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I wonder how many of you out there have had a spouse go through what I can only describe as a middle aged crazy. My husband of 23 years has been a motorcycle enthusiast for many years, but recently decided to join a "patched club" and is now the vice president. This has been for a couple of years now and quite frankly, I don't like it at all. I don't like the way they all have stupid nicknames, that their club business cannot be discussed with the "women" and that at the drop of a hat he will take off to deal with "club business."
I have told him that I won't go to his gatherings when they have "family time" or to anything that has to do with the club. He says that he doesn't understand because all his guys are "business professionals" just like he is, they just made the choice to become a club of riders and join the local coalition of clubs.
This club has priority over all his actions now! Examples: Christmas has always been about our families, but this past couple of holidays, he has opted to go to the club party first, then make what I call a "cameo appearance" at the family houses. This new year we had initially planned a party at our house, but when his president decided just a couple of days ago that he was going to have a club party, our plans got scrapped. We are fighting again, because he wants me to go since "everyone is going and taking their families" but I want nothing to do with them. I wanted to try and close the gap a couple of times, but I don't fit in with these people and I'm a more (hmm, the words escape me so I hope it comes over like I want it to) educated, professional, not a doormat kind of woman... I find it laughable that they wear vests that say things like "old lady" or "lady rider" or "so and so's old lady", like they need to recognized as a piece of property. I wore leather, in the 80s, when it was fashionable.
We can't agree on anything in this regard. I'm feeling really tired and like I'm fighting a losing battle and that a giant rift has formed that may not close.
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