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Okay . . I admit it. I have tried everything and it's not working. Here goes:
My friend and I have known each other since kindergarten, literally. We get along great and support one another during tough times. I value her friendship more than I can say. Like most friendships, however, there are downfalls. Here's ours:
For the past several years almost every time we are out (or at least it seems that way) whenever we are shopping and she sees anything with a cat on it, (greeting card, collectible, etc.) I have to hear her nasty tone of voice about how she hates cats. She knows I am an animal lover, and that nothing in the world is more important to me. I have told her before that it hurts me, and yet she deliberately points it out. Today it happened again. We were lookling at the little tins for Christmas that hold gift cards. They had several kinds. She picked up one with three Christmas stockings on it, and a little kitten in each stocking. She got nasty and threw it down saying, "Well, I CERTAINLY don't want anything with a CAT on it!" She gets downright nasty, and many times makes a point of saying how she hates them. Our local shelter now has over 500 cats waiting for adoption. She knows this is where my heart is. I have approached her so many times about this, and today did the same. My family (nieces and sister) have beautiful cats that are loved and cherished by all of us.
I guess my point is this: Why make a point of telling me time after time how she hates them when she knows how it hurts me. Two years ago she lost her beloved Golden Retriever, and still cries for her. I completely identify with that. I cried for two years when my Scottie, Maggie died. How would she feel if I constantly bashed the Golden to her (which obviously I would not do) time and time again and told her how I hated them. Why would a friend keep doing something that she knows hurts me?
Can anyone offer any suggestions as how to handle this? I literally cringe when we are looking at anything anymore, because I know what will happen. It ruins every shopping trip for me.
This summer I purchased an A.S.P.C.A. license plate frame with their motto: "We are their voice." She saw it and told me that she just HAS to have one. So far she has not purchased one, and I don't think she has the right to display it. She does not stand for what the A.S.P.C.A. represents. They are not selective when it comes to saving the lives of animals. Each one is special and precious.
Sorry this is so long, but I have heard her nasty remarks for too long on this subject. She could simply put the item down and look through the rest which are more to her liking. I don't give a hoot if she likes cats or not . . . If that's her mentally she can have it. I am just tired of her deliberately making a point of it to me.
Thank for any advice you can offer.
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