Generally Speaking Update

Just wanted to let you know that I asked the question below (Would you be comfortable with another woman discussing her marital problems with your husband) because I actually had the unfortunate experience.  A mom on our son's ball team started complaining about her husband to my husband (he coaches).  My husband told me about it as soon as it started, but we really didn't think much of it.  As the season progressed, her complaints progressed and the flirting started.  My husband is naturally flirtatious, so I could see a problem coming.  My husband told me everything she said about her husband as the conversations occurred and I warned him that she might think their friendship could lead to something more.  Then last week he came home from practice and told me he thought I might be right.  He said she initiated a conversation that made him feel uncomfortable.  I asked if he told her that and he said no, that he just had to go.  Here's how the conversation went:

At the previous practice, my son was hanging out with a couple of the other players and their moms (who knows where their dads are) and my husband went up to get our son and the moms were talking about their ex's and their current spouses' ex's.  They asked my husband about ours and he said we didn't have any ex's.  He then went on to JOKE that he looked into divorce but it's cheaper to keep me.  My husband jokes around a lot and most people know that.  Unfortunately, this woman with the husband problems was there when he said it.  Nothing was said at that point and he took our son and came home.

Then at the next practice, this woman comes up to my husband and says she "has a bone to pick about his earlier comment".  My husband had no clue what she was talking about (this was about 2 or 3 days later).  She flirted around with him saying "think about it".  At the end of the practice, she came back up and asked if he had thought about it and he said no and asked what she was talking about.  She said about divorcing your wife and he said that was just a joke.  Then she went on to ask if we were having problems.  He said no -- none (which was true at that point) and then she kind of stammered around and started complaining about her husband and asking if my husband noticed that they weren't standing together at the games, etc.  My husband said no he didn't notice and that he had to go. 

My husband does not like confrontation.  As he was telling me all this, when he got to the part about her coming back the next day to reopen the discussion, the red flags went up.  We discussed it completely that night and he said he honestly didn't realize she was coming on to him.  I told him he would confront her and tell her to stop and I would tell her the same when I saw her.

Turns out I saw her the next day.  I asked if I could speak to her a moment in private and very calmly said "I don't think it's appropriate for you to discuss your marital problems with my husband.  I want it to stop."  She immediately denied it and said they were just friends.  I repeated my request and then she got defensive, saying my husband tells her she's hot (she's not).  I laughed then saying that my husband tells the 80-year-old lady at the bank she's hot.  Seriously, he does.  The older or uglier someone is, the more likely my husband is to flirt with them because they're easy targets.  Then she got mad and said my husband discusses our marital problems with her -- LIE.  My husband and I are best friends.  We have the normal spats, but I'm not blind.  The only problem we had prior to this was our working hours (he's days and I'm nights, but we have weekends together).  I then told her I would ask HER husband how he felt about their "talks" and walked away.  She yelled after me to come back but I kept going.  I had a feeling I would knock her lights out if I stood there another minute.

I immediately called my husband and told him about our confrontation and he said he does not think she's hot, although he admitted he jokes about it (which I knew) and that he most certainly did not discuss our marriage with her.  He went to the game that night and after the game (I was working), he told her he wanted to speak with her.  She brought her husband (who didn't really have a clue what was going on) and my husband told them that he wanted to apologize for any misread intentions.  The woman insisted everything was done in a joking manner and she wouldn't let my husband tell any of the details of the conversation in front of her husband.  She said that I overreacted and made a scene.  She also asked my husband why he would tell me about their conversations and my husband said b/c he has nothing to hide.  Apparently, she did.  Her husband looked surprised (according to my husband) as parts of the story above came out.  She then said that she didn't think they could continue their friendship and my husband said "the feeling's mutual" and that she wasn't worth losing his wife over.

In the end, I think I did the right thing by confronting her.  I'm the type of person who needs to get something off my chest.  I wanted her to know that I knew what was going on and that I wasn't going to stand for it.  I don't think my husband was innocent in all of this but I don't believe his intentions were bad.  I love my husband enough to forgive him of this and have cautioned him on future situations.  I told him no more flirting with anyone other than me.  I also told him no female friendships of any kind.  I have never had any male friendships, either.  At first, I felt guilty laying down these rules, but after reading the posts yesterday, I think I did the right thing.  I know that if he wants to be with someone else, he will be, but I honestly believe he didn't realize what was going on until the "uncomfortable conversation". 

Thanks for the posts below.  I needed the validation.