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Would you date a man 12 yrs younger than you? sm

Posted: Apr 19, 2010

I am 42 and recently divorced. I have dated some since my separation but am not currently in any relationship at all. I met a guy over the weekend who is 30. We talked for a while and he asked for my number. I gave it to him... He has been calling and asking me out. He is very nice. Has never been married, no children. But he does work hard and owns his own home. He is really polite and friendly and nice. I have agreed to meet him out this evening and talk. I am interested in going out with him but I have never gone out with anyone that much younger than me. Any viewpoints are welcome! ;)

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My sister and her her husband are 16 years apart - and theyve been together over 25 years

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It all depends on the people. If you like the guy and have a great time together who cares about the age difference if its not a problem for you or him.

Age is all in the mind.

Why not? If it looks like it's getting serious... - mrs.krabs

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have him checked out; i.e. credit history, public records, etc. Does he want kids? Do you? Hopefully he is a mature 30 year old. Got a dog? They can be good judges of character believe it or not. One of our German shepherds who loves everybody can sense a shady person and avoids or barks at that person. No kidding!

I have a friend who was in that situation - sm

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My friend had the same question when she first met him. They got along great, but she was a little concerned about the age difference.

I told her, if nothing else, to go ahead and go out with him. They enjoyed their time together and got along great with each other and, if nothing else, good friends are sometimes hard to come by. Nothing says it HAS to be romantic.

So, long story short...they are now very happily married. Love knows no limits, including an age difference.

When I was divorced, I dated a guy 10 years - SM

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younger than me for about 6 months. Nothing wrong with it at all. Neither one of us was really serious, but we had a good time hanging out. Go for it.

If I was single, heck yes! - nm - 42, too

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nm

If you don't want him, I'll take him (and I'm 46!) - Happy MT Robin

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At this stage in life, age is nothing but a number. It's all about how you feel inside. Yes, there may be some things that you remember clearly that he just gives you a blank look for, but that can be part of the fun.

Go for it. Good men (or potentially good men) like that are extremely hard to find nowadays. Don't censor yourself ahead of time. Just go with the flow and enjoy it while it lasts.

Have fun!

Married one 15 years younger and could not be happier! - Age is just a number

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If you fulfill him and he fulfills you and there's good mutual common ground, age is irrelevant. I've been with my husband 3 years, and it's been the most emotionally satisfying relationship I've EVER experienced, plus he came baggage/drama free to boot.

If he's the one, he's the one, no ifs, ands or buts...GO FOR IT.

Well we went out sm - Considering it

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And he was so easy to talk to, could totally be myself, and he is very mature for his age ;). It turns out he is 32, not 30. So only 10 years younger. I actually really like him and he wants to go out again. Thanks for the opinions :)

You go, girl!!! - HappyOlderWoman

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I'm so glad you went into it with an open mind and were receptive.

Age...nothing but a silly number.

Enjoy it :-)

not so silly, it depends on looks and health - ?

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nm

be careful, though, easy to talk to? Smoothtalker? - hmm hmm

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nm

you were already head over heels before you met him - apply the breaks

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nm

Actually I met him this past Friday (sm) - Considering it

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I was out with a group of friends and I saw him looking like he wanted to talk to me so I left and went across the room to avoid talking to him. When I turned around on the other side of the room, he was there waiting to talk to me again. So I decided to be polite and talk... and decided I liked him well enough to at least go out once and see what we both thought. But I think I am a little overzealous now. I am 42 and not afraid to flirt... feeling like flirting too much for the level that we know each other. So I'm trying to keep my mouth shut for now ;)

I think you should go along, but be careful - dating

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and let him lead, especially in the beginning, until you know him better and have a hint what he is up to. Good luck!

I sure would! I love those younger guys! ;) (nm) - Cougar

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nm

Younger men - Marly

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Yep! Go for it. I'm a widow just recently getting into online dating. Good men are hard to find. If this guy is genuine, 12 years is just a number. However, my late husband was 12 years OLDER than me, and he did age fast when he got sick. But who wouldn't?

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