gracefully is not backing down or being weak or giving in. It is seeing the reality of life and choosing how you will respond in a way that displays your integrity as a person and showing your kids how a mature person acts. Your kids will thank you for it.

MADme - BTDT2

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I know it was very hard for you to just let it go. We don't always agree with the choices that the coaches make. I know that firsthand. I had a lower level coach come back to me a couple of years after my daughter had her (one that didn't play my daughter very much, but her later coaches did and she became a great player) and tell me how proud she was of my daughter. I was beyond stunned. Stay on the course you are, even though some days are going to be easier than others. It sounds like your daughter is on the right track. :)

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