Looking for diabetes friendly Thanksgiving side dish

minimize holiday carb overload.  I was diagnosed with early type 2 at the end of July and so far have lost 35 pounds from my top weight which puts me at about the halfway mark toward end goal.  I count and record nutritional info (calories, fat, carbs, fiber, salt, cholesterol, sodium, sugars and protein) for every single bite I take and have adopted the snack-and-graze approach to balanced meal planning.  So far, this has helped stabilize the blood glucose and allowed the weight loss to happen, despite the relative absence of an exercise regimen, which I will incorporate after I have my next MD's appt. My goal for the day is not to gain more than 1 pound (!)   

This will be my first holiday challenge.  Luckily, I will only be sharing the meal with my husband and son who are not diabetic.  I do plan to cook turkey and dressing and will be practicing the small-portion grazing technique that day.  Dressing will be somewht traditional (straight cornbread, no biscuits or bread) with an effort to cut back on the fat content and sodium-loaded soup cans, but even a 1/2 cup serving will still put the carb count above what I typically take at one meal.  Sweet potatoes, though fiber and nutrient rich, will be absent in deference to my husband's and son's love affair with stuffing.  

I need ideas on vegetable sides and desserts, including any tips on viable and palatable fat substitutions I can use in recipes.  I am especially interested in dips, sauces or oils that I can use on raw or cooked vegetables that enhance flavor without loading up on megadoses of butter.  I'm personally fond of green beans and brussel sprouts, but am wide open to other suggestions.  I am leaning toward a crustless pie/pudding dessert that will allow me to sneak dairy in at the end and can be set in portion controlled containers.  I don't have any ramekins, so will be doing something that is no-bake. 

Any ideas?