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I just don't understand how my husband can favor his 7-year-old son from a previous relationship over our new daughter. She is 4 months old and the only child he seems to be concerned about is his son. His son is here Thursdays-Sundays and when he is here, he pays no attention to our baby. Right now, she is not noticing this I guess because she is so young but I am afraid as she gets older, she will begin to pick up on this and that just breaks my heart. So many little things my husband does makes me so mad. For example, I don't have a car, so when she has a doctor's appointment I have to depend on someone to carry me. My mom always has to end up doing it because he will never carry her. But if his son needs something, then he will break his neck to get to him. He'll say they can just fire me at work.....I am going to get my boy. She had an appointment today and I had to cancel it because my mom's car is in the shop and my husband would not carry her. He also talks about all the things he wants to do for his son and buy for him and he never once says I want to get this for our daughter. I am the one who does everything for her. When he comes home from work, he plays video games and doesn't spend any time with her. He never feeds her, changes her, holds her...not unless I ask him to and then I have to practically beg. he has never once gotten up at night and tended to her. But if his son gets up at night and says he had a bad dream, oh then my husband acts like the world is going to end. I just need to vent. it is not fair. And I just tell myself that when she gets older and hardly has anything to do with him, then it will be his fault.....but it will be her hurting, not him. My mother-in-law acts the same way. They act like his son is just more special for some reason. Just because he has to go back and forth between his mom and dad does not mean that he deserves more attention than our baby. And his son knows how to work everybody too and use his parents being split to his advantage. He'll say mommy doesn't buy me toys and things like that so my husband will go out and buy him all kinds of stuff so that he will be the favorite parent...but that is a whole other can of worms. Ugh, I am just so mad right now, I can't even type right. Have any of you ever dealt with a situation like this? I don't know what to do. I can't talk to him about it because then he will turn it around on me and say that I don't do anything for his son, but I tried to at the beginning...his son just does not like me. At Christmas, I got mad at my hubby because the only child he was concerned about doing anything for was his son and when I asked about our daughter, he got livid at me. Anyways...needed to vent.
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