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I want a divorce from my husband but am so scared regarding finances that it's preventing me from doing it. We've been married 18 years, 2 teenage children, nice home. He makes good money and carries the health insurance. I've been doing this for 10+ years. He is a drinker and I think he is an alcoholic. He's never been physically violent with us, but he does scream and bitch about whatever pops into his drunken mind, and just randomly comes up with garbage to yell about. He does not talk about anything that might be bothering him when sober, but when he drinks that's when he brings everything up and that's when he decides he should try to get involved with the kids. It's like he keeps everything bottled up and then if he's really stressed at work and drinking, anything/everything that he might be irritated about at home all comes out, but because he's drunk it just seems random and off the wall. I am basically always home, working and just being a mom/wife. The only time I do anything is 99% of the time with him, and that has become quite rare because I can't deal with his drinking. He is like a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. He's a decent guy when sober, but does such stupid crap when he's drunk. He's embarrassing and I am ashamed of what he does. It makes me nauseous when he comes home drunk, my anxiety builds up and up, and my heart starts racing because I just don't know what he's going to start in on. The kids are sick of seeing it and dealing with it, and I know this because they have told me. In a drunken rampage, he threatened to just leave us and never come back...I told him, please do because we're all sick of the drunken BS. I've talked to him sober and told him I think he is an alcoholic and needs to stop drinking, but like any addict, he doesn't see any problem and has no intention whatsoever of giving up his alcohol (mostly beer). He seems to think that if we got divorced, I would get nothing from him and he would just be rid of me. With the MT job situation being the way it is, I'm so afraid that in the future I will be out of a job and not have enough money to support myself or my kids. I'm having trouble concentrating on work because all I think about is how badly I want out of this situation and wish I could just pack up and leave with the kids. I've considered counseling, but the only way anything is going to change is if he quits drinking and he will not do that. I have a couple friends that I talk to about this; one has been through a divorce with kids and says it is horrible ordeal and that I really need to think about it. Well, I've been thinking for years and I just keep coming to the same conclusion, I want out but am extremely scared of losing the financial stability.
Anyone that may have been in this situation, any advice/support/input would be greatly appreciated.
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